posted May 09, 2013 03:06 PM            

Our relationship was a secret to a lot of the people in our lives (due to age gap), we were both complete animals (there's no good way to put it). His Uranus in the 8h hit my Saturn in my 3h~ creatively, he was constantly inspired... (he was a musician) hmm... I'm not sure what to attribute to the house overlay and what to attribute to our actual dynamics in total.

His Mars-Venus was in my 1st house, so we were infinitely closer than what our actual time together, knowing each other, would have indicated. His NN was in my first on my Karma... his MC hit my 4h Sagittarius SN-Venus... so our secret didn't stay secret long... should note, his sun lies on my 12h cusp exact (Mercury-Saturn there too). It was quite a fiasco... could have been a lot more disastrous, but thankfully it wasn't. We remained in contact for quite some time afterwards, and romantically or sexually continued to be attached... (we had a healthy appetite between us), but we were definitely not good for each other in the long run. His Pluto square my Sun~ there were a lot of conflicts, his Pluto fell in my 2nd house of values... we had a lot of differences here. In the end, I'd say we helped each other overcome things from our pasts (not like, last lifetime, but this one... lol just to be clear)... There was a lot of truly great transformations, thanks be it to the house layout and planetary dynamics but it wasn't a lasting sort of dreamy romance... nothing of the sort. It was lustful, wanton, and almost insatiably built on physical-emotional obsessions. It really is amazing things didn't end up worse. (He did eventually have the past catch up with him, but not with me.) No hard feeling between us though. Still think he's a cool guy~ just too much 12th-8h stuff going on for the two of us to make things last. My Mars-Pluto trined his (11h) Cancer Jupiter-Moon. We had a great deal of deep psychological-emotional (emotional) connecting, even in our friendship before and after having been a couple, but it was very dramatic, and unstable and heated. There was a lack of trust, a lack of control, and both of those things I cannot stand in relationships. >.<;

so yeah~ 12th house said high to 8th house issues and then they imploded... the rest was stardust. ^^;

I don't know though, I prefer having people put things in my 8h~ (despite the sun squares!) Aries.... lol <3 (maybe it's always nicer to be the house person~ lol idk!!!) ~noquotey/editinglater tyty! ^^;

posted May 10, 2013 01:40 AM              

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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:
Mars-Pluto (my 3h) his 8h - Scorpio

Our relationship was a secret to a lot of the people in our lives (due to age gap), we were both complete animals (there's no good way to put it). His Uranus in the 8h hit my Saturn in my 3h~ creatively, he was constantly inspired... (he was a musician) hmm... I'm not sure what to attribute to the house overlay and what to attribute to our actual dynamics in total.

His Mars-Venus was in my 1st house, so we were infinitely closer than what our actual time together, knowing each other, would have indicated. His NN was in my first on my Karma... his MC hit my 4h Sagittarius SN-Venus... so our secret didn't stay secret long... should note, his sun lies on my 12h cusp exact (Mercury-Saturn there too). It was quite a fiasco... could have been a lot more disastrous, but thankfully it wasn't. We remained in contact for quite some time afterwards, and romantically or sexually continued to be attached... (we had a healthy appetite between us), but we were definitely not good for each other in the long run. His Pluto square my Sun~ there were a lot of conflicts, his Pluto fell in my 2nd house of values... we had a lot of differences here. In the end, I'd say we helped each other overcome things from our pasts (not like, last lifetime, but this one... lol just to be clear)... There was a lot of truly great transformations, thanks be it to the house layout and planetary dynamics but it wasn't a lasting sort of dreamy romance... nothing of the sort. It was lustful, wanton, and almost insatiably built on physical-emotional obsessions. It really is amazing things didn't end up worse. (He did eventually have the past catch up with him, but not with me.) No hard feeling between us though. Still think he's a cool guy~ just too much 12th-8h stuff going on for the two of us to make things last. My Mars-Pluto trined his (11h) Cancer Jupiter-Moon. We had a great deal of deep psychological-emotional (emotional) connecting, even in our friendship before and after having been a couple, but it was very dramatic, and unstable and heated. There was a lack of trust, a lack of control, and both of those things I cannot stand in relationships. >.<;

so yeah~ 12th house said high to 8th house issues and then they imploded... the rest was stardust. ^^;

I don't know though, I prefer having people put things in my 8h~ (despite the sun squares!) Aries.... lol <3 (maybe it's always nicer to be the house person~ lol idk!!!) ~noquotey/editinglater tyty! ^^;

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When you said it was a secret I immediately thought 12th house, then read on and saw you mention something about a house overlay involving the 12th.

posted May 10, 2013 04:12 AM            

Sexuality was a problem. As I said he was very enthusiastic and vital. I on the other hand am very cautious and hard to open up. He was considerate though, he never forced me but I could tell that with time he got frustrated.

He was jealous and possessive as well although that rarely caused problems because I didn’t provoke his jealousy. He was most jealous of his friend whom I had better communication with. He was often upset with me because if he did something it would annoy me but if his friend did the same thing it didn’t bother me.

Also his Moon fell on my 8th House.

posted May 10, 2013 02:41 PM            

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Originally posted by meyray:

Also his Moon fell on my 8th House.

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posted May 10, 2013 04:18 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
And how did he react to you?! I have this with someone and have been looking for experiences.

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It was always very intense. He would take everything I say seriously even if I were joking. He censored himself because he always thought that if he did or said something it would offend me and I would get mad at him. That was completely delusional because I didn’t care for most of the things he though would affect me. The funny thing is that he restrained himself about things that didn’t bother me but was oblivious about the things that actually did. Even after I pointed them out he continued to do them. I may be digressing because this could have been his Sun/Mercury in the 12th House square my Saturn.

Anyway back to his Moon. I recall I had a powerful ability to make him either really happy or really depressed and hopeless. Unfortunately the latter happened more often. Another thing typical for our relationship was that we were very emotionally desynchronized – meaning when one was happy, the other one was sad and vice versa. It was very hard for us both to be happy at the same time. It was like one sucked the energy out of the other.

When we broke up things became even more extreme and black and white. Feelings ranging from absolute hatred to jilted yearning. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to talk about that period objectively, more so because a third person was involved (that’s something I heard somewhere about the 8th House – that there is always a third party involved)

Now we’re friends (kind of) and I still have shifting feelings about him – from “I’m glad you’re still in my life” to “What did I ever see in you. I hope I never have to deal with you again.”

Our composite Venus was in the 8th House too.