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Topic: Anyone ever used astrology knowledge to successfully rectify a challenging synastry..
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Got Gemini??
Knowflake Posts: 812
From: The Planet Mercury
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 22, 2013 09:29 AM
  
Has anyone here been successful at noticing the negative aspect of a synastry or composite chart, and been able to rectify or work around those effects using your knowledge of the aspect's description? Like you know you and your other half have Mercury tight square Mercury. You know the possible effects of that aspect and you figured out a way to dampen or negate the effects altogether. #curiuosmindswanttoknowlol ------------------
Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
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starmoon
Knowflake Posts: 427
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Registered: Sep 2011
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posted February 22, 2013 09:49 AM
yes. my bf of 2 years and i have venus square mercury exact. it makes communications/misunderstandings VERY difficult. constant misunderstandings when we talk and then we later have to clarify things or make sure there are no hurt feelings. when i 'noticed' the aspect that was causing this i made an effort - perhaps 8 months into the relationship - to just allow him to be the talker and i'd be an extremely good listener during conversations. he has a lot of pisces in his chart, so i have to be careful not to hurt him emotionally with things i say. it's like walking on eggshells. i have to be mentally aware all the time (I feel) to guard against this aspect. in a way it makes me sad, because i often think with the 'right' guy that the aspect should be flowing and that by trying to change it i'm forcing this relationship to work... if that makes senseIP: Logged |
Got Gemini??
Knowflake Posts: 812
From: The Planet Mercury
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 22, 2013 10:20 AM
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Originally posted by starmoon:
yes. my bf of 2 years and i have venus square mercury exact. it makes communications/misunderstandings VERY difficult. constant misunderstandings when we talk and then we later have to clarify things or make sure there are no hurt feelings. when i 'noticed' the aspect that was causing this i made an effort - perhaps 8 months into the relationship - to just allow him to be the talker and i'd be an extremely good listener during conversations. he has a lot of pisces in his chart, so i have to be careful not to hurt him emotionally with things i say. it's like walking on eggshells. i have to be mentally aware all the time (I feel) to guard against this aspect. in a way it makes me sad, because i often think with the 'right' guy that the aspect should be flowing and that by trying to change it i'm forcing this relationship to work... if that makes sense
I always look at it like, if I am with this person, it is because I care about them. So trying to make it work is for the betterment of the relationship. I guess the challenge would be to explain your method of rectification using astrology, to your other half lol! I guess its all in how you look at it. Do you feel like your relationship with him is worth the added energy? ------------------
Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
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cappy1277
Moderator Posts: 1456
From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted February 22, 2013 11:01 AM
Of course! I notice the energies too but for me being the only one that practices astrology, it unfortunately becomes my responsibility to make sure that I recognize what it is & make the rectifications for it. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Knowflake Posts: 1793
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 22, 2013 08:06 PM
Yes, twice. One was advice by an astrologer but I don't feel like repeating it as it's both complicated and personal, and as the astrologer predicted it ended badly anyway (though it lasted longer than she thought it would). The second time is much better (and I did it myself). Since I'm not willing to share then suffice to say that it's pretty much prioritizing what's important to each and using that to compartmentalize certain aspects most important to each, for example if both are domineering (or one is free-spirited) then they divide the spheres of influence most important to them where they have the last word but understand other aspects are for the other to decide (or off limits for the free-spirited) so that both can find happiness in something they control (or have an area where free-spirits don't feel so smothered & micromanaged) so that both partners can have something that satisfies them. And given that even little children often understand the importance of splitting fairly (the trick me and other children did was one would split a pie or cookie and everyone else got to pick which piece they wanted thus encouraging the one doing the splitting, also being the last to choose, to make the cuts as fair as possible), I see no excuse for adults not being able to negotiate (if they can't then it's a deal breaker). IP: Logged |
rosedl
Knowflake Posts: 25
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Registered: Jan 2013
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posted March 07, 2013 08:39 PM
Astrology is only an aid to understanding. It can be helpful to understand what might be contributing to an area of tension or challenge.
My hardest lesson has been letting things be just as they are. I struggled forever trying to use astrology to work out my relationship with my long time Sag partner. Astrology (and the writing on the wall) screamed that this was really just a friends/business partner relationship, and instead of just accepting what was....well, we both tried to force romance into something that was never going to be. What a relief to finally put that down, and just allow it to be what it really was all along. FRIENDS. Period. But, by allowing that and not needing it to be different, we are much better friends then we used to be. As far as everyday interactions, I use it all the time to help me approach friends and family in a more effective way. I use astrology all the time in informing how I approach people, and I know the charts of all my friends. It really helps, especially with those who have squared and tense aspects with mine. But, I love these people so much because I love the way they make me grow and help me see new perspectives. Not always easy, but rewarding. IP: Logged |
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