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Topic: scorpio man
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leowoman2
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posted January 18, 2013 01:43 AM
  
I had a relationship with a scorpio man for almost six months. I ended it 2 weeks ago, because it was too stressful. We often had misunderstandings and broke up several times. After the last break up he told me that if I would change my mind, to give him a call. So, after a week I wrote him by email that I miss him and want him back. He answered that ok, lets go out some day. Then he does not contact me for a week until 2 days ago, asking if I want to go to an event with him next week. I answered that, ok lets go. But I also told him that I have started to look around for somebody else as I thought that he will not contact me anymore, thought that we are finished. He got angry and said ok, go ahead with the other guy, but do not ever tell me again that you like me and want to be with me. I apologized and said that I did not think he would contact me anymore and that is why I am trying to move on. In his last email he told me that he does not want to see me anymore and I can feel free to move on.
Yesterday I called him and apologized, said I did not want to hurt him and I have always been direct with him, have not given him any bs. He listened and told me that he is not angry at me anymore and it was a mistake to remove me from FB friendslist. But, he will not yet put me back to friendslist. Also said, that he is sincerely happy for me that I have found somebody else who I get along well. I almost believe him.
Ok, I quess his ego got a hit somehow and he wants to hurt me or sth. After the call I texted him that I really miss him, got no reply.
So, what should I do, should I move on? Or is he just angry at the moment and he may come around again? I really miss him and would not like to move on if I still have a chance with him.
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Junethird
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posted January 18, 2013 02:20 AM
well why did you tell him you were keeping your options open? subconsciously trying to make him jealous?patience and timing are key. if you like him dont play games. never ever tell a person you really like and are trying to reconcile with that you are keeping your options open to other people. now you got a taste of the famous scorpio sting. once they are done they freeze you out. you are lucky he responded and acknowledged he should not have removed you from fb. you can only text and email so much. leave it alone for now. IP: Logged |
leowoman2
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posted January 18, 2013 02:41 AM
My intent was to make him understand that I will not wait forever for him to come around. And yes, I realize it was a big mistake.
And you are right, I also think that it would be best not to contact him anymore and leave him be. If he will deside to come around some day, then good. If not, I understand him.
But how long should I wait, a week, a month? And in this time, should I not contact him at all or is "Hei, how are you?", ok just to let him know I still think of him? IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted January 18, 2013 02:59 AM
how long you wait is up to you. you know your limits. you dont have to tell him that you wont wait forever... simple go out and enjoy your life if while in "waiting" mode you meet someone and fall in love, then so be it. only you can decide that. at this point you should wait atleast 3 weeks before you try to make contact with him again. last time he made you wait 1 week... maybe it might be a bit longer now. scorpios like to test you aswell. so patience and understanding that his ego is hurt is key. if you really like him and really want to make it work with him... give it an honest amount of time 1/2 months tops before deciding to walk away if no real progress is made. but still continue to live your life. use the timing i gave you as a guide for you to decide what would work best for you. you have final say. free will. IP: Logged |
leowoman2
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posted January 18, 2013 03:21 AM
Thanks a lot for the advice. I think I will do that. We actually alredy had 1 break up that lasted for 3 weeks. The other 2 have been shorter than 1 week, one lasted only 2 days untill he called me etc.  IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted January 18, 2013 03:30 AM
good luck!hopefully others will join in and offer advice personal experiences with scorpio men. do you know his moon sign? IP: Logged |
leowoman2
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posted January 18, 2013 03:47 AM
No, I do not. How can I get to know that? By character, he is very opinionated and strong individual. Sporty, active and enjoy´s good entertainment like theatre, shows etc. He is not lame or cheap in any way. Always a gentleman, opens doors, helps me with jacket, askes for my opinin and remembers my dislikes and likes, etc. Treats me with respect in any way.
Our problems mostly come from my uncertainty, he says he never knows what is going on and I make desisions very unexpectedly for unexpected reasons. I am spontaneous and dramatic leo. He hates the uncertainty of the relationship. He does not understand that this is actually what I want also, I just need to have some drama now and then. IP: Logged |
Junethird
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posted January 18, 2013 03:56 AM
do you know his birthdate and city of bith?scorpios are strong fixed signs they like predictability so that he can trust you. only scorpio is allowed to be mysterious, unpredictable, but not his partner lol IP: Logged |
leowoman2
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posted January 18, 2013 06:07 AM
I found a moon sign calculator in the net and we both have same moon sign, that is sagittarius.IP: Logged |
Jillyflower
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posted January 18, 2013 06:29 AM
Astrology aside...I think it is best to let him come back on his own. I am unclear why you would wait for him as you can always go back to him regardless if you are in a relationship or not. Life is all about compassionately choosing what is best for you. I think the real issue is that you are hurt about how you handled the situation (seems perhaps you tried to control him with a "threat" and/or manipulate him into coming back to you and it didn't work). All that is being asked of you is to learn from the mistake from trying to relate in this way. Be kind to yourself about the mistake. Waiting for him to come back so you can get it right is not a compassionate thing to do to yourself. You deserve love. Move on until he starts to show signs of a more concrete commitment to the relationship. Best of luck
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leowoman2
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posted January 18, 2013 09:14 AM
I quess that it might have been a "threat" in a way that I wanted him to understand that I will move on if he keeps giving me the ice for breaking up with him 2 weeks ago.
I have made up my mind now and will not contact him anymore. If he comes around one day then ok and we will see what happens, but I will not wait for him to do that.
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leowoman2
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posted January 19, 2013 03:35 AM
Hei,My scorpio called me yesterday and we went out for dinner. Had a lovely time and got some hot kisses when he dropped me home. Can anyone tell me, why is this Leo (moon sagg) and scorpio (moon sagg) so difficult? Why we clash so much? One day he tells me to move on and does not want to see me anymore and the next day he calls me like nothing has happened. I quess he understood that I really did not want to hurt him an therefor forgave me? Or is he planning a revenge, I have heard that scorpios do that? IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted January 19, 2013 11:55 AM
It might be time to think about moving on, its probably best if you do. I think at that moment he wasn't expecting that from you, and now feels mabe he can't feel secure with you. I have dated a few Scorpio men in my time, and one thing they like to see from a romantic partner is loyalty and reassurance. The Scorpio I have known 'merge' hard with their relationships. He might feel you don't want a serious relationship with him so he decided not to be so stable in his decision about you. These men can be all or nothing types.IP: Logged |
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