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KarkaQueen
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posted April 02, 2013 07:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for KarkaQueen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
for me 10, I get extremely stressed/anxious and depressed if I dont talk to him in 10 hours, sometimes even 3 :P

cncer mars and sun, venus gemini and moon in taurus

what about you gys?

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Snorkel
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posted April 02, 2013 07:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Snorkel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Honestly it varies from partner to partner. In the relationships where I could trust them and they made time for me, I was fine. It was always with the ones who never seemed to make time for me, or were flirty and had lots of women around them, that I suddenly got "weird".

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KarkaQueen
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posted April 02, 2013 07:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for KarkaQueen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Snorkel:
Honestly it varies from partner to partner. In the relationships where I could trust them and they made time for me, I was fine. It was always with the ones who never seemed to make time for me, or were flirty and had lots of women around them, that I suddenly got "weird".

Mars in Cancer.


I only had two relationships, the first one the guy was detached (funny how hes a moon in pisces and venus in gemini like my current boyfriend) so i just dumped him and got bored., he sucked at expressing love, actually i dont think he ever did, thats why i ended up hating him

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Lazyscarecrow
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posted April 02, 2013 07:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lazyscarecrow     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Snorkel:
Honestly it varies from partner to partner. In the relationships where I could trust them and they made time for me, I was fine. It was always with the ones who never seemed to make time for me, or were flirty and had lots of women around them, that I suddenly got "weird".

Mars in Cancer.


I am the same way %100.

As long as my partner gives me sufficient attention, no random disappearing acts, and expresses when he needs to chill then there is no need to be up their rear end.

However, whenever I did act clingy, it was when a guy would come on strong, and then literally disappear. It's like... why come on strong if you can't keep the momentum? And then again, it tends to be a red flag to begin with.

I have a bunch of Leo and fire placements in my natal.

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PixieJane
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posted April 02, 2013 07:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I guess about 1-3 depending.

Libra Sun (Scorp cusp), Venus
Sag moon, Mars

I think in my case my Leo ascendant makes me very independent, "I can do it myself," based on other placements (about half my chart 5H Sag) and something that happened to me when I was 5. Interesting enough IMO, my mom is also a Leo ascendant but about the opposite, taking pride in the power she can exercise over men and wants to make sure they don't escape, er stray, which I think is based on her childhood experiences and other placements.

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lihar
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posted April 02, 2013 09:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for lihar     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I get really clingy and possessive and I'm pretty sure that's my venus in Taurus. I have aqua moon so sometimes it may not look like i am clinging and I sort of am cross at myself for being that way but in love I am totally totally clingy in my head anyway, obsessing over, want to know what they are doing, can get intense but somehow I manage to reign it in, however if a guy allows me to unleash some clinging I will push all the boundaries to test him more and more. Can't stop myself,

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starfairy
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posted April 02, 2013 10:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for starfairy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a 1.

Sag sun/Asc conjunct Uranus
Aries Moon
Venus Cap
Mars Aqua

In the past, my guys have told me to be more clingy.

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Doux Rêve
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posted April 02, 2013 10:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by starfairy:
I'm a 1.

In the past, my guys have told me to be more clingy.



Lol omg. That's awesome.^

I'm not clingy unless I feel insecure - which I consider to be a red flag in a relationship, because trust is important to me.

I can become obsessive though, really don't like that part of me and try to change it at all costs.


Libra Venus
Scorpio Mars
Gemini ASC

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ail221
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posted April 02, 2013 10:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not clingy, always on the go, clingy is a waste of time. Mental stimulation from a partner is more important. Plus I like my own space.

2 maybe 3.

Cancer Sun in 3rd conj Jupiter
Gemini Venus/Moon
Taurus Mars trine Uranus

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goatcat
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posted April 02, 2013 11:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would say my clinginess is a 7.

I enjoy spending every single day with my partner. I get tired of em eventually, but when we're apart even for a couple of hours, I begin to miss them.
Just like most of you, I can give my partner space if I trust them.

Moon in Scorpio. Venus in Pisces. Mars in Cancer.

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Twirl
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posted April 02, 2013 11:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Twirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow:
I am the same way %100.

As long as my partner gives me sufficient attention, no random disappearing acts, and expresses when he needs to chill then there is no need to be up their rear end.


Same here. It mostly turned out that the insecurity was actually based on 'felt' untrustworthy behaviour. Which, surprisesurprise, quite often turned out that they were untrustworthy, lol.

I have a Taurus moon. So there's some possessiveness (6-7?) and Leo sun. Plus overall rather much in fixed signs.

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Kerosene
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posted April 02, 2013 11:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I need my space, I'm the kinda person that loses friendships with people because I sort of forget about them.

If they can't keep up with me I usually leave them behind..

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Got Gemini??
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posted April 02, 2013 09:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Got Gemini??     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
0. Seriously, despite my Cancer Venus and Libra Moon, I am not clingy at all. In fact, I make it a point not to be clingy.

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Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
Virgo Asc

And yes, I'm a guy!

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Barbee
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posted April 02, 2013 09:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Barbee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
for me 10, I get extremely stressed/anxious and depressed if I dont talk to him in 10 hours, sometimes even 3 :P

cncer mars and sun, venus gemini and moon in taurus

what about you gys?


I think that's just love. You are either in love or infatuated. I always felt that when I was young and in love. Not so much now...LOL, we are both retired and see each other 24-7.

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AriesKat
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posted April 02, 2013 09:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesKat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not clingy at all. I like to miss people and need my me time daily. I cant imagine being with my guy everyday, but then again i never had that so I dont know exactly what its all about but I think id get bored if I did.

Aries sun
Pisces moon
Taurus venus

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nove731
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posted April 02, 2013 09:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for nove731     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Can we go negative? Haha

I'm not clingy at all...I tend to give perhaps TOO much space, which has led to issues in the past (i.e., past boyfriends have told me I made them feel unwanted...woops. I can honestly say that wasn't the case until THEY got super clingy, haha)

Asc Virgo
Sun Aries
Moon Sag
Venus Pisces
Mars Aquarius

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inthemisosoup
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posted April 02, 2013 09:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for inthemisosoup     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Id say a 7 or 8. If ive been spending a lot of time with them (and I do like to spend a lot of time with my partner), I do space no problem. I dont mind when he goes out with friends without me or has an event etc. But I do expect some contact during the night...not conversation just a hey hows the night going? Thinking of you etc.

I do get insecure and jealous if guys are mkre distant. I prefer a clingier partner, but one who still has their own friends and interests and makes time to pursue them. That way we have something to talk about which keeps our relationship from getting stale.

I have a sagittarius sun conjunct uranus, with an aqua asc. Yet I also have pisces moon and mars, and venus conj pluto in scorpio. Water tends to be clingy, and earth also likes stability so id look for those two elements to measure potential cling in a partner. But aspects obviously modify the behavior, too. Venus conj pluto is a very clingy, obsessed aspect to have no matter the element.

With my current partner, this is apparently the clingiest he's been and the clingiest ive been in a relationship. I think that general level of cling you have with a partner for sure can be modified with synastry.

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Lazyscarecrow
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posted April 02, 2013 09:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lazyscarecrow     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh, forgot to answer with a number. 1000000 with a untrustworthy suitor, and 2-3 with someone I CAN trust.

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somethingexcellent
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posted April 02, 2013 10:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for somethingexcellent     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Perhaps a 3.

Most times I feel independent and free and they can try to keep up with me if they want, and that often made the more clingy exes feel bad. Especially in public, I want us to seem pretty much mostly as friends. In more private venues, I won't mind them sitting next to me, but I still want to be able to jump up as I feel, talk to others, maybe even not talk to my significant other at all. I get my fill of intimacy and togetherness when we're alone, and really only then.

Venus in Scorpio square Moon in Aquarius.

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Venusian Moon
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posted April 02, 2013 10:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venusian Moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
8

First person i have ever been like this with. He also clings to me. Not over bearing though.

Damn pluto aspects :/

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Gemini sun 12th
Cancer asc 1st
Taurus moon 11th
Taurus venus 11th
Libra mars 3rd
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Stawr
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posted April 02, 2013 10:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stawr     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Anywhere between a 6-8

When I was younger I thought the more attention I was suffocated with, the more the guy was into me.

When I was 17 I remember a guy stood me up. And I flipped the phuck out on him!

When I was 19 I was with a guy 24/7 for a month. Only time I got space was when I went to the bathroom. It just happened. And as soon as I was able to get away for a while I said BYE!

Then the next guy I would think he was so into me cause when we where away he couldn't go 20 minutes without calling or texting me.

I later realized that is not the case and that means they have to much time on their hands and aren't doing much with their life, and keeping tabs on me.

I'm with someone now who has their **** together. Long distance! We communicate every day. For the longest time we talked on the phone everyday when apart. BUT Lately it's more like a few times a week. Now that he has more of a social life out there. Yes I think it's good that he is being social. But I get upset when he doesn't have time to talk on the phone. Yeah it's okay to skip a day. But when it's a few days in a row I get really fed up, and cry behind closed doors.

My sensible Libra with Virgo moon sister tells me at least he's telling you whats up.

When I go out with my friends, I will call him before or after I go out. So when he doesn't do the same for me, it sucks. It makes me feel like I am putting more effort in than he is.

We usually talk on the phone half hour to an hour, but lately we talk for about 15-30. But hey I'll take it.

Today he said he couldn't talk cause he got too drunk at hooters and needs to go to bed since he has his class tomorrow.
Honestly I'm not reacting to it much, cause he's been better at calling me, and something really crappy happened to me today. So it's really the least of my concern.

Yeah some not so fun transits going on... for me at least. The planets are testing us...We will see if our synastry has what it takes to get though this.
(all our saturn aspects are positive.)

I'm a
Gem ASC
Aries Sun 11
Scorpio Moon and Pluto 6
Taurus Mercury 12
Pisces Venus 10
Aquarius Mars 10
Capricorn Saturn 9
Capricorn Uranus and Neptune 8
Leo IC

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happyaskings
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posted April 02, 2013 11:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for happyaskings     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
1. I like spending time with the guys I date but I don't NEED to spend time with them. In fact, if I don't get enough space and time to myself, I'll lose it.

Sun in Gemini
Moon in Scorpio
Venus in Cancer
Mars in Leo

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freebrainstorms
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posted April 03, 2013 01:24 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for freebrainstorms     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
7-8, i'm very affectionate and i need physical attention regularly, but i like to also feel like an individual human being. those couples who are actually attached at the hip drive me crazy, but if i was away too long from a partner, i'd just feel the urge/need to be touching them soon. (i'm thinking even like...dancing on the dance floor by myself, rocking out and happy and it's all good....and then all of a sudden i need to go back for a hug and a cuddle or something lol)

ditto on needing alone time though, i need to know that they're there if i need them (for lack of a better word) but i also need my space.

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StarlightSmileSupreme
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posted April 03, 2013 01:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
10 because I always cling to whomever I am with when I go out. I am very clingy and so glued to their side they kinda push me away sometimes, lol. It's because I feel so insecure, I like to cling to them.

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posted April 03, 2013 02:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

2, maybe 4 max.

Don't even own a smart phone and it drives girlfriends insane I just am this self starter and always try and find something interesting to do.

If they find it interesting as well, wonderful, if not, well that is fine to, I'm still going to do whatever it is.

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