posted January 26, 2013 10:08 AM            

I start to think these are really rrrreally strong factors of attraction.

Pretty rare for them to occur also.

An example (my parents);

- His Sun trine her Mercury (orb 0'51)
- Her Sun trine his Mercury (orb 3'24)

Focal point of their relationship; Writing (the Art of), Responding to each other's writing, Correcting it, Talking for hours about the best sentences etc. etc.

Their individual writing skills definitely complemented each other to a high degree.

This is how I remember my parents from my very youth or as long as I can remember.

*Bound together by the Art of Writing*

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Another *same-aspect-double-whammy* they had;

His Neptune conjunct her Ascendant.
Her Neptune conjunct his Ascendant.

What makes it special here, is the fact that both ASC's were conjunct (orb 2) and so they both had the Neptune/Asc. conj. in their natal.

Not exactly something I can pinpoint in real terms.

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posted January 26, 2013 11:30 AM            

We have Sun square Saturn BOTH ways. Mercury square Saturn Both Ways. Venus sextile Saturn BOTH ways. We both also have Moon conjunct Pluto in Libra natally. Though I don't know her exact birth time so I don't know how close or wide the orb. Funny thing is, if she was born after 12pm, her Moon moves closer to trining my Sun as the day progresses and the possible time of birth moves further into the evening. With that said, we also have Moon/Pluto sextile Neptune both ways.

As far as those harsh Saturn double whammys go, I notice them to an extent. However, internally, I understand how the negative side plays out.

Like, we have the Saturn square Mercury double whammy. Sometimes I do feel like I have to censor or check what I want to say to her. But do you see it? The key word is "I" feel that way. Thats something I have to change in me. Funny thing is, she's never responded badly to anything I've said to her (knocks on wood).

Next time we get together, I'm going to chat with her and reiterate to her that she can feel comfortable in talking to me about any subject under the sun without worrying how I will perceive her or what she is saying.

And with the Sun square Saturn double whammy, its about unnecessary criticism of the other. I feel this aspect is about accepting the other person for who they are and adapting to some of their ways a bit without giving up too much of who you are. I already accept her for who she is, I have all my life. I've known her since 9 years old (25 years). However, its only recent that we've become intimate.

An example of how I have dealt with both those aspects is this. She has Mercury Retrograde in Sag. Her communication style is VERY different from mine. Despite this, when we do talk, our conversation is pretty smooth and flowing ONCE IT GETS STARTED. At first, when we first started texting on a regular and consistent basis last year, it bothered me how sometimes we could be in the middle of a good text convo and she wouldn't respond back. I would think, "wtf?" Where'd she go?

After a while, it naturally came out that sometimes her husband would walk into the room or ask to use her phone because the battery on his own phone died (hold the judgement, she is planning to leave her husband who is physically and mentally abusive and cheats on her). Plus, she has an 8 month old that needs her constant care. The whole thing was, I thought it was something I said or did and it wasn't, so again, the onus was on me to not immediately hop to the negative.

So the possibility of me criticizing her communication style and her was there. I recognized it and checked it constructively.

I guess if you have the willingness to want to make the other person happy mixed in with some experience and maturity, you can get past some amount of harsh aspects. I guess it would be harder if the synastry didn't have a decent balance of easy and hard aspects and contained a lot more hard aspects. She and I do also have some really nice aspects too. Her Sun is trine my Pluto. My Sun and Mercury sextiles her Mars. Her Jupiter and NN conjuncts my Asc. My Moon Pluto conjunction sextiles her Venus/Neptune conjunction. Her Venus/Neptune conjunction also conjuncts my Neptune. Her Mercury conjuncts my IC. Her Mercury is also trine my Venus. Her Sun is trine my Venus as well. If you look at asteroids, her Juno conjuncts my Venus exact. So I think there is a really nice balance between us as far as hard and easy aspects go. The good thing is, I think we have the same amount of Saturn aspects between us on both sides, so its not like one person is committed and the other isn't.

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Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
Virgo Asc