posted January 29, 2014 01:49 AM            

My 12th house stellium (sun, venus, merc, neptune, uranus) is in his 12th house and his 12th house neptune also falls into my 12th house. We can be a bit of a private couple.

My s.o's parents, my cousin and some friends and their partners - Their relationships aren't secret, n as far as I know those relationships and marriages didn't start as a secret affair.

With my parents, however, I guess their relationship at first was somewhat secret. My mother was promised to another (it was arranged, not by her choice) and my father waltzed in out of nowhere. They kept it a secret for a little while coz it was considered quite scandalous to break that kind of promise.

posted January 29, 2014 02:27 AM            

Things don't always need to be soooo dramatic. Sometimes it's much simpler.

posted March 24, 2014 07:05 PM            

Having this stellium in the 12th House is no fun and can be quite dangerous. I'm currently in a clandestine affair for the past two and half years. It has been very tough because men just want to deal with me in private and behind closed doors. Men in my life in the past have always dealt with me in secrecy and I don't like this. I'm very attractive too.

Moon and Saturn aspect negatively all personal planets.

By the way this is my other natal chart, I do have another one. Ha ha.

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posted March 24, 2014 10:29 PM              

His nesus and ceres are in my 12th house synastry.

My Dsc almost conjuncts his 12th house.

In the composite, eris conjuncts amor in the 12th.

posted December 07, 2014 03:29 PM            

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Originally posted by cappy1277:
Such fatalism...lol. Why can't the 12th house be about having a spiritual connection or being psychically in tune with one another? Sun in 12th house composite could also mean a couple that likes to spend time alone with each other without the distractions of the outside world...the kind of couple that can be in the same room and not have conversation together but just be happy to be in their own presence.

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posted October 11, 2015 08:41 AM            

one natal has saturn, uranus and neptune in 12th

posted October 11, 2015 08:47 AM              

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Originally posted by cappy1277:
Such fatalism...lol. Why can't the 12th house be about having a spiritual connection or being psychically in tune with one another?

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posted October 11, 2015 10:45 AM            

I have a 1st house venus and mars, so when someone is taking on the role of boyfriend in my life, I feel anxious to let people know. It feels unnatural and wrong to keep it private.

My current man is 12H venus (in scorpio). He feels anxious when people KNOW about his relationships. He's also from a culture that constantly tries to arrange marriages for him - he runs from that pressure. He feels best when no one is having a say except him and me. I've seen the difference with my own eyes.

But, I'll admit his 12H has made me run more than once. Like, wtf, are we together or am I the other woman? Has scared me so much, but overtime I have realized where it comes from on his side.

posted October 11, 2015 02:01 PM            

Has anyone noticed a significant difference in whether the 12th house planet in the synastry is in the same sign as the ascendant or in the sign previous? For instance, if you are Taurus rising at 17 degrees, and the other person's Venus falls in your 12th house at 5 degrees Taurus instead of let's say 28 degrees Aries. Would being in the same sign make more for an spiritual connection since this is the same sign, or would the secretive quality still be present/dominant?

posted October 11, 2015 04:33 PM            

I've had a secret crush on someone whose sun fell in my 12th house, but not same sign as my ascendant. The crush lasted for years and no one knew about it.

posted August 27, 2018 07:50 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
Why would it be the 12th house and not the 8th? I've read that the 8th house are secrets that you keep from other people. As in having a secret relationship with someone. But not telling anyone else about it. And 12th house are about secrets that have been kept from you. Like if you were involved with someone. Yet they were having a secret relationship with someone else. Yet they didn't tell you about it.

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8th house is not secrets, 8th house is the taboo and all things that cause catastrophic mayhem on a psychological level for those underdeveloped souls. 12th house is more secrets because it is ruled by Neptune and Neptune is the heightened version of Venusian love and glamour. Neptune adds a very mystical fog to things, a disenchantment. It makes you think your misguided behavior is sweet and rosy and will all turn out fine, which is essentially how most love affairs and scandals work. I think the 8th house in a synastry or composite would be centered more around a psychologically tested relationship, way too intense for those who aren't used to the energy. All the water houses are about relationships, but 12th house is more about the fogginess of relationships. Like having an affair or a love child.

4th house: the nurturing relationships, can feel familial or parental. Couple sees each other on an earthly plane, to nurture one another.

8th house: the psychologically intense relationship, embedded in intense commitment and devoted passion. Couple sees each others on a mental plane, to intensely merge and overlap with one another. To engulf, consume one another.

posted August 28, 2018 06:26 AM            

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Originally posted by capricorncheriscty:
And, to be fair, all the water houses/signs are pretty secretive. Or rather, they are very kept to themselves. Very protective of what's theirs.

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