posted January 20, 2013 07:38 AM            

We have a very good physical chemistry, but other than that I can't really understand him.
I've heard that Venus in Gemini and Mars in Aries are placements of a player.
I'm very secretive about expressing my feelings if I'm not sure about how the other person feels. So I heven't really showed him that I would like a proper relationship.

I see him daily, because now we work at the same place, and he teases me all the time, but I haven't been to his place for like 2 months, as he hasnt invited me again.

Don't know if I should make a move? For instance there are numerous nights, when I know for sure he just goes to his place, and I just don't get why he doesnt invite me over.

posted January 20, 2013 08:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
Theory goes that when a Cancer invites you to his home he's making a major statement.

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posted January 20, 2013 09:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
Cancer w/ Venus in Gemini, tricky. Perhaps you should invite to your place, or lunch and see what response you get.

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posted January 20, 2013 09:58 AM            

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I wonder if he just got bored, or is waiting for my move

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With Gemini & Aries among his personals, probably.

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I'm too selfish to ask him even for lunch, if I'm not sure the answer will be yes

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If true his Moon in Scorpio senses this fear and backed off. With Scorpio Moons, and Pluto-Moon types you have to be a little pushy, daring, assertive to get them.

posted January 20, 2013 10:11 AM            

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Did anything stand out from the last time you were there??

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We have a great physical chemistry. When we are together it's too passionate and sensual. (We have DW Mars-Sun, Venus trine Venus, Sun square Pluto). He has also told me that, he always tells me that.

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Originally posted by Nine:
If true his Moon in Scorpio senses this fear and backed off. With Scorpio Moons, and Pluto-Moon types you have to be a little pushy, daring, assertive to get them.

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So even if I dont do anything, does he sense I do this out of fear? Ugh, don't know what to do!!

posted January 20, 2013 10:21 AM            

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Originally posted by its_aqua:

Don't know if I should make a move? For instance there are numerous nights, when I know for sure he just goes to his place, and I just don't get why he doesnt invite me over.

What do you guys think?

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Wait a sec....
You were f*** buddies, he does not invite you anymore and you are wondering what you should do?
Astrology has nothing to do with this, it is just plain ol' common sense. MOVE ON.

You developed feelings for him, he is indifferent.
Don't make excuses for him or overanalize the situation.
He is not that into you, otherwise, he would be after you.

posted January 20, 2013 10:26 AM            

The Libra said he was scary when drunk. The Aries wanted sex, but he wanted to live together and be committed. Never had a proper conversation with the other person.

He told me, "gawd, everyone is just sex, sex, sex no one wants to do relationships anymore." Of course we lived in a party city, what did he expect.

Once he said something that gave me pause, and I thought he knew more astrology than I did.

posted January 20, 2013 02:05 PM            

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Originally posted by chocogold:
Wait a sec....
You were f*** buddies, he does not invite you anymore and you are wondering what you should do?
Astrology has nothing to do with this, it is just plain ol' common sense. MOVE ON.

You developed feelings for him, he is indifferent.
Don't make excuses for him or overanalize the situation.
He is not that into you, otherwise, he would be after you.

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posted January 20, 2013 04:17 PM            

One had Aries mars and Virgo moon, the other has Taurus Mars and Aries moon

How old is this guy? I think it takes experience and maturity to handle those placements because basically yeah the people I know could be classified as "players". They will commit but from what I've seen don't stay faithful...

Cancer will want to keep you around emotionally hence the teasing and stuff, but being too close too often will freak him out.. My only advice to you would be either tell him you want something more and he can take his time in deciding, etc, but you won't continue only having a physical relationship with him... Or, realize that the situation could literally continue the way it is now without changing for years if you never say anything and decide whether or not you're ok with that.

The first Cancer guy I was involved has been recently trying to get me to hang out with him and come over to his place (for I'm sure you can guess what) over 6 years later, even though he has a girlfriend now.. Ridiculous lol. The second one has been somewhat stringing me along emotionally but there is still no official commitment between us and that situation has been going on for years as well

eta: I also know a male Aries sun, Gem venus, Scorpio moon who has in his own words "cheated in every relationship he's been in". Although he's now 26 and hasn't actually been in a relationship for a long time, and I think he's matured a lot and (hopefully) learned from those experiences..

posted January 20, 2013 04:24 PM            

Yeah. Alot of sneaky behaviour behind my back.

I'd probably avoid this guy completely if I were you.

posted January 21, 2013 12:20 PM            

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I've been involved with more than one Cancer guy with Gemini venus (not by choice, that's just been a pattern before I knew anything about astrology).

One had Aries mars and Virgo moon, the other has Taurus Mars and Aries moon

How old is this guy? I think it takes experience and maturity to handle those placements because basically yeah the people I know could be classified as "players". They will commit but from what I've seen don't stay faithful...

Cancer will want to keep you around emotionally hence the teasing and stuff, but being too close too often will freak him out.. My only advice to you would be either tell him you want something more and he can take his time in deciding, etc, but you won't continue only having a physical relationship with him... Or, realize that the situation could literally continue the way it is now without changing for years if you never say anything and decide whether or not you're ok with that.

The first Cancer guy I was involved has been recently trying to get me to hang out with him and come over to his place (for I'm sure you can guess what) over 6 years later, even though he has a girlfriend now.. Ridiculous lol. The second one has been somewhat stringing me along emotionally but there is still no official commitment between us and that situation has been going on for years as well

eta: I also know a male Aries sun, Gem venus, Scorpio moon who has in his own words "cheated in every relationship he's been in". Although he's now 26 and hasn't actually been in a relationship for a long time, and I think he's matured a lot and (hopefully) learned from those experiences..

Anyway good luck

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posted January 21, 2013 12:21 PM            

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^ I dated a Cancer sun and Gemini Venus too, he was leading a double life and through our one and half year relationship, he was never faithful. He was also manipulative and emotionally ...unpredictable. The guy couldn't help himself, commitment and maturity wasn't the guy's forte. One night, I was sleeping in the other room (back then his parents didnt really like sleepovers) and he was on the phone with some girl for nearly two hours in the early morning while I slept.

Yeah. Alot of sneaky behaviour behind my back.

I'd probably avoid this guy completely if I were you.

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posted January 21, 2013 06:15 PM            

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He's 24! Cancer men have been awfully tricky for me, another ex was a late cancer with Venus in Gemini,and took me months to get over him. But I don't know about this guy, because he has a Scorpio Moon and a Scorpio rising :/ He was quite enthusiastic in the beginning, and then he dissapeared for a week, re-appeared but our communication slowly faded. I'm so attracted to him but at the same time I'm so selfish and don't express my feelings :/

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Yeah it's frustrating Cancers love to disappear and then reappear as if nothing happened... And you're not selfish for not expressing your feelings if the inconsistency makes you feel you can't trust him..

And I hear you about the Sun conjunct SN, my SN (along with ASC and chiron) is also in Cancer and it's been a difficult theme to move away from lol

posted January 22, 2013 12:15 AM            

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Why do Cancer men do that? I heard Pisces guys do it too, is it like a power trip, or do they get overwhelmed or ..?

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I don't know.. I think it's pretty much like the whole Cancer shell metaphor... Sweet and gooey emotions, which most of them have plenty of, aren't something they want to openly display all the time (especially for the males, since typical Cancer traits are considered verrrry feminine), and even though they want consistent reassurance from others they still need their time to hide away and re-group...

Other than that I have my theories that I could probably elaborate forever on, but all I know right now is that recently that's been driving me completely insane lol... The worst thing you can do is demand attention while they are "hiding" but I have not been able to restrain myself recently unfortunately..

posted January 22, 2013 03:37 AM            

His friends tell me he lives in his own small world. Ugh don't know what to do

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I am cancer. I do the disappearing thing a ton just because i like my quiet alone time a lot and have periods where i just dont want to be around anyone. not bc im depressed but bc its what makes me happy.

i can totally relate to the living in my own small world thing someone described him as. i think that is most cancers i know, even tho we may not appear that way (shell)

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