posted February 13, 2013 08:18 AM            

Saved for one time (still regret it, even if it was someone I barely knew), I've never taken it out on others nor been tempted to. Like you, I always thought of what it had felt like to me and would walk away from bullies (as a way of saying I was against it, just not in words) even if those people were my friends, support the others and give them someone to talk to when they were sad. Right after the bullying had finally ended, I actually made a point in trying to be a mentor-type for friends who went through the same thing. It was mentally and emotionally so exhausting because their stories really hit home with me, but I just felt... like a bad person to ignore them. (But I mostly did genuinely want to help them.)

Shame your boyfriend has taken the other extreme. But you're right that that's usually how it happens: either someone becomes compassionate to people going through the same thing or they get ****** off at the bullied. I used to be friends with someone like that, who admitted to me he had zero confidence, but hated being confronted by people like him, so he would have zero sympathy for them and cuss them out, call them a wimp, etc.

So maybe he's just not ready to accept what happened to him yet? I get why it's bothering you, it's not a nice feeling to find out such a side of someone you care about. I'd give him some time. Has he ever talked to others about being bullied?

I don't know if there's anything in a chart, if that's what you want to know? I think Pisces placements, like you have, will make it easy to have sympathy for others, though. Maybe your Taurus sun also makes you very patient with others, including listening to their problems?

posted February 13, 2013 08:25 AM            

i dont know if that is connected to bullying or not- i think it is more a gender/culture thing.

posted February 13, 2013 08:26 AM            

I kind of wonder if it is a gender thing... I know of another friend's bf who is like that. Used to be a nice guy, people were very mean to him and as a result he really doesn't care about people.
And I could give another similar example about an Aries Sun guy I know. Overall, fire sun males have a tendency towards extreme insensitivity, I'd say. Also, Moon in Gemini is not the most sympathetic of placements... unless there is an emphasis of Neptune in the mix or some other benefic planet. He seems to have a masculine dominant chart, as Venus in Scorpio is the only feminine/water planet I see, unless he has Pluto in Scorpio as well.