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posted March 25, 2013 01:00 PM            

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@Orange I don't have his birthtime

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posted March 25, 2013 01:03 PM            

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Well, at least he's apologised!
He probably cares then.

Just give him space and time.
Be patient and if he's in it for good, he'll come around and stick to you.

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posted March 25, 2013 01:15 PM            

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Merci beaucoup, Doux Rêve. Yeah, I saw progression every time I saw him, but his disappearances make me feel insecure. I don't know what to make out of his excuse and I don't know how to respond to it either. I know he's busy with work, but does it also mean he forgot about me? Normally he even remembers how long we didn't have any contact.

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posted March 25, 2013 01:15 PM            

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Merci beaucoup, Doux Rêve. Yeah, I saw progression every time I saw him, but his disappearances make me feel insecure. I don't know what to make out of his excuse and I don't know how to respond to it either. I know he's busy with work, but does it also mean he forgot about me? Normally he even remembers how long we didn't have any contact.

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posted March 25, 2013 01:19 PM            

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Sorry, my IPhone has a meltdown lol.

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posted March 25, 2013 01:26 PM            

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In that case, just forget about him for now. 1-days, even 1-2 weeks of absency could be understandable, but obviously you are not a priority to him atm.

I remember an old asrologer woman saying that you know a man really loves you when he wants to spend all his time with you, wherever you go, whatever you do, weekends and week days

I got involved with a guy once who used to give me mixed signals and really, nothing came out of that relationship. Then I met someone who really loved me and wanted to be with me and I was like, aaaah, so this is how it should be like !!

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posted March 25, 2013 01:30 PM            

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You're welcome, Ishannah.

I don't think he ever "forgets" about you, no.

It's just that he's probably the kind of person who doesn't want/need lots of communication/contact with their SO. Some people are kinda distant like that. It doesn't mean they don't care or that they forget.. it's just the way they are. If it bothers you, try talking to him about it and tell him that you feel left out when he doesn't keep you updated. I'm sure he'll understand where you're coming from and will try to make you feel better by changing his behaviour a bit, especially if it's a minor thing like texting/calling more often.

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posted March 25, 2013 01:34 PM            

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Hmm after reading Becky's reply I'm wondering if her theory isn't a bit more valid than mine..

I don't know..

It really depends on what kind of person he is. If he's naturally talkative and likes to communicate then obviously that's a red flag cause he doesn't take the time to talk to you properly.

Maybe he's on and off about you..

But actually, 10 months is quite a long time, so by now he should know where he stands regarding you and your relationship.

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posted March 25, 2013 01:48 PM            

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^^It’s due to his gemini moon IMO,mercury retrogade in libra doesn’t help either.

I think you will have to be the one initiating and leading things in this relationship.

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posted March 25, 2013 01:53 PM            

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Yeah, her theory is right. But I've got also a lot of buts haha. It's just weird, because he remembers everything, last time he was sentimental because 'we know each other almost for a year' and that kind of stuff. He's also a bit insecure, always asking if I have other lovers, thinking I was done with him etc. He also complained every time because I deleted him from Facebook, when I added him back he accepted me within a second. And the last time I saw him he promised we'd go on a date next time. He has never broken his promises, but I get impatient sometimes. What's also confusing me that we don't need much words to understand each other, we've got a crazy connection.

He's talkative when he's feeling good and then he'd even share the most silly details. But when there's something wrong or when he's really busy he won't say much and wouldn't post anything on his FB either, then he just goes MIA. He was there for me 24/7 when my grandfather became ill (and later died).

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posted March 25, 2013 01:53 PM            

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My ex had Moon in Gemini and he wasn't the talkative type actually. And he was quite on and off about the whole thing, but he also had Venus in Gemini opposite Uranus. Eventually I grew tired of the lack of depth/connection (in good ol' Scorp fashion) so the relationship ended quite quickly.

But this guy has a ton of planets in Scorpio.. so I find it weird that he's not 100% in it. The Scorps I know with Moon in Gemini aren't the typical flighty/detached type of person.. they take relationships seriously and when they're into someone, you'll know it.

So this guy is probably not really feeling it..

ETA: Okay here's what I think you should do. Wait another month or so, and see if there's any progress. REAL progress. If your most basic needs/wants aren't met, cut ties and move on. It'll simply mean he's not the right person for you and that you shouldn't waste any more time.

Good luck, again, I hope you'll be happy whatever happens ~

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posted March 25, 2013 02:02 PM            

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Maybe he is just overanalyzing things,whether he has fallen in love with love or in love with you.Venus in scorpios cut off people very quickly if they are not interested but he replied,maybe he is in some sort of dilemma.

Just stick around for sometime like Doux said,if things don’t progress,move on.

Do you know whether he is interested in any other girl?

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posted March 25, 2013 02:15 PM            

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It would be useful to know his whole chart and the synastry, by the way..

If Uranus/Neptune are prominent then I can see why he'd be kinda wishy-washy/changeable.

But either way, Ishannah, ask yourself if you really want to try and make it work with someone like that? Can you imagine yourself living like that, with what you have now with that person?

If you want a meaningful and helpful relationship that actually makes you feel good instead of bad, you should take a closer look at what's going on and make the best decision *for yourself*.

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posted March 25, 2013 02:46 PM            

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@Doux
does this help a bit? Unfortunately I don't know his time of birth..

Please let me know if you'll need anything else.

You guys are right, but I'm already too attached I guess. I've never had a guy who sing songs for me, holds me like he wants to crawl almost inside me, wants to sleep with our foreheads against each other. I know that he's been hurt very bad by one of his ex-girlfriends. I'd also thought it could have something to do with my own aloofness. He has never ignored me when I texted him and it's not that I always have to initiate. But it wonders me why he takes such a distance sometimes, mostly when he's been opening up. There has been progression, that's why I kept being around. Maybe it's foolish, but I can't let go easily.

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posted March 25, 2013 03:13 PM            

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Here it is!

Uranus conjunct Mercury, Venus and Mars.. whoa. No wonder he's aloof sometimes. You can hardly expect someone with such a prominent Uranus to be constant all the time.

I think he'll always be the way he is now. He can be passionate, sweet and lovely.. for sure. But there is another side to his personality which simply needs space and alone time.

If you can accept that part of him, you may have a beautiful story together. If however you're looking for more stability or more closeness/merging... not sure if it's going to be satisfying for you.

But he does seem sincere. Just that he needs his space and that will probably be a constant in all his relationships.

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posted March 25, 2013 03:27 PM            

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Thanks a lot! All of you. Haha it feels like we've hit the jackpot, lol. I'm okay with giving him space, but because I didn't know where this aloofness came from it made me insecure. When I try to rationalize things it makes it all so confusing you know. I still haven't responded though, I really don't know what to answer. All I want is have a fun time together and just see what happens. He's the first guy I've felt so familiar with from the beginning..

Now I'm curious about my own chart. Is it okay if I'll post that one too?

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posted March 25, 2013 05:48 PM            

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Sorry for stalking you guys, but I've been thinking about his words the past few hours.. Even his response is a contradictory, because why should you regret something that happens unconsciously?!

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posted March 25, 2013 05:59 PM            

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You can post your chart in the Personal Readings forum, and the synastry there.
But it'd be better to use astro.com charts, they're easier to read!

Oh and in response to your last post: Scorpio is about control. So whenever the person feels out of control, they will tend to withdraw. That's how it is!

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posted March 26, 2013 05:24 AM            

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@Doux Rêve thanks again! I've followed your advice and posted a new topic here: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/006484.html

I think you're right. I've talked a bit about it yesterday with him and he certainly needs his alonetime and space.. He wasn't cold about it, just plain honest now. So I feel better and stopped worrying.

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