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Topic: Hot/cold Scorpio man
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Opalescent
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posted April 15, 2013 07:01 PM
  
Will a Scorpio man act hot/cold if he is truly interested in you? I met him last summer..disappeared for 2 1/2 months after 1 date and a week of texting. He texted me out of no where giving me his apologies and saying he was wrong to hurt me. A few days later he disappeared for 5 months. A few weeks ago he came out of the blue and texted me. During those 5 months I got back together with my child's father...not a physical relationship and pretty unsteady. Once again he said he was sorry and that some horrible things happened to him that he didn't want to drag me into. His hypnotic charm lured me in once again. I told him my situation and he was ok with it. And still wanted to get to know me. In the last few weeks we hung out 3 times and kissed for the first time. He was really sick last week and apparently still is. He hasn't tried to contact me for the past couple of days...nor have i. I dont know I'd he's playing games with me or not. When we would hang out I could feel his energy and his body langue showed his true affection for me. I don't get it. He's left me hanging many times although he has said he hasn't been able to get me out of his head since we first met.
Anyone have similar situations that could help shed some light?IP: Logged |
happyaskings
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posted April 15, 2013 07:20 PM
Don't settle for anyone that leaves you hanging like that...find someone worthy of you. Astrology should not excuse this kind of behavior. But to answer your question, no most Scorpios I know go hot and stay hot and never want to let you go even when things start to get "cold". Once you are theirs, thats it. Pretty consistent from my experience. What are his other placements?
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Opalescent
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posted April 15, 2013 07:23 PM
I don't know his birth time. So to generalize his asc. Is sag moon is Scorpio and Venus is libraIP: Logged |
Opalescent
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posted April 15, 2013 07:25 PM
Edit: asc. In capricornIP: Logged |
happyaskings
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posted April 15, 2013 07:31 PM
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Originally posted by Opalescent:
I don't know his birth time. So to generalize his asc. Is sag moon is Scorpio and Venus is libra
Interesting. I was expecting Gemini/Aries somewhere in there. Whats his mars? Scorpio Moon...I have this placement and I'm very consistent, but I know a lot with this placement that are emotionally unstable. I've heard of men with strong Libra placements being hot/cold but the ones I've known in person have all been lovely. IP: Logged |
Opalescent
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posted April 15, 2013 07:33 PM
Right. His chart could be totally different if I knew the birth time. His mars is in sagIP: Logged |
Opalescent
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posted April 15, 2013 07:47 PM
I just don't get it! Me being a sag I'm open with what I want. Him telling me he gets nervous when we kiss and holds me like he doesn't want to let go. I've been trying to figure him out and I'm losing my sanity. I know I need to stopIP: Logged |
Odette
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posted April 15, 2013 08:55 PM
ummm I'd say he's just being honest.The way you described this - it does not sound hot/cold to me. People who play hot/cold games, normally do it within a shorter time frame.. e.g. he or she might pursue and then withdraw and then pursue and then act cold again (in the same week or month).. But - to disappear for like 6 months and then come back - that is not a game.
Why do you feel like it is a game?
Based on the story - what makes you doubt that he is just being honest? I mean he doesn't seem to have had a reason.
For example, if you had slept with him on that first date... and then - every time he came back he only came back for sex, as though you were a booty call - that would be clearly - being a *jerk* and using you. But you never even had sex at all ^ and you only just recently kissed. :edit: Another thing people playing games do - very often - is try to make the other person jealous with third parties.. either by name-dropping or actually flirting with others in front of you - that kind of thing.
It doesn't sound like he has done anything like this ^^ IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted April 15, 2013 09:03 PM
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I've been trying to figure him out and I'm losing my sanity
Ok - My impression is - he is just being honest. There is nothing negative to be read into this situation so far - because he has not really *done* anything jerky... The reason you feel like you can't figure him out and everything confuses you - might be a mis-match in your Mercury signs.
For instance if you have a masculine sign Mercury - and you express yourself in an overt, loud, clear manner... and he has a feminine sign Mercury and he expresses himself in a quiet, elusive manner or through ESP, it's easy for you guys to end up having mis-communications. IP: Logged |
Opalescent
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posted April 16, 2013 06:55 AM
Thank you for your response odette 
In what terms is he being honest about?IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted April 16, 2013 07:11 AM
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he said he was sorry and that some horrible things happened to him that he didn't want to drag me into.
About that ^ If he was out of touch for so many months - it makes sense that he had problems in his life. I don't think he is lying.
No one intentionally avoids another for 5 months - to play a "game" imo I think you should have a conversation with him though - and explain that because of the way he disappeared twice - you have now lost trust in him.. and you are unsure about what he wants exactly.
Tell him that from your perspective - to keep a friendship/relationship/dating - whatever this is.. going - you need to be in touch with that person... and if he cuts off contact again for longer than a couple of weeks - you will take that to be 'the end'.
Regardless of what problems he had or still has in his life - he should find a way to deal with that and still be in touch with you - if he wants your connection to continue. I would say that to him explicitly ^ so that he understands where you stand and what you want from him. But I just don't think this is a game. I think he has other problems. Either way - he should get it together! IP: Logged |
Opalescent
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posted April 16, 2013 07:15 AM
His mercury is in Scorpio and mine is in Sagittarius. So yes that could be part of it. I don't doubt that he has been sick. It's me holding onto the past thinking he's going to retreat again when he does call for days, when only recently being in contact again for a few weeksIP: Logged |
Opalescent
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posted April 16, 2013 07:17 AM
Thank you odette! You've really helped and I appriciate your words IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted April 16, 2013 07:18 AM
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It's me holding onto the past thinking he's going to retreat again when he does call for days
I understand completely. This is why you should explain that to him.
Because you are not *over* the way he behaved.. his whole disappearing act has really upset you - and you don't trust him now.
And he should know that. Because he has to make-up for it by being more reliable - if he does care about you. IP: Logged |
Opalescent
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posted April 16, 2013 07:25 AM
As long as he hasn't retreated again I will be sure to tell him how I feel. I will definetly need to find the right words that don't upset or offend himIP: Logged |
Opalescent
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posted April 25, 2013 08:27 AM
Update: he had some medical issues for why I couldn't see him.
I have a child under 2 yrs old. A few days ago he told me he wished we could hang out and be like normal people dating. And if he wanted me to stay over it probably wouldn't happen with out causing me some kind of trouble and then asked if he could call me later. Never called and hasn't answered my calls.
Hes known I have a son since we first met but I feel like that's what's causing his fixed feelings on this. He can't have me whenever he wants and I have other responsibilities..which is causing him to back off?
Any advice? Should I not try to contact him anymore and let him go?IP: Logged |
WarriorPrincess7
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posted June 24, 2014 08:42 PM
A Scorpio guy I used to crush on added me back on Fb and he messaged me, we started talking and he's always been sweet to me, I miss him  I don't know he's been acting hot and cold too for the longest time since I knew him IP: Logged |
plutomercjup20
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posted June 24, 2014 09:15 PM
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Originally posted by WarriorPrincess7:
A Scorpio guy I used to crush on added me back on Fb and he messaged me, we started talking and he's always been sweet to me, I miss him I don't know he's been acting hot and cold too for the longest time since I knew him
OMG THIS IS LITERALLY MY SITUATION HAHAH WHAT EVEN , except my guy is a scorp asc , piscis sun and lots of aqua in him ,but anyways same thing happened to me , he added me , messaged me for a while then didn't message me for a month and then messaged me again and I thought we hit it off well that time but I haven't heard from him in about two months and that has me so confused :-( IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted June 24, 2014 09:19 PM
Probably upset him in some small way that he'll never admit to you.
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DeepFreeze
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posted June 24, 2014 09:27 PM
I just have Pluto/asc 1st...
But one time at someone kind of did the hot/cold thing to me, though more friendship level. One day they asked to go to lunch that weekend. I said, "sure. Just let me know when/where or if you can't. I'm free all day Sunday" I never heard a word so then they never heard a word and it's been a long long time.
Done...they just got wiped off.
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Randall
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posted June 26, 2014 11:16 PM
You deserve better. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 29, 2014 02:00 AM
People deserve more than someone who is wishy-washy.IP: Logged |
Haplesschild*
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posted June 29, 2014 08:07 AM
He went silent as he was dating sb else... Then that ended so he got back in touch with you. Rinse andvrepeat. It feels like he talks to u when he has nothing much happening and when there's someone else in the pic he goes poof again. I mean 5 months? ...I would probably let this one go aye. You're teaching him that regardless of the time lapse and how crap he treats you, you're at his beck and call and would still be there even after SEVERAL months..Remember, words take no effort-look at someone's actions only.. IP: Logged |
Venusian Moon
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posted June 29, 2014 09:24 AM
Sometimes scorpio men act like little girls, just ignore him and move on. He has pluto issues. IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
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posted June 29, 2014 03:53 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
People deserve more than someone who is wishy-washy.
 He sounds like my ex-fiance, has some of his placements too. He also had issues. We need to let people solve their issues on their own. Take his advice and don't let yourself get dragged down in his issues. Every person needs to carry their own weight. ------------------
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