Dafna79 Newflake Posts: 1 From: New York Registered: Feb 2013
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posted February 27, 2013 05:41 PM
I have read many threads about Cancer men and their commitment issues, in my case I never had a problem with mine. I am very strong, independent woman but I am aware of the need to keep my feminine side very present when in a relationship I am guessing that helped. We met last August, by October he asked me to be his girlfriend, met his whole family and we are very happy. Our only issue is distance, because of our crazy work schedules (especially because of his job) we only see each other on weekends and sometimes once a week on his day off (hasn't been happening lately because of his job) at the beginning it was not an issue but it is now, at least for him, I do miss him and wished we could spend more time together but unfortunately is not something we can fix right now, it seems to be affecting him a lot, he gets moody, whiny and stressed out, to the point that we have had the conversation about ending things but when we reach that topic he confuses me so much because he brings it up but at the same time does not want to end things. He accuses me of avoiding the issue and then when I say then if you are unhappy then let's do what you want, he backs off, this is stressing me terrible. I love him to death and I am so scared of losing a perfect relationship with a guy that adores me because he is so hung up on the ONLY negative thing that we have. I am a very positive person, I believe in trying to resolve issues and always finding the positive side of things and he seems to be focused ONLY on the fact that we don't see each other every day, he says he feels we are stuck that the relationship cannot progress but at the same thing doesn't want to take the step to end things.We were having a discussion the other night and he also complained that we never say I love you, and I do have that issue, I tend to wait for his cue, I am very loving and caring but I am not very vocal about it, again he confuses me, he tells me he is thinking about ending things and then complains about me not saying I love you. He is very loving and caring, he DOES things for me that no one has ever done but has a very hard time expressing his feelings with words and I made the mistake of waiting for him to do so. I thought he felt the same way I did that as long as your partner shows you with actions he loves you then you should be happy. Yesterday I wrote him an email, I poured my heart out and his response was inmediate and very touching, he forgot about all the other issues and now we are back to normal. Please can you give any tips for "long distance" and how to deal with his "low" moments?? I am a Libra (October 8)1979 he is Cancer (June 26) 1978 IP: Logged |