Posts: 18
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:21 AM            

---

I was going to search the forum for anything related, but that will take forever.
I keep reading how scorpios and cancer are supposed to understand each other with little words, but Im confused. Im surrounded by scorpios in my family in circle of peers...they annoy me with their silence. My aunt can talk to me forever, but the men...don't talk at all. One of my closest friends is a scorpio, two actually, but one I quit talking to because shes...on drugs and her mean scorpio boyfriend hates it when she hangs out with me. The other scorpio friend, well,I can't tell if he loves me or hates me.
He flirts with me, I think, Im oblivious. We were texting the other night and it was sexy, and then he ignored me for like three days then said it was a mistake. And Im mad now because if he said it with his heart, then why is it a mistake? I speak from the heart and its important to me that people are honest about their feelings, he knows that, so why is he being all weird now? Im gonna see him in a few weeks and I dont want it to be awkward. I care about him even if he is quiet and dark, I love that. I know he likes to talk about himself, I ask him about himself all the time, he never really asks me how Im doing, but when he does he says things that really make my head spin. When he asks me about my boyfriend, who is mean and I tell my friend, he gets upset and tells me he treats his ladies really well. Why does he say that? He knows how I feel about him. Does he like me or is he just being nice? these scorpio silences...what to do? Also, after he told me that our last conversation was a mistake I got pretty upset, but I dont care because that was hurtful. I dont say things like that to him, EVER!

IP: Logged

Posts: 196
From:
Registered: May 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:27 AM            

---

You're taking them too seriously. In general, people take Scorpios more seriously than they should. The whole silence thing is them just trying to throw people off center and gain control over them - a power-play or attempt at mindf**king, basically. That, or they're trying to appear "sexy".

Here's what you do. Nothing. Just don't buy into it. Go about your day and don't let their sulking and weird silences skeeve you out. That bothers them more than anything, when they think they can't psychologically overpower you - plus it's healthier for you because instead of tearing your brains out figuring how to connect, you're just living your life and in a more positive headspace than that.

I don't know, maybe it's just me talking but Scorps have never intimidated me much, but maybe it's because I have a heavily-aspected Pluto and an eighth house stellium so usually I'm not all that impressed...

IP: Logged

Posts: 28
From:
Registered: Mar 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:32 AM            

---

I'm cancer sun, cancer venus. Ive never met a scorp guy who wasnt a total horned up player. Yes, Im sexually attracted to scorps (whos not), but Ive always felt they were much too harsh for my delicate sensitivities. Also, Ive had scorps do the "ice you out" thing. When they are done with you, they are done, even if youve done nothing to deserve that treatment.

I think scorps do better with fire signs. Their passion levels and disregard for others seems to match well.

IP: Logged

Posts: 196
From:
Registered: May 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:38 AM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by GiggityGirl:

I think scorps do better with fire signs. Their passion levels and disregard for others seems to match well.

---

You've gotta be talking about Sags and Aries, because Leos are actually sensitive as hell. Trust me, I am one. We're probably way more big-hearted than Sags and Aries are too.

IP: Logged

Posts: 18
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:45 AM            

---

He doesn't ice me out all the time, just when he has a gf. He doesn't have one right now. He said he was not in the right state of mind to hang out, he thought we would get naked. I'm offended a little by that, and I told him, because even though my current relationship is...well, it sucks, I hate to think that a 9 year friendship boils down to sex. But then again, scorp. I told him that I cant tell if he hates me or not and thats when he told me he really did want me to come over and watch a movie with him, the next day he said he was afraid we might really end up naked...then he ignored me. Then I got upset, and this is actually the most emotional conversation and longest lasting we have ever had. He usually talks about himself and I listen intently when we are around each other, but he doesn't talk for too much time. He's still my friend. I'm not really offended by the silence, I withdraw too, it just gets on my nerves sometimes. In my autns case though I wish she didn't talk so much LOL

IP: Logged

Posts: 106
From: New Britain, CT, United States
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:49 AM            

---

neither of you can judge somebody by their fire sign alone. i am an aries (possibly the most self absorbed sign), yet i am such a giving person its ridiculous. i think an undeveloped fire sign will disregard others, but when they learn to contain that fire all they wanna do is share it and warm the world <3
it seems as though hes comparing himself to your boyfriend. clearly he wants you but he cant have you, because you have a boyfriend. thats probably why he stopped talking to you. he has these feelings that he cant do anything about. it wasnt a mistake talking to you, it was a mistake for him to have these intense feelings and no way to express them. so now hes trying to distance himself.

------------------
Sun Aries Moon Pisces
Mars Pisces Venus Pisces
Mercury Aries Jupiter in Virgo
Saturn in Aquarius Pluto in Scorpio
Neptune and Uranus in Capricorn
Ascendant Libra

IP: Logged

Posts: 18
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:54 AM            

---

I disagree about the fire thing. His ex gf was an aries...bad bad mix. They suck together.

IP: Logged

Posts: 18
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:59 AM            

---

How can I get him to come around? I snap when my feelings get hurt, I was pretty harsh, but I dont want to appologize because I feel like he needs to know that Im not easy or weak. I told him I just needed a friend and he was giving me butterflies. So clearly Im confused lol
My boyfriend actually said that to me one day about. I said "why is he so mean?" my bf said "I think he's trying to get one inch bigger on me." I dont know what that means...Im not good at man talk lol I think it means he's jealous though...

IP: Logged

Posts: 196
From:
Registered: May 2013

posted May 09, 2013 01:00 AM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by CatMote:
neither of you can judge somebody by their fire sign alone. i am an aries (possibly the most self absorbed sign), yet i am such a giving person its ridiculous. i think an undeveloped fire sign will disregard others, but when they learn to contain that fire all they wanna do is share it and warm the world <3

---

I gotta disagree, every Aries-heavy person I've encountered (barring my mother) is usually far, far more interested in themselves and how they feel and what they want, than anyone else, or about "winning" and being the leader and coming in first.

To the OP - trust me, this Scorp guy is acting this way because he gets something out of it and because he's fully aware that it's bothering you. When he goes icy on you, just roll with it. Don't contact him or anything. When he tries to get you under his thumb with that mindf**k stuff, just shrug it off. Basically just ignore everything he does. When he sees it's really not bothering you, he'll flip out.

IP: Logged

Posts: 18
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 01:04 AM            

---

That will work even though I snapped at him? And he wont forget about me?

IP: Logged

Posts: 106
From: New Britain, CT, United States
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 01:43 AM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by Chirp:
I gotta disagree, every Aries-heavy person I've encountered (barring my mother) is usually far, far more interested in themselves and how they feel and what they want, than anyone else, or about "winning" and being the leader and coming in first.

---

i completely understand. a lot of my aries friends who are super aries dominant have that common one sided view of the world...which in my opinion is just an underdeveloped fire sign. i have a few leo friends who are like that as well.

------------------
Sun Aries Moon Pisces
Mars Pisces Venus Pisces
Mercury Aries Jupiter in Virgo
Saturn in Aquarius Pluto in Scorpio
Neptune and Uranus in Capricorn
Ascendant Libra

IP: Logged

Posts: 196
From:
Registered: May 2013

posted May 09, 2013 01:59 AM            

---

quote:

---

Originally posted by lovemeruby:
That will work even though I snapped at him? And he wont forget about me?

---

If he's worth having around, he won't forget about you, and he'll start to treat you better. If he leaves and stays gone - trust me, you're better off.

IP: Logged

Posts: 18
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 11:30 AM            

---

thank you I feel better

IP: Logged

Posts: 18
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:35 PM            

---

CatMote, interesting chart. An aries who listens to other people, very cool. Aries stay away from me usually, I probably freak them out. Cancer sun Scorp rising Gemini Moon, lol I think Im awesome!

IP: Logged

Posts: 18
From:
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 12:39 PM            

---

Oh yeah, I got distarcted, I was gonna ask...should I appologize for being to harsh, now Im starting to feel bad? I mean when I see him, if he doesn't give me dirty looks and ignore me.

IP: Logged

Posts: 106
From: New Britain, CT, United States
Registered: Apr 2013

posted May 09, 2013 02:22 PM            

---

haha id like you ruby!
also, you have a cancer sun. that means you probably have a good intuition. if you think you do...i would ask yourself what you feel you should do. dont think too hard about it. if you feel like you should apologize, apologize. if you feel like you shouldnt apologize, dont. thats what i would do.

------------------
Sun Aries Moon Pisces
Mars Pisces Venus Pisces
Mercury Aries Jupiter in Virgo
Saturn in Aquarius Pluto in Scorpio
Neptune and Uranus in Capricorn
Ascendant Libra

IP: Logged