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Topic: Stingy about dating etc
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Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 12:41 PM
Hmm not sure if stingy is the right word, anyways I know its kinda of silly.. I have to find relationships on my own terms. It's just more romantic in my opinion. I can't have any assistance at all! This means dating sites and setups. I actually loath setups, and when others want to play matchmaker with you... -_- NO.My friend is doing that right now with full persuasion. pfft libras Who else is like me? I have Venus in Gemini and Mars in Aries.
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Luminosity Knowflake Posts: 54 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted May 01, 2013 01:03 PM
I am! I was on a dating website for a while and it just seemed so contrived to me. What would always end up happening was that I would go on dates with these guys and I could tell that right away they had all these expectations of me. I could tell that they wanted a relationship. I don't understand why someone would go into a dating situation with all these expectations because you don't actually know the person at all. Dating is a time for getting to know one another in order to see if anything can come of it. The fact that they did this scared me away to an extent because it seemed desperate to me. I would rather be alone than in a relationship that doesn't feel natural. I have had chances to be in relationships but I have turned them all down because none of the guys seemed like good matches to me. I know that I have high standards but I really did make the right choice in staying out of these relationships because I don't regret it in retrospect. I think that love is a gift that just happens naturally as you go about living your life. It can't be forced or coerced I have Venus in Aquarius, mars scorpio, 7th house saturn and uranus conjunction IP: Logged |
hikoro Knowflake Posts: 584 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 01, 2013 01:05 PM
im the same... but, i dont think it is your venus and mars... i think it is just a very watery ideal.... 'what will be will be'...and all of that happenstance and romanticism. i find water people to be very much like this, in particular pisces. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 3146 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 01, 2013 01:19 PM
I'm the same way. Maybe if I get too desperate one day, I may change my opinion on this It's probably a Water thing, as hikoro said. Or Neptune. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 1030 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 01:23 PM
I am this way because I simply don't trust their judgment. They would set me up with someone they would reject. I can do far better on my own, thank you, and do not need their help. IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 01:26 PM
How is that watery thou... I'm not being idealistic! In my opinion its lazy relying on friends and websites. I feel obstacles and challenges make romance more rewarding and you appreciate it more. It's like "I fought for my love It was not handed to me or convient etc."Its possible to find someone by yourself its takes confidence and effort. To successfully approach a stranger your drawn to takes a lot of guts, charisma/ social prowess I don't think neptune gives you all of that. I think pisces waits for love to find them. Which some how works out for them in their own weird way. lol If I like someone a lot I go for it, I don't wait for them to whisk me off my feet. I'm not completely brash and I usually get an idea that their attracted to me also.
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Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 3146 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 01, 2013 01:38 PM
Ohhh okay. Wow, see how elements are prominent now! SSS - Earthy logic. Kerosene - Firey logic! And hikoro and myself - Waterrrr. I guess. IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 01:43 PM
Ooo I just remembered I do have neptune square mars 1 degree. I noticed my unusually high expectations for people I'm attracted to. I'm like THIS IS THE ONE! When they end up being less than what I imagined the attraction is just over.I hate this aspect I feel like someone is constantly handing me 3d glasses and pouring buckets of cold water over me. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 1030 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 01:46 PM
Same here but I have moon opp Neptune. Neptune can make expectations and standards impossibly high. Neptune wants us all to reach for a better world and only wants the best for us. He is like the unrealistic father archetype who wants to protect his children but at the same time, doesn't want them to be with anyone so we constantly think someone better is just around the corner, why settle for this one? It's kind of isolating.IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 01:53 PM
Yeah.. neptune.. gahh. I dislike neptune when it come to real word problems. My dad has moon conjunct neptune exact he's literally in his own dimension with his own laws of physics. Thats really been his downfall in life.I do appreciate neptune or giving us creativity and artistic skills. I think my prominent venus helped me out in that department He totally screws us over in the love department.. while venus does not unless neptune messing with her too.
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hikoro Knowflake Posts: 584 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 01, 2013 01:56 PM
quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: How is that watery thou... I'm not being idealistic! In my opinion its lazy relying on friends and websites. I feel obstacles and challenges make romance more rewarding and you appreciate it more. It's like "I fought for my love It was not handed to me or convient etc."Its possible to find someone by yourself its takes confidence and effort. To successfully approach a stranger your drawn to takes a lot of guts, charisma/ social prowess I don't think neptune gives you all of that. I think pisces waits for love to find them. Which some how works out for them in their own weird way. lol If I like someone a lot I go for it, I don't wait for them to whisk me off my feet. I'm not completely brash and I usually get an idea that their attracted to me also.
i see all of the above in watery/neptune though. it is a more romantic/ideal/mystical view of union and attraction.... i dont know...maybe you have a negative definition of idealistic...? i dont think the term idealistic is wrong...and, i didnt mean to state that watery people wouldnt hunt for someone they like... but, that it just seems more 'insert word' for attraction to occur without technicalities and practicalities (dating websites, matchmaking by friends, etc).... like a good old novel...lol it is an ideal that is becoming outdated in our modern techno-oriented times. i honestly dont know how to explain it... but i stand that it is a neptune/water thing.... or, it can also be a 'finding love via my own means/effort' which, i can relate to...not only when it comes to finding love but also when accomplishing goals, education, job and so on. it just feels far more gratifying to be able to accomplish something and know that 'i did it'. this could be something to do with mars or pluto.... i thought cardinal too....but..hmmm IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 02:07 PM
I see your point now.. I am a water void or pluto singleton.Especially when you mentioned how normal internet dating is. Thats true people see it as convient and everyone wants to find love but why not take the easy route. Its only logical. Same thing with setups and blind dates. Neptune is not very prominent. Moon and venus are very prominent in my chart and they're together. Traditionally moon and venus are water planets. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 1030 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 02:08 PM
Neptune runs in my family. My mother has a moon/Mars/Neptune conjunction and extended family have Neptune emphasis in various ways, by sign rulership or aspect. Everyone seems to have impossibly high standards. It's a family trait. IP: Logged |
ail221 Moderator Posts: 3461 From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon Registered: Feb 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 02:58 PM
I don't like setups, dating sites, facebook groups, I don't want to date anyone that's a friend of another friend. Unless it was someone I met accidentally one day and we were so enraptured with one another we forgot to exchange phone numbers.IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 03:13 PM
facebook groups too? I'm going to vomit...IP: Logged |
ail221 Moderator Posts: 3461 From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon Registered: Feb 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 04:39 PM
Yes facebook groups, though it is interesting watching men and women tear each other apart just to gain the attention of someone they find attractive. IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 05:19 PM
Humans are so strange lol.. I wish I was a cat.. anyways It reminds of that facebook group "the most beautiful teenager alive"..I had to defend my friend and castrate the minuscule egos of so many insecure kissless virgins because of her stupid decision to post her picture there. I don't know why she did that to herself. Btw link this group so I can lurk No nvm. I've already lost enough faith. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 1030 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 07:53 PM
It seems like animals, some of them, have it a lot easy than humans. I wouldn't want to be one that gets caught and eaten easily.IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 08:12 PM
That's exactly why I want to be a kitty. They're so smart and cute and stupid humans like me would do anything for them haha.LOL i don't see the difference now that i think about it. IP: Logged |
ail221 Moderator Posts: 3461 From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon Registered: Feb 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 08:32 PM
Well that's the price of posting a picture somewhere on the internet, trolls looking to tear someone down. You can find that sort of behavior in any open online group though. Desperation is a ugly look though. :/IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 08:36 PM
I know but you shouldn't tear someone down when they look unfortunate too. I wonder why they did it. They weren't anonymous either..It was interesting when I started making them feel bad and they starting going on about how they were bullied and unhappy. I did fel5 kinda bad but don't mess with my friends lol Agreed, nobody likes thirsty bitchez.
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Jkitty Knowflake Posts: 247 From: Registered: Mar 2013
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posted May 01, 2013 10:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: That's exactly why I want to be a kitty. They're so smart and cute and stupid humans like me would do anything for them haha.
A sure sign of a square to NepTUNA! I have to agree with the water placements and Neptunish idealism/romanticism. I've got 1st house Neptune in Scorpio squaring my sun, plus Venus in Pisces and Mars in Cancer (which happens to rule my 7th house). I want my future mate to magically appear on my doorstep, gift wrapped with a tag bearing my name! So far, the only strangers showing up on my doorstep are felines. IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 2012 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted May 01, 2013 10:59 PM
You should own your cat lady persona! I love cat ladies they're all so hilarious. lol @ your username The ironic thing is cat lovers like us are so deluded. Our cats would eat our faces 3 days after we died. I don't want a person showing up at my door step I want some type of challenge to over come thats so romantic to me. I remember in high school I was dating this pisces guy that was hiding his sexuality because well idk he was young and stupid and we both went to a catholic school. I thought it was really romantic meeting up in secrecy and dreaming about the day when we would elope. We would talk about running away together too. It sounds really stupid now but when I was 16 that was hardcore about that kind of stuff. I really did have strong feelings for him, too bad he was such a little wuss.. the scary thing is I would of done it too. LOL... -_-' I forgot I have mars in the 12th house too. I would be okay with my life turning out like a Shakespearean tragedy IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 6607 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted May 02, 2013 12:18 AM
Eh I'm somewhat like this I guess. But, I dont consider online dating a crutch because it doesnt make things easier. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 6607 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted May 02, 2013 12:27 AM
quote: Originally posted by Kerosene:
Its possible to find someone by yourself its takes confidence and effort. To successfully approach a stranger your drawn to takes a lot of guts, charisma/ social prowess I don't think neptune gives you all that.
It definitely takes guts, but all the other stuff is debatable. Any guy can go up to a random girl and try to strike up a conversation, but this approach usually doesnt work. However it has worked for me a time or two and I'm aspie, so you can probably imagine how charismatic I am lol.
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