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Topic: How clingy you are to your partner, on a scale of 1 to 10?
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KarkaQueen Knowflake Posts: 1994 From: Uranus Registered: May 2011
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posted April 02, 2013 07:23 AM
for me 10, I get extremely stressed/anxious and depressed if I dont talk to him in 10 hours, sometimes even 3 :Pcncer mars and sun, venus gemini and moon in taurus what about you gys? IP: Logged |
Snorkel Knowflake Posts: 65 From: Registered: Mar 2013
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posted April 02, 2013 07:30 AM
Honestly it varies from partner to partner. In the relationships where I could trust them and they made time for me, I was fine. It was always with the ones who never seemed to make time for me, or were flirty and had lots of women around them, that I suddenly got "weird".Mars in Cancer. IP: Logged |
KarkaQueen Knowflake Posts: 1994 From: Uranus Registered: May 2011
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posted April 02, 2013 07:34 AM
quote: Originally posted by Snorkel: Honestly it varies from partner to partner. In the relationships where I could trust them and they made time for me, I was fine. It was always with the ones who never seemed to make time for me, or were flirty and had lots of women around them, that I suddenly got "weird".Mars in Cancer.
I only had two relationships, the first one the guy was detached (funny how hes a moon in pisces and venus in gemini like my current boyfriend) so i just dumped him and got bored., he sucked at expressing love, actually i dont think he ever did, thats why i ended up hating him IP: Logged |
Lazyscarecrow Knowflake Posts: 1273 From: Silent Hill Registered: Aug 2011
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posted April 02, 2013 07:36 AM
quote: Originally posted by Snorkel: Honestly it varies from partner to partner. In the relationships where I could trust them and they made time for me, I was fine. It was always with the ones who never seemed to make time for me, or were flirty and had lots of women around them, that I suddenly got "weird".Mars in Cancer.
I am the same way %100. As long as my partner gives me sufficient attention, no random disappearing acts, and expresses when he needs to chill then there is no need to be up their rear end. However, whenever I did act clingy, it was when a guy would come on strong, and then literally disappear. It's like... why come on strong if you can't keep the momentum? And then again, it tends to be a red flag to begin with. I have a bunch of Leo and fire placements in my natal. IP: Logged |
PixieJane Knowflake Posts: 1950 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 02, 2013 07:52 AM
I guess about 1-3 depending. Libra Sun (Scorp cusp), Venus Sag moon, Mars I think in my case my Leo ascendant makes me very independent, "I can do it myself," based on other placements (about half my chart 5H Sag) and something that happened to me when I was 5. Interesting enough IMO, my mom is also a Leo ascendant but about the opposite, taking pride in the power she can exercise over men and wants to make sure they don't escape, er stray, which I think is based on her childhood experiences and other placements. IP: Logged |
lihar Newflake Posts: 8 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 02, 2013 09:20 AM
I get really clingy and possessive and I'm pretty sure that's my venus in Taurus. I have aqua moon so sometimes it may not look like i am clinging and I sort of am cross at myself for being that way but in love I am totally totally clingy in my head anyway, obsessing over, want to know what they are doing, can get intense but somehow I manage to reign it in, however if a guy allows me to unleash some clinging I will push all the boundaries to test him more and more. Can't stop myself, IP: Logged |
starfairy Knowflake Posts: 804 From: Registered: Jul 2010
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posted April 02, 2013 10:29 AM
I'm a 1.Sag sun/Asc conjunct Uranus Aries Moon Venus Cap Mars Aqua In the past, my guys have told me to be more clingy. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 2857 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted April 02, 2013 10:36 AM
quote: Originally posted by starfairy: I'm a 1.In the past, my guys have told me to be more clingy.
Lol omg. That's awesome.^
I'm not clingy unless I feel insecure - which I consider to be a red flag in a relationship, because trust is important to me. I can become obsessive though, really don't like that part of me and try to change it at all costs. Libra Venus Scorpio Mars Gemini ASC
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ail221 Moderator Posts: 3397 From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon Registered: Feb 2012
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posted April 02, 2013 10:43 AM
Not clingy, always on the go, clingy is a waste of time. Mental stimulation from a partner is more important. Plus I like my own space.2 maybe 3. Cancer Sun in 3rd conj Jupiter Gemini Venus/Moon Taurus Mars trine Uranus
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goatcat Knowflake Posts: 550 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 02, 2013 11:06 AM
I would say my clinginess is a 7.I enjoy spending every single day with my partner. I get tired of em eventually, but when we're apart even for a couple of hours, I begin to miss them. Just like most of you, I can give my partner space if I trust them. Moon in Scorpio. Venus in Pisces. Mars in Cancer. IP: Logged |
Twirl Knowflake Posts: 187 From: Europe Registered: Mar 2013
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posted April 02, 2013 11:30 AM
quote: Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow: I am the same way %100.As long as my partner gives me sufficient attention, no random disappearing acts, and expresses when he needs to chill then there is no need to be up their rear end.
Same here. It mostly turned out that the insecurity was actually based on 'felt' untrustworthy behaviour. Which, surprisesurprise, quite often turned out that they were untrustworthy, lol. I have a Taurus moon. So there's some possessiveness (6-7?) and Leo sun. Plus overall rather much in fixed signs. IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 1774 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 02, 2013 11:30 AM
.0001 I need my space, I'm the kinda person that loses friendships with people because I sort of forget about them.If they can't keep up with me I usually leave them behind..
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Got Gemini?? Knowflake Posts: 865 From: The Planet Mercury Registered: Oct 2010
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posted April 02, 2013 09:01 PM
0. Seriously, despite my Cancer Venus and Libra Moon, I am not clingy at all. In fact, I make it a point not to be clingy.------------------ Gemini Sun Libra Moon Gemini Mercury Cancer Venus Virgo Mars Virgo Asc And yes, I'm a guy! IP: Logged |
Barbee Knowflake Posts: 248 From: Buffalo, NY, USA Registered: Mar 2013
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posted April 02, 2013 09:20 PM
quote: Originally posted by KarkaQueen: for me 10, I get extremely stressed/anxious and depressed if I dont talk to him in 10 hours, sometimes even 3 :Pcncer mars and sun, venus gemini and moon in taurus what about you gys?
I think that's just love. You are either in love or infatuated. I always felt that when I was young and in love. Not so much now...LOL, we are both retired and see each other 24-7. IP: Logged |
AriesKat Knowflake Posts: 613 From: Brooklyn, NY USA Registered: May 2011
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posted April 02, 2013 09:21 PM
Not clingy at all. I like to miss people and need my me time daily. I cant imagine being with my guy everyday, but then again i never had that so I dont know exactly what its all about but I think id get bored if I did. Aries sun Pisces moon Taurus venus IP: Logged |
nove731 Knowflake Posts: 77 From: Strasbourg, France Registered: Jun 2009
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posted April 02, 2013 09:40 PM
Can we go negative? HahaI'm not clingy at all...I tend to give perhaps TOO much space, which has led to issues in the past (i.e., past boyfriends have told me I made them feel unwanted...woops. I can honestly say that wasn't the case until THEY got super clingy, haha) Asc Virgo Sun Aries Moon Sag Venus Pisces Mars Aquarius IP: Logged |
inthemisosoup Knowflake Posts: 456 From: Registered: Aug 2011
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posted April 02, 2013 09:56 PM
Id say a 7 or 8. If ive been spending a lot of time with them (and I do like to spend a lot of time with my partner), I do space no problem. I dont mind when he goes out with friends without me or has an event etc. But I do expect some contact during the night...not conversation just a hey hows the night going? Thinking of you etc. I do get insecure and jealous if guys are mkre distant. I prefer a clingier partner, but one who still has their own friends and interests and makes time to pursue them. That way we have something to talk about which keeps our relationship from getting stale. I have a sagittarius sun conjunct uranus, with an aqua asc. Yet I also have pisces moon and mars, and venus conj pluto in scorpio. Water tends to be clingy, and earth also likes stability so id look for those two elements to measure potential cling in a partner. But aspects obviously modify the behavior, too. Venus conj pluto is a very clingy, obsessed aspect to have no matter the element. With my current partner, this is apparently the clingiest he's been and the clingiest ive been in a relationship. I think that general level of cling you have with a partner for sure can be modified with synastry. IP: Logged |
Lazyscarecrow Knowflake Posts: 1273 From: Silent Hill Registered: Aug 2011
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posted April 02, 2013 09:58 PM
Oh, forgot to answer with a number. 1000000 with a untrustworthy suitor, and 2-3 with someone I CAN trust.IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent Knowflake Posts: 887 From: walking with my head in the clouds! Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 02, 2013 10:01 PM
Perhaps a 3.Most times I feel independent and free and they can try to keep up with me if they want, and that often made the more clingy exes feel bad. Especially in public, I want us to seem pretty much mostly as friends. In more private venues, I won't mind them sitting next to me, but I still want to be able to jump up as I feel, talk to others, maybe even not talk to my significant other at all. I get my fill of intimacy and togetherness when we're alone, and really only then. Venus in Scorpio square Moon in Aquarius. IP: Logged |
Venusian Moon Knowflake Posts: 292 From: Nyc Registered: Feb 2013
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posted April 02, 2013 10:20 PM
8First person i have ever been like this with. He also clings to me. Not over bearing though. Damn pluto aspects :/ ------------------ Gemini sun 12th Cancer asc 1st Taurus moon 11th Taurus venus 11th Libra mars 3rd Gemini mercury 11th IP: Logged |
Stawr Moderator Posts: 2309 From: N. America Registered: Nov 2010
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posted April 02, 2013 10:38 PM
Anywhere between a 6-8When I was younger I thought the more attention I was suffocated with, the more the guy was into me. When I was 17 I remember a guy stood me up. And I flipped the phuck out on him! When I was 19 I was with a guy 24/7 for a month. Only time I got space was when I went to the bathroom. It just happened. And as soon as I was able to get away for a while I said BYE! Then the next guy I would think he was so into me cause when we where away he couldn't go 20 minutes without calling or texting me. I later realized that is not the case and that means they have to much time on their hands and aren't doing much with their life, and keeping tabs on me. I'm with someone now who has their **** together. Long distance! We communicate every day. For the longest time we talked on the phone everyday when apart. BUT Lately it's more like a few times a week. Now that he has more of a social life out there. Yes I think it's good that he is being social. But I get upset when he doesn't have time to talk on the phone. Yeah it's okay to skip a day. But when it's a few days in a row I get really fed up, and cry behind closed doors. My sensible Libra with Virgo moon sister tells me at least he's telling you whats up. When I go out with my friends, I will call him before or after I go out. So when he doesn't do the same for me, it sucks. It makes me feel like I am putting more effort in than he is. We usually talk on the phone half hour to an hour, but lately we talk for about 15-30. But hey I'll take it. Today he said he couldn't talk cause he got too drunk at hooters and needs to go to bed since he has his class tomorrow. Honestly I'm not reacting to it much, cause he's been better at calling me, and something really crappy happened to me today. So it's really the least of my concern. Yeah some not so fun transits going on... for me at least. The planets are testing us...We will see if our synastry has what it takes to get though this. (all our saturn aspects are positive.) I'm a Gem ASC Aries Sun 11 Scorpio Moon and Pluto 6 Taurus Mercury 12 Pisces Venus 10 Aquarius Mars 10 Capricorn Saturn 9 Capricorn Uranus and Neptune 8 Leo IC
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happyaskings Knowflake Posts: 224 From: Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 02, 2013 11:42 PM
1. I like spending time with the guys I date but I don't NEED to spend time with them. In fact, if I don't get enough space and time to myself, I'll lose it. Sun in Gemini Moon in Scorpio Venus in Cancer Mars in Leo IP: Logged |
freebrainstorms Knowflake Posts: 852 From: Registered: Sep 2010
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posted April 03, 2013 01:24 AM
7-8, i'm very affectionate and i need physical attention regularly, but i like to also feel like an individual human being. those couples who are actually attached at the hip drive me crazy, but if i was away too long from a partner, i'd just feel the urge/need to be touching them soon. (i'm thinking even like...dancing on the dance floor by myself, rocking out and happy and it's all good....and then all of a sudden i need to go back for a hug and a cuddle or something lol)ditto on needing alone time though, i need to know that they're there if i need them (for lack of a better word) but i also need my space. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 625 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 03, 2013 01:31 AM
10 because I always cling to whomever I am with when I go out. I am very clingy and so glued to their side they kinda push me away sometimes, lol. It's because I feel so insecure, I like to cling to them.IP: Logged |
Padre35 Moderator Posts: 1518 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted April 03, 2013 02:04 AM
2, maybe 4 max.Don't even own a smart phone and it drives girlfriends insane I just am this self starter and always try and find something interesting to do. If they find it interesting as well, wonderful, if not, well that is fine to, I'm still going to do whatever it is. IP: Logged |