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Topic: Male Cancer is affectionate with others but NOT you!
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PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 05:27 AM
Ive been friends with this guy for a really long time now, we are well connected on a spiritual , telepathical kind of way . He calls me every night almost . We talk about everything , he always compliments me. Calls me beautiful , always checks on me, and stays he's just checking in lol. I've even caught him staring at me recently he did it and when I looked he didn't even turn around , I asked him what was wrong and he said just thinking. We recently had a convo and I said I would be afraid to date a friend , I don't think i could date a friend! Then he said that I didn't have to worry about him pushing up on me he thought the best thing he could offer me was friendship, yet he has never said to to me " I love you " but he says it to other friends or if he says something sexually inappropriate around me he'll say I'm just playing , or I didn't mean it like that . I don't understand why he does this ... Help meIP: Logged |
PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 11:19 AM
He is Sun Cancer/ Venus in Gemini I'm a sun Pisces / Venus in aquarius IP: Logged |
KarkaQueen Knowflake Posts: 2083 From: Uranus Registered: May 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 12:05 PM
Maybe it is hard for him to express his feelings to you and he cannot treat a crush as a lover but a friend. what Venus in Aqua do, for a Cancer sun he likes to cling on people but sadly he doesnt like that back. Or am i getting confused with aqua moon IP: Logged |
Lava Flower Knowflake Posts: 420 From: Registered: Feb 2012
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posted February 28, 2013 12:10 PM
I have a Cancer moon and Gemini venus, and I am always drawn to Aqua/Pisces placements, especially the combination of both. His moon sign would be helpful too. IP: Logged |
happyaskings Knowflake Posts: 242 From: Registered: Dec 2012
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posted February 28, 2013 01:05 PM
I think I'm missing something here...it sounds like he is pretty affectionate with you. I know I'd be thrilled if I had a guy in my life right now that was like that with me. But, you flat told him you wouldn't date a friend so why should he put himself out there even more than he already has? Also, if you're not interested in dating him, as he is a friend, then why do you care if he is more or less affectionate with others than he is with you?IP: Logged |
KarkaQueen Knowflake Posts: 2083 From: Uranus Registered: May 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 01:09 PM
quote: Originally posted by Lava Flower: I have a Cancer moon and Gemini venus, and I am always drawn to Aqua/Pisces placements, especially the combination of both. His moon sign would be helpful too.
lol yes! I agree. I have cancer sun and gem venus IP: Logged |
PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 01:15 PM
I'm not asking him to treat me like any other way but a friend . If im a friend to him then he should treat me like the others ( being more affectionate) . It makes me I get the short end of the stick . We laugh together , we talk about our past, his troubles ( he is more revealing ). But yet I feel something is missing . Crush? You think he likes me and is just using the friend title as a cover up? By the way his moon sign is sag, mine is Gemini IP: Logged |
PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 01:23 PM
At happyendings: we talked about the convo some more, and I said I would be scared to date a friend because their is a lot at risk. I care about him a lot , and I know how he is with females ( Venus in Gemini) even though he treats me different I just wish I knew how he truly felt that's if he like me more than what he was saying. I definitely don't mind him talking to others ( friends ) I just feel like I'm treated different . In his words I'm like the homie . Yet im the only female friend he calls everyday , stares at me intensely ( which can be a little weird for me sometimes lolIP: Logged |
happyaskings Knowflake Posts: 242 From: Registered: Dec 2012
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posted February 28, 2013 01:23 PM
quote: Originally posted by PrettyPisces: I'm not asking him to treat me like any other way but a friend . If im a friend to him then he should treat me like the others ( being more affectionate) . It makes me I get the short end of the stick . We laugh together , we talk about our past, his troubles ( he is more revealing ). But yet I feel something is missing . Crush? You think he likes me and is just using the friend title as a cover up? By the way his moon sign is sag, mine is Gemini
You can't have it both ways. It's pretty clear he has a crush on you, so he's backing off so he doesn't get hurt. Also, you can't dictate how a person expresses themselves around you...he doesn't have to treat you the way he treats others. You're being treated "differently" because he likes you and you're lucky he's being so sweet because there are tons of people on this forum that get treated like **** by the people that like them because they're scared of their own emotions. Your Cancer friend sounds really nice.
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KarkaQueen Knowflake Posts: 2083 From: Uranus Registered: May 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 01:42 PM
quote: Originally posted by happyaskings: You can't have it both ways. It's pretty clear he has a crush on you, so he's backing off so he doesn't get hurt. Also, you can't dictate how a person expresses themselves around you...he doesn't have to treat you the way he treats others. You're being treated "differently" because he likes you and you're lucky he's being so sweet because there are tons of people on this forum that get treated like **** by the people that like them because they're scared of their own emotions. Your Cancer friend sounds really nice.
People are stupid so they do that. I dont like a person backing off from me just cos they dont want to get hurt emotionally again. Even in friendship, that drives me mad. I don't want anything to do w/ that person again if they do that. O.P, how can you deal with that? people are a flakey bunch IP: Logged |
happyaskings Knowflake Posts: 242 From: Registered: Dec 2012
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posted February 28, 2013 01:45 PM
quote: Originally posted by KarkaQueen: People are stupid so they do that. I dont like a person backing off from me just cos they dont want to get hurt emotionally again. Even in friendship, that drives me mad. I don't want anything to do w/ that person again if they do that. O.P, how can you deal with that? people are a flakey bunch
I agree. It doesn't really sound like he's backing off here though, he's not icing her out or playing hot and cold, he's just not giving her that extra affection he gives his other friends. He's giving her a different kind of attention though by calling her every night and things like that, I doubt he has the time to ring up all his other friends on a nightly basis.
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PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 02:26 PM
Thank you for opinions it was helpful. Should I ask he feels about me? Or just don't say anything at all. I'll admit I had feelings for him before, but over the years it kind of subside concerning the fact he Never said how he felt so I assumed feelings were unrequited, plus he plays these little games something like tell one of his boys to try to talk to me to see what I would do ( his friend told on him) and just recently he told me two girls asked him to be his valentines but he said NO lol , I didnt say anything ( I didn't give him a reaction) days later he told me to find him a valentine Im like no.IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 5143 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 02:36 PM
Would you like this male's perspective? I'm not here to take any sides, but I'm asking upfront permission to speak freely.IP: Logged |
PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 03:50 PM
I would like thatIP: Logged |
PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 08:17 PM
@yourstrulyalways having a male prospective would be great ... What's your sign?IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 1833 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted February 28, 2013 08:42 PM
I'm a guy with venus in gemini I'm not affectionate with people I have a crush on. Its funny because I can affectionate with everyone else. I like to have the upper hand, I don't want them to know until I know they like me back..IP: Logged |
lalalinda Moderator Posts: 3084 From: nevada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 28, 2013 09:52 PM
Ding! Cancers move to the right, then to the left, but never straight forward. (just like the crab) They are guarded with their feelings which is why they send out mixed signals to see how you respond before making a move. Others who he is "affectionate" with are not people who he is interested in like that.If it's a good friendship, leave it like that because you can never go back to "before" ------------------
"For all those who believe, expect a miracle.” Linda Goodman 1925-1995 IP: Logged |
PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 10:36 PM
Yea that Venus in Gemini I tell ya lol. He said he doesn't like geminis lol. Thank you and lalalinda for your input. Your helpful. Yea we are very playful , sometimes we have serious convos. He's always talking , somethings too much lol...he claims I'm secretive but that's just my Pisces mystique lolIP: Logged |
KarkaQueen Knowflake Posts: 2083 From: Uranus Registered: May 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 10:47 PM
I really dont understand other venus in geminis.. for real o_OIP: Logged |
PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted February 28, 2013 10:56 PM
I'm really not too fond of that placement lol though I understand them I'm a Venus in aquarius ( 2nd house )IP: Logged |
PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted April 13, 2013 09:34 PM
Sooooo I have an update! We we're talking and oddly he brought up the Topic , "Love" I then said I hardly tell my friends I love them . ( I'm an Aquarius Venus ) I have a hard time expressing myself emotionally or verbally I should say. He says I always tell my love ones I love them, I said I know you do ! Then he said I actually mean it though...He was silent for a second then he says " like I love you". I couldn't give a reaction at first lolIP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1845 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted April 13, 2013 10:30 PM
I have a Cancer friend with Cancer Mars and Moon/Venus in Gemini. We were friends for months before he told me he was into me and asked me out on a date. I didn't say -yes-or-no- because I'm in one of those 'it's complicated' situations with someone else. He said he understands though and he is happy to stay friends until I sort things out. Since he asked me out that day (three weeks ago) - he was been very forward and upfront - and honest about his attraction - to a point where - frankly I don't know many other guys who are *this* honest O_O But I like that about him. I have his TOB and his ascendant is Pisces conjunct my Mercury... maybe that's why he's open with me.I did notice, however - that in social situations he can be a bit all over the place and he does give everyone a lot more attention/affection than he gives me. This is not at all intentional. I think this is a Gemini thing because they love people and they're very talkative.. so they want to be out there mingling & get distracted easily... specially when they meet *new* people. With Gemini Venus ---You could be the love of their life - but if they spot something or someone new & different - they'll be all over it and forget you are standing next to them. Don't get jealous because this is usually a purely intellectual curiosity ^ IP: Logged |
PrettyPisces Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Cambria heights,NY Registered: Jun 2011
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posted April 13, 2013 11:12 PM
Yea I he is a little out there lol , he mostly shows his affection to love ones only. He's cool with a lot of people , a lot of people know of him . But his closest friends are folks he has known for years (I like that about him) . He's upfront but still very much subtle and passive aggressive ( Sun in Cancer) for example: He called my phone while I was driving , I told him that and he said " do you want me to call u back ? " I told him NO but I usually say yes. He then said " what's the difference with now about and not the other times?" then he said he was gonna call me back but never did that night proceeds to call early the next morning To say I tried calling u last night but it just ringed I called 3 times ,meanwhile I never had missed calls , such a liar sometimes lolIP: Logged |
CapSunScorpioAscendant Newflake Posts: 18 From: Registered: Apr 2013
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posted April 14, 2013 03:36 AM
quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: I'm a guy with venus in gemini I'm not affectionate with people I have a crush on. Its funny because I can affectionate with everyone else. I like to have the upper hand, I don't want them to know until I know they like me back..
I know this guy with a Gemini sun who says that if he is attracted to a woman he will act as if there is nothing. He will flirt with everyone else but her. I don't see how mixed signals will get him what he wants. He agrees - but that is how he is. Hope this helps. IP: Logged |
CapSunScorpioAscendant Newflake Posts: 18 From: Registered: Apr 2013
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posted April 14, 2013 03:44 AM
My Cancer man is very attentive, warm and loving. He can be outgoing but is surprisingly withdrawn when he is serious about something or someone. He holds himself back when the stakes are high. Maybe this is the case with your friend as well? It appears as if he considers you more than a friend. Maybe he does not want to take the risk of saying something and be rejected and lose what he already has with you. Does this make sense?IP: Logged |