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Topic: Aspects responsible for an unhealthy dependency on others?
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andstuff Knowflake Posts: 1583 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted May 05, 2013 02:07 AM
Ok, horror story first. I used to have a female friend in my teens, a very calm girl she was too. Anyway, at some point idiotic things started happening. She would watch me at gigs instead of watching the gigs, develop a liking to things I liked etc. at some point I found her journal and (withhold your opinions please) it was all about me. What I said, how moved she was by my reaction to what music etc. also resentment re: why I was closer to others, she seemed to compete with everyone to be the closest to me, to understand me best... And she had had other female friends before with whom it invariably ended in a scandal/ ugly falling out. So it did with me when I refused to spend time with her. Or rather I wanted to meet at 5pm and she threw a hysterical fit over wanting to meet at 11am. Being an empath of sorts I couldn't help feeling she wanted a merging of souls and I am a believer that this could take place with lovers, not female friends Ok, her aspects are coming, but purely speculatively, what could be causing such behavior? Both in natal and in synastry? IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 3165 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 05, 2013 06:33 AM
Moon/Venus hard aspects Moon/Pluto or Venus/Pluto Maybe some Saturn thrown in and Cancer (okay this one is so stereotypical but seriously).Both in natal and in synastry. IP: Logged |
sharpei Knowflake Posts: 264 From: london Registered: Jan 2013
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posted May 06, 2013 06:41 AM
no idea- its quite sweet though of her really!ive never had a girl be like that with me but i have had girls have a love hate relationship with me where i know they kind of idolise and adore me but resent and am jealous of me. my main focus of life will be men though- i need the yin/yang and to feel completed - i like men who are very different to me and feel foreign like im being taken over by something completely different to myself and losing myself in something OTHER or invaded in some way hahaha- i dont think you can get that with another woman IP: Logged |
Belage Knowflake Posts: 1190 From: USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 06, 2013 11:58 PM
The way you describe her that doesn't sound like dependency, more like obsession. IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 5759 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted May 07, 2013 12:21 AM
quote: Originally posted by Belage: The way you describe her that doesn't sound like dependency, more like obsession.
I was thinking that also.. Sounds like Pluto... Also with the control, trying to make you meet at her time.. IP: Logged |
Chirp Knowflake Posts: 129 From: Registered: May 2013
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posted May 07, 2013 03:10 AM
She probably just latched on to you so tight because you were the only one around - you said she had a high turnover rate with friends, so...IP: Logged |