posted January 09, 2013 03:27 PM            

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Originally posted by sweet-scorpion:
I don't think it's crazy. It's just taking from experiences and using them to shape your future.

The one thing to watch out for is to always try to have an open mind. For example, I've had bad past experiences with Leos, but if I meet another Leo who really seems different, I won't completely write him off. It's tempting to 'blacklist' certain signs that have given me bad past experiences but you never know... right?

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Hi SS, could you explain - are you wary of Leos because they don't mesh with you or is there something about Leos itself that you don't like.

posted January 09, 2013 03:37 PM            

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Originally posted by sweet-scorpion:
I don't think it's crazy. It's just taking from experiences and using them to shape your future.

The one thing to watch out for is to always try to have an open mind. For example, I've had bad past experiences with Leos, but if I meet another Leo who really seems different, I won't completely write him off. It's tempting to 'blacklist' certain signs that have given me bad past experiences but you never know... right?

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^ this~ (well, majority of my bad experiences were with aquarian men...lol)

As long as you are giving everyone the chance to be your friend, or a clean slate, or maybe just giving a stranger the benefit of the doubt... that kinda thing... everyone's bound to have a preference in some area, it doesn't necessarily mean you're discriminating... I guess it's all in how you look at things! ^^;

I can't not think to react immediately when hearing someone's sun is in Cancer without wanting to respond warmly, almost inappropriately at times! (I want to hug all cancers, quirkiness of having 11h Cancer, and an immediate appreciation for lunar folk).... And, likewise I can't help the odd, nervous twitch reaction upon hearing they're Scorpions, or Aquarians... lol that's just my knee-jerk response, of course! I still want to meet those people halfway though!!! Then, I'll judge them only once I see their full character... not just their chart...

posted January 09, 2013 07:34 PM            

As for myself, I’ve noticed that I do have certain preferences romantically… And I believe these show in my chart. I don’t ‘blacklist’ other signs though, and I am open to anybody for friendship. Rather then avoiding certain signs, it’s more like I have a sort of favoritism. I like what I like but that doesn’t mean anything bad about anybody else. Different people have different taste.

I a Capricorn with Sag rising and Moon in Cancer.

What I have noticed is that I’m massively attracted to Fire signs. Particularly Aries and Sagittarius, although I like Leo in certain ways as well. Fire sign Sun, Moon, Mercury, Mars, and sometimes Venus or Jupiter, people easily catch my attention. Actually, I just love Fire energy strong in a person’s chart in general. I also like a dash of Water or Air somewhere in the person’s chart…

Cancer and Scorpio Moons are cute to me (They‘re like sensitive little babies that need love), and I also can quite enjoy Venus or Jupiter in Water signs. Probably thanks to my Cancer Moon in the 8th house.

When it comes to Air signs, I like pretty much any planet in Air signs nicely mixed in with a Fire dominant chart and a bit of Water. I have a Gemini Dsc and like a strong intellect in a partner. I’ve noticed that I often like Venus, Jupiter or the Asc in Air signs. Planets in Aqua are fascinating to me in an ‘electric’ kind of way and I love how open and friendly they are. Gemini planets are playful and witty in a cute way that I enjoy. And Libra planets tend to make for a very considerate, easygoing sort, that would be accommodating of my weirdness, and these types tend to make me feel welcome and liked. Libra is on my 11th house cusp of love received, and popularity.

I also especially love it when a guy has Mars in a Fire sign. They have a vibrancy and dashing confidence that I adore. Like they can sweep you off your feet (Swoon). The Venus sign I can be more flexible about. With the Venus sign it’s more about how she aspects my chart rather then what sign she is in. I look for certain kinds of synastry.

I haven’t mentioned Earth signs. That’s because even though I certainly can like them, I don’t seem to need them the way I need Fire, Air, and Water. What I’ve noticed is that there are specific degrees in Earth signs that can appeal to me sometimes. My Sun is at 5 degrees of Capricorn and planets on or aspecting this can usually impress me. My Vertex is at 15 Taurus and my Uranus is at 15 Scorpio. Planets in feminine signs aspecting this seem to be able to magnetically pull me in. Especially in Taurus and Scorpio. I’ve found Mercury or Venus conjunct or oppose my Uranus on the Vertex Axis very attractive.

So I suppose my ideal guy would be an Aries or a Sagittarius with Moon in Cancer or Scorpio. Mars in a Fire sign. And some other planets planets in Air signs in his natal, like maybe Venus, Jupiter or the Asc. Venus nicely aspecting my chart. And good Mercury synastry is key with my Gemini Dsc. I like Mercury in a Fire sign aspecting my own Sag Mercury, or Mercury conjunct or oppose my Uranus. Which brings me to my next point… I would also like something in his chart conjunct or oppose my Vertex. Venus and Mercury work well, but I’ve even seen it work with Saturn or Jupiter, or the Asc/Dsc Axis, or Mc/Ic Axis, or the Nodal Axis, along with other personal planets. The point is that ‘something’ aspecting my Vertex Axis is good.

posted January 09, 2013 08:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Astro keen:
Hi SS, could you explain - are you wary of Leos because they don't mesh with you or is there something about Leos itself that you don't like.

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Leo people and I can mesh together alright... Sometimes it's just it leads into obsessive territory when his/her Sun ends up falling into my 8th house... or conjunct my Mars or something which ended up happening with an ex bf who was a Leo. The one thing that can bother me about Leos - and really all Fire signs - is not as much emotional depth if they are true Fire people... like not really reading between the lines and being very arrogant too. I dislike how some Leos can make me feel embarrassingly introverted. Some in the past haven't seemed to take me that seriously... idk why.

posted January 09, 2013 09:36 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
Having a strong preference for certain signs when it comes to dating, to the extent that you will blacklist entire signs that do not fit the mould.

Anybody been there?

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No, I have placements which would be deal breakers in a guys chart:

Mars in cancer
Moon in Virgo
Venus in Virgo
Venus in Aries
Venus in Scorpio
and many more.
It is just a discernment of what fits for you

posted January 10, 2013 02:26 AM            

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Originally posted by StacyLewis:
Not certain signs...sure, there's signs I don't like very much, but if there's other inner planets in signs I don't have a problem with, a lot of times that can bridge the gap for me and make me get on with people I otherwise wouldn't.

What is a red flag for me, is something like Mars-Pluto, Mars-Saturn and/or Mars/Uranus hard aspects in the chart of someone who has indicated they were abused as a child, or had some other kind of heavy trauma in their early years. When I see that now it's usually "Game Over" for me because there's something about those aspects working in tandem with trauma that creates monsters, unfortunately. In every single instance, the person had sort of a sadistic streak, along with some kind of anger issues, and this predatory, manipulative way of interacting with other people, and a certain degree of bitterness towards anyone who didn't go through the suffering they did, and also felt like the world owed them something and so they felt like they could do whatever they wanted to whomever they wanted, with impunity.

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posted January 10, 2013 07:36 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
^^ Capricorn with Sag rising, eh? I did always value what you had to say! (I'm an Aries with Mercury and Venus in Aries and Gemini ASC. We'd probably be fast friends. )

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posted January 10, 2013 08:09 AM            

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Originally posted by sweet-scorpion:
I'm not against those people with those negative Mars aspects you mentioned in the natal chart BUT I have to mention that I usually, from past experiences with this, tend to be very wary and worried about a 'game over' like you said when I see these in synastry and/or composite with someone. Especially Mars-Saturn. I also concur that these aspects can make one have a more sadistic side or a bitter side but not always. Although as you said such aspects do carry that baggage one should be alert for. Looking at the chart as a whole will help to me, determine whether other things trump any of those or not.

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posted January 10, 2013 08:11 AM            

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Originally posted by Lotis White:
I haven’t mentioned Earth signs. That’s because even though I certainly can like them, I don’t seem to need them the way I need Fire, Air, and Water.

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posted January 10, 2013 11:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:

Wow, uncanny. My ex had Mars sq. Saturn and Pluto sq. Mars and he was extremely verbally abusive, even towards waitresses oftentimes. I'm not saying parenting had anything to do with it but his mother managed to raise an alcoholic (his younger brother) and a guy who went to jail for assaulting an ex-gf (him) so I'm going to have to call your description extremely apt.

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The squares are something to watch out for - especially with Saturn and Pluto. They are 10 times as unforgiving as an opposition and can cause some serious issues down the line especially if under 3 degrees orb-wise.

posted January 10, 2013 08:17 PM            

Even though I have an air moon, I attract Scorpio moons like crazy. But I like Taurus moons, they're a nice mixture of stable, nurturing, caring without the mood swings and mind games.

I think my ideal guy would have a Libra sun, Taurus moon, Libra Venus, Sag Mercury and a Leo/Virgo mars. Is that possible?

posted January 10, 2013 08:27 PM            

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Originally posted by dadevi:
I feel comfortable with Leos because they're proud of who they are

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