posted February 05, 2013 02:41 PM            

Lately all of the conversations I have with friends end with relationships theme and with them asking me whether I'm satisfied being single or would I like to have a boyfriend. I start weighing all options, babbling and then simply concluding with »In fact… I don't know«.

I mean I'm only 22, I am completely satisfied with the life I lead, enjoy single life, past years have been turbulent, I've come to realize what to do with my life, my soul's purpose, I've really got to know myself, deep stuff

Buuut, there's this gap, something that might be missing. I fantasize a lot, lot of times thinking about having that significant other, other times just having »**** it« attitude. Never been in a relationship.

The reason of this current obsession might be my progressed chart: sun, moon, mercury and venus all in libra & 7H.

Ok, so here's the dilemma. I seriously think I might be better off single. It's the feeling of constraints when people start to impose conditions on me. Every person that I spend several days with, starts getting on my nerves, no matter how well we usually get along, best friends included. I don't imagine living with one single person and have this intense physical bond, I need a lot of alone time. My family and I live past one another, I realized it's for the best, because otherwise it would be a constant battlefield and home would represent a source of stress, not a calm shelter, there is so much tension here.

I'm afraid I might turn into my terrorizing and verbally abusive mother (mercury square mars, mars 4H). I'm afraid that I wouldn't be able to stick to one single person (moon sag cunjunct uranus, sun square uranus, moon square venus, mars gemini). I'm afraid that I'm becoming too picky, that I'm not going to fall in love again (virgo venus, loads of planets in 7H).

I mean, the list just goes on and on. I know, I'm over-rationalizing, complicating… And I know that if I really wish for something and that if I put my mind to it, I shall get it. But, I keep having this pathetic need to make things clearer, even though I know they might even be too clear.

»Dear, you just think too much. Let yourself go.«

Well, anyway, I would LOVE to read your take on it.

posted February 05, 2013 02:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Cynnared:
A simple statement from this Merc in Taurus - live your life with what ever fits the best for you now. Relationships will appear on the horizon when it's time. A dear friendship may blossom into more - regardless of what the stars or astrology chart say.

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posted February 05, 2013 03:43 PM            

If someone sweeps you off your feet and vice versa and you seem to be compatible, consdier giving him a chance. Meanwhile enjoy your alone ride

posted February 05, 2013 03:50 PM            

"Dating? What does that mean?"

posted February 05, 2013 04:15 PM            

I have Sag Sun/Ascendant conjunct Uranus (I'm crazily independent and commitment-phobic)
Aries Moon (very impulsive)
Moon square Venus (hard for me to find someone I like)
Mars Aqua (love my freedom)

My planets are mostly concentrated in houses 12-2; I'm very private and self-oriented.

I do sometimes think it'd be nice to have someone, but when I get close to having a relationship, I tend to run away. The grass is always greener on the other side. At the same time, dying alone doesn't seem too fun.

posted February 05, 2013 04:42 PM            

I think everyone has doubts, but when you meet someone and your intuition kicks in, I suppose you'll just know that you're willing to give it a shot with them.

What's good is that you're satisfied (perhaps not completely if you feel there's a gap) and seem well rounded without someone.

It's very possible that your progressed 7th house stellium is making you feel this way.

posted February 05, 2013 06:22 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Saturn in the 5.

"Dating? What does that mean?"

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posted February 06, 2013 07:17 AM            

It's ironic, but the couples that I know, my friends, are far by being this perfect happy couples, my girlfriends tell me everything, turn to me for advice, so I know it's not all flowers and daisies. But you're right, I've seen too many people putting far too much energy into making the relationship work, instead of trying to grow themselves. Neither do I worry about that happening to me, Uranus dominant

Actually I have Venus, Sun and Mercury in 7H natally, so »the one« should be, according the cookbooks this handsome dignified intellectual ahahha, let's hope some day he appears
But yes, until someone appears, it's a bit silly of us to ask ourselves all of this questions. We just have to go with the flow, I guess.

@I'm so cappy

Hehe, well in that case, nice to meet you or rather not, my uranus says, no, no, I'm the original, and you're the cloned one :P

Joke aside, I agree with you. It might be pointless discussing this things, because I don't have one »suitable« man in the view. But when I fall in love, will I still be able to choose… Even thought I think that is just the beginning, then you have to decide for a relationship and make a lot of effort to make it work. But well, I'll have time to think about it later, in given situation.

Oh and as for the dating… I hate dating. You're forced in this awkward position, when you both know that you're there for one particular reason, trying to impress one another.. it's just so unnatural. I would rather have love correspondence

posted February 06, 2013 07:21 AM            

Spot on!
And I LOVE the cake metaphor. Mine has so many different fillings, it's just world rarity

My friend aren't like that, thank goodness they don't put any pressure on me, or preach me in any way, we just talk a lot, about everything, even their own relationships, turn to me for advice. Actually they are my true family, don't know what I would be without them. No wonder; moon in 11th

@moonlightx

Trying not to think about it, about anything in particular is nearly impossible for me but it seems to work when I'm really busy thinking about other things, studying hard etc. Maybe I've still got too much free time on my hands

I feel that having a partner will help me grow even more. Sometimes I look at myself as being shallow, but not shallow considering the world and my external self, just as having this undeveloped emotional self, this energy that has no where to go… Despite my close friends.

posted February 06, 2013 07:51 AM            

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T: Saturn in the 7th.

"Table for one, please"

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Same here! With S-turn trine Venus. If I could date for the sake of dating, I would. But it's not my area of expertise, my area is attracting someone and pulling them in until it's something deep. For them.

posted February 06, 2013 10:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Belba:
@ail221
Venus is conjunct all three planets. It's not that I'm looking for love, it just feels that I am more open to the idea, willing to give it a shot.
Aren't transits more likely the key factors in something »happening to you« and progressed chart the starting point, you're personal preferences?

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Transits and Progressed charts surrounds the events that will surround you and change your personal preferences. During a Uranus transit in your 7th or 11th you could be drawn to more Aquarius influenced people OR Long distance relationships and friendship etc. When your Progressed Sun is in Libra you could attract more people to you effortlessly. Even your physical body could change slightly.

I didn't exactly mean your be pushing down people telling them to love you

posted February 06, 2013 10:30 AM            

Now I get what you're saying
I'm a bit superstitious, so I subconsciously believe that if I say it out loud or over think it, it won't happen but yeah,it would be great if anything like that happened

posted February 06, 2013 10:38 AM            

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But when I fall in love, will I still be able to choose

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Well, you may not resist falling in love but you can choose what to do with your feelings. Unless self-control isn't something you're good at.

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Oh and as for the dating… I hate dating. You're forced in this awkward position, when you both know that you're there for one particular reason, trying to impress one another.. it's just so unnatural.

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