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Topic: mars square mars synastry- How to deal with it?
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Mandy pie
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posted February 28, 2013 01:31 PM
  
Is there any way? Any practical advice? A secret in how to best manuever this aspect in synastry?There is someone I know where the TIGHTEST aspect in our synastry is mars square mars and unfortunately this is someone whom I cannot avoid in my life.
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Odette
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posted February 28, 2013 06:32 PM
Oh Snap!I'm in the exact same situation - exact Mars square Mars and I can't get rid of him. My Mars is Capricorn and his is Aries. The way I am trying to handle this is... First of all I made a very definitive decision that I will never be romantically involved with this person. This is completely off the table and it will never happen. It doesn't matter what he wants or if he *tries* to make this sexual/romantic.. I am sticking to my decision on that, come hell or high-water. Secondly, I've made my peace with the fact that - after his behaviour thus far I will never be able to trust him, and hence, we will never have a *real* friendship. This trust thing is irreparable. Even if his entire personality changed now and he behaved like "the second coming" in every way - for the next decade... the Capricorn in me still couldn't forget or trust again. So this is also a closed chapter. Thirdly - when it comes to interacting with him, which I have to do.. I will try my best to be cordial, normal/sociable.. I will try my best to behave as I would towards any other acquaintance... and I will mostly avoid him as much as I can.
I'm focusing on the people I like and trust. For me - one and two ^^ are really important, because as long as you still have hopes for a friendship or for something romantic... you are inclined to TRY to make things work. With this aspect - I think it's better to kill those hopes and completely wipe the person out.
There are other fish in the sea! That's my conclusion. I know Brangelina have this aspect.. in the same signs we do and also exact.. But they have other things to help out like Mars conj Jupiter for example... so it depends on the rest of the synastry.
In my case, with this guy - it is beyond *BAD* and can't be sorted out.
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Mandy pie
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posted February 28, 2013 06:56 PM
Wow. Yes the aspect is exact for me too. And it's interesting you should mention the sexuality of it, because even though this aspect is really tough it is said to bring sexual attraction. Sometimes my primal/animalistic part of my brain tries to get me to "relieve" the energy by just going to bed with him, but then the rest of my brain kicks in and reminds me what a TERRIBLE idea that would be.I was hoping for a friendship or at least a collaboration of sorts (he is sort of a coworker and his help would be instrumental to my career) but perhaps there is just no way around this aspect. He gets angry with me for no apparent reason...I seem to bring out his temper quite a bit without meaning to. He gets me annoyed too, but I feel like it doesn't phase me as much (yet)... maybe because in my natal I have my mars exactly opposite my moon which perhaps makes the hard aspect to mars between us a bit more familiar to me. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted February 28, 2013 07:42 PM
My guy is also a co-worker and likewise, he could be helpful in my career. I was just talking about this yesterday in a thread in the Sweet Peas forum, but that appears to have been deleted. I am going to "manage" him from a very emotionally detached stand-point. I think things will work out as long as I am nice enough for him to not have serious issue with me... And detached enough for him to understand this will never be romantic. I did block him in social media including Facebook.. which probably sends an unfriendly message... But as long as I am cordial towards him in RL he won't really be able to say much about that. After all, blogs and twitter and FB are often part of a persons private life and since I only want a professional involvement with him, I guess it's fair enough to block him from my private life. About the sexuality of it. When I met him, months ago I was attracted but I am now put off. He seems too immature emotionally and I can't deal with him. My reasons not to have sex are not the typical reasons.. like whether or not it's morally reproachable or what not. My reason is primarily that I do not trust him as far as I can throw him and I do not want this person physically near me.. Let alone touching me or inside me.
I am actually extremely put off by him.
As time goes on you might end up feeling the same way about this guy. IP: Logged |
Mandy pie
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posted February 28, 2013 10:10 PM
"As time goes on you might end up feeling the same way about this guy."I think this is good forshadowing. IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted February 28, 2013 11:09 PM
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My reason is primarily that I do not trust him ... and I do not want this person physically near me. Let alone touching me or inside me.
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Thermidor
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posted November 01, 2014 02:21 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
Oh Snap!I'm in the exact same situation - exact Mars square Mars and I can't get rid of him. My Mars is Capricorn and his is Aries. The way I am trying to handle this is... First of all I made a very definitive decision that I will never be romantically involved with this person. This is completely off the table and it will never happen. It doesn't matter what he wants or if he *tries* to make this sexual/romantic.. I am sticking to my decision on that, come hell or high-water. Secondly, I've made my peace with the fact that - after his behaviour thus far I will never be able to trust him, and hence, we will never have a *real* friendship. This trust thing is irreparable. Even if his entire personality changed now and he behaved like "the second coming" in every way - for the next decade... the Capricorn in me still couldn't forget or trust again. So this is also a closed chapter. Thirdly - when it comes to interacting with him, which I have to do.. I will try my best to be cordial, normal/sociable.. I will try my best to behave as I would towards any other acquaintance... and I will mostly avoid him as much as I can.
I'm focusing on the people I like and trust. For me - one and two ^^ are really important, because as long as you still have hopes for a friendship or for something romantic... you are inclined to TRY to make things work. With this aspect - I think it's better to kill those hopes and completely wipe the person out.
There are other fish in the sea! That's my conclusion. I know Brangelina have this aspect.. in the same signs we do and also exact.. But they have other things to help out like Mars conj Jupiter for example... so it depends on the rest of the synastry.
In my case, with this guy - it is beyond *BAD* and can't be sorted out.
Why are you so angry with him ? What did he do ? There should be another reason about your hatred. Mars square Mars is not enough.
Do you have some good aspects ? IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted November 01, 2014 07:08 PM
I wasn't angry, just really disgusted. I found his superficiality and general immaturity a huge put off.He basically hurt people for fun - a bunch of people, not just one. He had sadistic tendencies, which can be a way Mars in Aries (square Saturn in his chart) can play out.
His Saturn was conj my Cap Mars/Neptune.He isn't in my life at all anymore. I haven't seen him virtually all year because he no longer works with me. I would be more than happy to never cross paths with him again. With some luck we never will. quote:
Do you have some good aspects ?
We had Moon trine Moon, Mercury trine Mercury - Moon/Merc DW sextile and we're both fire signs (Aries/Sag)... and also Venus opp Venus.. and my Jupiter on his NN.
But no. It didn't help ultimately. There is just zero connection. Literally zero. He has no depth on a spiritual level. He is still stuck in his South Node patterns (Virgo - very pragmatic and cold) IP: Logged |
neptunicity
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posted November 02, 2014 02:36 AM
I have this aspect with someone I never really talked to, just an acquaintance but is/was a major crush, but I guess the good aspects that we have are useless because of Mars square Mars. She is terrified of me due to slander. I just shake my head as I read how it made you feel repulse towards the others person because that's how she also feels.IP: Logged |
sashavittoria
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posted April 01, 2022 10:51 PM
Is there really no way to overcome Mars square Mars? I never want to reduce synastry to a single aspect...I found this suuuuuuper hot guy (to distract me from my beautiful Virgo/Scorp, even though whenever I look at him I feel so peaceful and at home) but is the Mars square really that impossible, even with a trine from my powerful moon/Venus?! And with his Mars in the anaretic degree, it's maybe not so strong? No TOB for this guy unfortunately. My Saturn puts a damper on things too...  We have a Grand Cross in the composite, too: Sun/Saturn opposite Jupiter, Pluto opposite Venus/Mars. I would have thought similar sign placements (like personal planets in the same signs) would be good too, but recently I met someone with whom I had a strong mutual dislike and we had all that, even DW sun-moon same signs. Anyway the conjunctions with the guy above really struck me. All these Scorpio moons are making me swoon. I wonder if I am evolving a bit more now, with my sun and Venus in Taurus seeking balance through the opposition? I've developed a tight friendship with a Scorpio sun/Virgo moon too. IP: Logged |
hearttreasure
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posted April 02, 2022 01:15 AM
Mars square Mars..... From distance: sexual attraction, a lot of admiration..
The closer you are, both of you will soon irritate each other and keeps triggering your Mars. If one has a tendency to bottle things up, then be ready for the explosion and it will be hard to stay the same like the first time. The best way to handle Mars square Mars is put the distance, be detached, and don't try to be around each other shoes too much, you can even be a good/best friend.. Stay in a friendly zone. I've read somewhere that it is common between an affair as sexual attraction is the first thing that caught the radar, until you live together and keep fighting.. You'll soon envy Mars/Mars trine/sextile couple if you have known one. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted April 02, 2022 04:38 AM
I have this with someone that I loathe. I wanted to avoid him regardless of circumstances, because I didn’t choose to have him in my life at all. He is the worst. IP: Logged |
two-headed-she
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posted January 31, 2023 12:59 PM
Have a Mars sq Mars in a dating relationship turned friendship turned betrayal and it's the second time with this aspect in two years...so I def believe it's a destructive trait between people who are normally much different and more peaceable in their own lives. For each of these relationships...and why I gave the aspect a second go...we have his Mars (in scorpio) conjunct my Venus to the degree. One RX Mars, one Direct. The RX allowed for a lot more of the mars Venus conjunction to come forward...so much love...but the anger was always present under the surface...I think it expresses itself very clearly as a conflict in direction. I have a mars in Leo around 21 degrees and Venus in Scorp at 25. The square in my chart produces a rough time being met in love on it's own...and I get seduced by the mars conjunct my Venus becuz...DAMN. It's powerful!! But, even though this last relationship had a synastry chart where we had a double whammy moon conjunct sun, double whammy Venus trine moon/sun conjunctions, and double whammy vertex conjunct chiron (seriously?? why all that bonding energy with this defensive and competitive one??)...we couldn't even hold a friendship together. it was too push pull, too dynamic. I think this is truly one of the most angry making aspects and I'm sad about it...but I can't deny that it has more power than the most positive of influences, in my experience.IP: Logged |
sassaqua
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posted February 02, 2023 06:38 AM
Exhausting, draining, boring, stressful, and life-wasting going over same ground trying to "understand" each other.Unless there are better aspects elsewhere to balance of course : ) IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted February 02, 2023 08:55 AM
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