posted February 17, 2013 03:31 AM            

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pluto conjunct asc, moon square pluto

I also grew up in a somewaht abusive environment and do the same thing Moonfish.. I dont have much experience with romantic relationships but Ive realised I do this in friendships a lot!!!.. Especially with people who seem like I could have a deep friendship with.. otherwise if they're just one of the sheep people, I just show them my sweet virgo sun and they eventually become part of my periphery

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This old woman who practised astrology once told my friend's mom that there are two types of Scorpio: red and black.
Red scorpions are active, they pursue, they're the ones who pull things in.
Black scorpions are passive, they hide, they're the ones who push things away.

Both are in defense of themselves. Think actively finding answers and locating threats compared to being tough to and, at the same time, sensitive to them. Red Scorpios plot/do while Black Scorpios remember/remove themselves, active vs. passive.

I now allocate them to Mars and Pluto influence.

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posted February 17, 2013 04:33 AM            

Add to this venus trine Pluto

I was super open when I met my fav lover (let's attribute this to my Neptune)and while beautiful stuff was happening

Then I started giving him Scorpio sh1t when I wasn't sure of his feelings. I asked him if he was ok with me falling in love with someone else. Then he stopped writing to me and I was like ok fine, so I kept posting weirdly provocative images of myself and saw him sneaking around them. Then even cooler things started happening as he all of a sudden, despite being in a relationship of convenience, started sending me love letters, to every single one of which I would send a cold reply. And yes I wanted to test him, every time I wanted him to break through my indifference and just do anything at all to get my affection back.

I have no idea why I do this. I secretly enjoy having this power of denying my affection or... not denying it. If it comes across as playing with feelings well so what.

If I had a guarantee that I can totally trust then I'll give vent to the piscean/neptunian element which is also pretty powerful.

Perhaps this makes me a scorpionfish
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-ZjVL6JX-YQg/UFBYjNKXSTI/AAAAAAAABuE/UykbF_ryB8k/s1600/Scorpion+Fish.jpg

posted February 17, 2013 11:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
Hi Got Gemini

When I meet a potential interest the first thing I do is act cold, & play hard to get. If they show any concern, or an attempt to break through my facade tells me that he's geninue (aside from the ones that just want 1 thing). If not, he already failed the test lol.
The second part of the test begins when the walls come down, and a true friendship starts forming. Out of the blue, I'll intentionally display passive-aggressive mood swings. I understand that this sounds unfair, but the idea is to know how he handles conflict. The last thing I want is to meet a guy who turns out to be abusive in an argument.. because lets be honest, every good relationship has it's disagreements.
Finally, any effort to contact me will build my confidence high enough to ask him out before he even gets the chance. I see this as a reward for all his hard work.

Now I'm not sure if this is exactly how all scorpios give their potential interest "the test", but it's how I've done it since my first crush. Although I've dated, I have never been in a serious relationship due to the fact that, dare I say, I'm picky? . That being said I'm still good friends with most of the guys put to the test lol. Hope I helped!

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This is all interesting! I wonder what the Scorpio Test would be for a Scorpio Sun/Libra Moon/Sag Venus. She's pretty open with me though. Doesn't seem like she is testing me. But we've known each other all our lives so maybe that plays a part.

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Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
Virgo Asc

posted February 18, 2013 12:10 AM            

Or I would pretend like I would just observe him and if didnt match what he was saying then I would make sure he saw it but I would pretend like I was neutral to see how far he would let things bubble up.

Look if a guy has a brain and an ounce of respect for his girl he doesnt NEED to be told anything. Its what he would want her to do in that same position.

I dont buy that lame exuse that a guy is a guy (implying that they just dont get things) and that therefore gives them a free excuse to do as they please.

I also do fake scenarios and see what his reactions are. Hey it helps.

Once a person is consistently making the right choices then I stop testing and start trusting.

But that rarely happens lol...

Its true though, because we are all or none, I think we have more to lose if give so much so soon without testing. That is probably the reason we test anyone. I do not trust people or have a reason to believe anything a stranger says to me. Its proven that people tell lies the moment they meet someone.
http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2002-06/uoma-urf061002.php

So why defy reason and logic and assume they are telling you the 100% truth? I dont float or live on faith. I live because of more concrete and real things such as water, air, food. Fact is I dont want any unnecessary drama in my life by assuming someone I barely met has my best interest at heart. Most people dont. Yes there are a few very noble people though. I really respect those people. But not that many.

Having said all this, there is no reason to betray anyone even your own self. I think we end up complicating our lives by betraying ourselves with our habits, our sucky lives, our unproductive relationships with people, and our careers. We aslo tend to lie to our loved ones such as our parents, siblings, lovers....just so we dont have to face the consequence of a poor choice we made.

posted February 18, 2013 12:13 AM            

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I grew up in a abusive home (seeing it). So I don't want to live the same mistakes I've seen other family members make. Again, I do that to find out if he could be abusive towards me in anyway. I'd rather expose that side of him while we're friends rather than having a relationship where intense, unhealthy feelings are involved. It's not like I'm hitting or calling him anything vulgar. It's just a one time situation to see how it playts out. But I respect everyone's viewpoints

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Ditto. I have seen all kinds of situations which I want to avoid in my own relationships. I agree, the faster you figure that person out the better off you are whether he ends up passing or failing. In both cases you benefit.

posted February 18, 2013 12:25 AM            

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Originally posted by peregrine:
scorpios. newsflash. you test people they will always fail you.

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I dont need a bunch of false friends to make me feel content and secure in life.

posted February 18, 2013 09:24 AM            

Everybody needs bit of trust building.

Say for instance you met a stranger and they ask you to tell your deepest secret. You would be either be comfortable or not depending on your mood and general belief for strangers.It would be different if you were playing Dare or Truth with strangers OR had gone to therapist.

You might not want to exchange your credit card details on first meeting to date but you might do it on the phone to a complete stranger bank teller. Again some people given the circumstances might be comfortable and not comfortable.

We all subconsciously test other people.Our human minds are constantly made to judge and make sense of situation, people,etc.

Maybe Scorpion Test are bit more blatantly obvious whereas others are not.

Scorpion Test or which we all do is just to know how much we trust people and situation to share whatever preceived secret or part of our self.

Is the person with whom we want to take next step or not? Whatever that might be with leap of faith.

Scorpio just wants to be prepared if things go horribly wrong. We love to suss people. We take many risks. We need to know on whom we can count on.We want to have best relationship possible. We do not want to give people responsibility more than they could handle. People do not realize that Scorpio would give you thousand chance to fall patiently and wait. Not to judge but to love you according to your needs. At all times Scorpio aim is to know you and understand you.

Scorpio isn't going to say ok you failed and that's it, unless you really ****** them off.It all depends on how much they care on things that they are testing?

Like it can be very important for someone to remember somebody's birth date whereas for some isn't. I guess one should be less worried about tests but to understand what Scorpio really cares /loves about. Listen to him/ her. I agree some Scorpions are bit more open and some are not.

posted February 18, 2013 09:38 AM            

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
I dont need a bunch of false friends to make me feel content and secure in life.

A few goods ones is all I need. And there are people who dont fail me.

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posted February 19, 2013 09:26 AM            

As you might guess, with this kind of behaviour, relationships rearly get a chance to form in a stable, healthy way, and I think thatīs the curse of us scorpio dominated people.

IF a relationship forms there will be continuous tests. For example - withdrawing affection, passive aggressiveness, breaking up and creating drama in order to test the other persons loyality and so on..