posted February 21, 2013 03:12 PM            

it seems true, because we are not friends. In fact, we have quite a hostile, competitive chemistry, but it´s very sexy, and I am in love.

However, is a synastry consisting mostly of sexy, hard aspects possible to build a longlasting relationship on?

We´re both cappys, and I think we both want happily ever after (who doesn´t?). The question is - can it be built on mostly competitive asppects, and alot of pluto and 1st house overlays?

For example we have

him, me

sun square mars
moon opposition sun
mars conjunction ascendant
mars conjunction pluto
saturn conjunction ascendant
sun square pluto
pluto sextile sun
sun conjunction venus
venus sextile mars

(We do have compatible moon signs signs, his in cancer and mine in scorpio, wich gives me a little hope)

posted February 21, 2013 03:41 PM            

but i do think that friendship is overrated in a long term relationship - to me i dont want to be firends with my partner i want to be lovers- that can still involve support but i dont want him to be the person i go to to whine about my period pain you know? its nice to have some romance and mystery even when married.

you do need more than just pure passion though of course- you need to have similar values, similar goals or if not similar then one of you needs to be prepared to compromise quite a bit and be willing to see the compromise through, and to feel an emotional connection and understanding - if someone is volatile you need to know you can handle that or if someone finds it hard to express their emotions you need to either accept it or be good at helping the and understanding them.

posted February 21, 2013 03:58 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
a synastry chart is needed to see the dynamic between you and the other person. my own opinion is that you can start a relationship w/just sexual synastry components but if basic compatibility/friendship is not there then it won't last. i believe you have to have a solid friendship because once the sex/passion dies down, which it always does - you need to be able to talk with your partner and enjoy them as a friend. what good is the body if you don't have a connection to the mind too - people are much more than just their looks and touching their heart, hobbies, interests and personal passions would guarantee a longer life of the relationship

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The sexual chemistry between us is not built on just looks. Yes, our bodies are magnets, but it´s because our chemistry is based on something deepr. We have a deep deep bond, but it´s not friendly. I´m a fraid it´s just too much, and we´kll burn eachother out.

We quickly shift between love and hate. Funny thing, we strted of as friends. I immediately liked him and decided to become his friend. Then Boom, the attraction exploaded and we have been avoiding one another ever since. No matter what though, we are almost obsessed. And I am afraid it´s unhealthy, and that we´ll end up hurting eachother.

What I want is to see if this can last, or if the synastry is too "fiery".

posted February 21, 2013 10:45 PM            

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First of all - is anyone familiar with astromatch.com?

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I'm really familiar with astromatch.com and starmatch.com
Have been using them for a long time.

They made up their own way of finding aspects that also do say something about the compatibility between two people. They call it the "Starmatch Solar Aspect." Obviously they are using the position of the sun somehow in finding it. Maybe they make a new chart based on the position of the sun rather than the position of the earth? Who knows.

But i've definitely found it to be eerily accurate throughout the years. Done many compatibility readings thru them.

My natal report from them is also all true for me, so.

posted February 21, 2013 11:45 PM            

Stop hurting him and jump right in! Dont be afraid. Take a risk.

posted February 26, 2013 02:42 AM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
I'm really familiar with astromatch.com and starmatch.com
Have been using them for a long time.

They made up their own way of finding aspects that also do say something about the compatibility between two people. They call it the "Starmatch Solar Aspect." Obviously they are using the position of the sun somehow in finding it. Maybe they make a new chart based on the position of the sun rather than the position of the earth? Who knows.

But i've definitely found it to be eerily accurate throughout the years. Done many compatibility readings thru them.

My natal report from them is also all true for me, so.

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Astromatch IS quite accurate, isn´t it?

So, do you find that it´s more important to have high scores in love or friendship boxes, if you´re going to have a romantic relationship with someone?

Also, do you think "The higher score the better" applies?

For ex, me and my best friend are both in love with the same guy. Ans her scorpe with him is 11 out of 11 on both love and box field. Mine and his are 10.5 in love, and 7 in friendship.

When I have 11 with men I always get along with them so well, but I have more attraction to someone if there is friction?

What do you think, shoul I give this man to my friend or be open to him? I feel like he´s more attracted to me, but would get along better with her.

(I love them both, and I´m happy with whatever happens).

posted February 26, 2013 02:47 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:
You have sun square pluto and mars conjunct pluto like me and my bf. must be very intense.

Stop hurting him and jump right in! Dont be afraid. Take a risk.

Im sure he feels what u feel ur just afraid.

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posted February 26, 2013 12:45 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
Any Saturn contacts in your synastry (even hard)?

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His saturn conjunction my ascendant
His saturn conjunction my moon
His saturn sextile my mercury

and my saturn trine his moon.

I don´t think it would ever work though. I find him toxic. (See my toxic thread).

We have an attraction/repulsion going on, and it´s too unhealthy.

I tried to let him in, but then he pushes me away. When he wants to get close I push him away. Yesterday I decided to take a baby step and look at him, but he did not look at me. Sometimes I think he´s not attracted, but other times he seems too attracte.

posted February 26, 2013 05:31 PM            

Hooray!

posted February 26, 2013 06:02 PM            

HOW is this *purely* sexual?

I mean it seems so serious between the two of you....

You also have Capricorn Mercuries so communication shouldn't be difficult.

posted February 26, 2013 06:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
ummm You have trine Moons.. Sun opp Moon in such serious signs - Capricorn/Cancer/Scorpio... and the Saturn aspects.

HOW is this *purely* sexual?

I mean it seems so serious between the two of you....

You also have Capricorn Mercuries so communication shouldn't be difficult.

You're pretty similar and serious people. I'm not sure what's going on here.. because the last thing I would expect from this synastry is "love hate" or "sex only".
It's TOO serious for that.. and "emotionally heavy".

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Maybe the problem is his natal chart. He has sun squarepluto, and we have it in synastry too. I had a dream when I met him the first time. I dreamt he´s gay.
He seems tortured, in a sexual way. I thought he just really loves women, but he seems empty, like no matter how meny women love him he in´t happy. So I think he´s gay.

I do however feel sexual tension between us too, and I´m a woman. But I am very masculine.
I thought it was only sex because we don´t get along. We have mars (his) conjunction my asc in scorpio
and his pluto conjunct my ascendant
and we have mars conjunct pluto (mine)

all these are sexy aspects. So that´s what I meant.

We don´t have much romantic aspects, just heavy and sexy ones.

I have to stop thinking about him though.