posted May 14, 2013 06:40 PM            

Remember back to being a kid in school? Was there anyone in your school that seemed so quiet and uninvolved that it didn't seem to make any difference to you if they were there or not; they just came to school, did their work, read a book, left at dismissal? Probably you didn't even know their name? Other kids were either really popular or real trouble makers and you ALWAYS knew if the kid was at school that day or absent. Well, each of those kids had a classroom (house) that felt them (even the very quiet ones) at least a small amount, but how much of an impact did they have at school in general? So an unaspected planet in synastry can be a "quiet one". At least until one of the people gets dissatisfied with feeling like some part of them isn't getting their needs met. THIS CAN BE OKAY as long as you're both aware of it and you let that person get those needs met elsewhere.

The more heavily aspected a planet is and the tighter the orb, the more of an impact it has on the relationship according to its house placement and the placements of the planets being aspected. The fewer the aspects and the wider the orb, the less of an impact it has.

posted May 14, 2013 06:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Jkitty:
Well, it would still fall in a house in the overlays, so there would be some influence between charts based off of that. However, I THINK it would mean that the unaspected planet isn't contributing anything to the relationship in a way that the energy is being received before moving on. Are you sure that the planet is TOTALLY unaspected, not even a minor aspect?

Remember back to being a kid in school? Was there anyone in your school that seemed so quiet and uninvolved that it didn't seem to make any difference to you if they were there or not; they just came to school, did their work, read a book, left at dismissal? Probably you didn't even know their name? Other kids were either really popular or real trouble makers and you ALWAYS knew if the kid was at school that day or absent. Well, each of those kids had a classroom (house) that felt them (even the very quiet ones) at least a small amount, but how much of an impact did they have at school in general? So an unaspected planet in synastry can be a "quiet one". At least until one of the people gets dissatisfied with feeling like some part of them isn't getting their needs met. THIS CAN BE OKAY as long as you're both aware of it and you let that person get those needs met elsewhere.

The more heavily aspected a planet is and the tighter the orb, the more of an impact it has on the relationship according to its house placement and the placements of the planets being aspected. The fewer the aspects and the wider the orb, the less of an impact it has.

Are they your planets that are unaspected in the synastry? Give the relationship enough time, and you'll likely start to notice that some areas of who you are just don't seem to figure into that particular relationship.

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posted May 14, 2013 09:23 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
It's my Venus and my Uranus; his Mercury.

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I think you'd need to give him space to "exercise" his Mercury outside of the relationship and do mercurial things like talk to friends, read books, take a class at the local community college, etc (whatever Mercury things he likes to do). You will want to stimulate your Venus and Uranus outside the relationship. Maybe you can do something like make unusual (Uranus) jewelry (Venus) or something (but don't expect him to take much interest).

posted May 14, 2013 10:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Jkitty:
I think you'd need to give him space to "exercise" his Mercury outside of the relationship and do mercurial things like talk to friends, read books, take a class at the local community college, etc (whatever Mercury things he likes to do). You will want to stimulate your Venus and Uranus outside the relationship. Maybe you can do something like make unusual (Uranus) jewelry (Venus) or something (but don't expect him to take much interest).

I hope I've been helpful. Time will tell!

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He does love his books and I do love art...thanks

posted May 15, 2013 01:50 AM            

Not including minor aspects my own mercury is unaspected, and the only two "official" relationships I've been in I've had my mercury unaspected in synastry as well. Sooo I'm starting to think when this happens in synastry it's to force us to deal with our own issues regarding that planet, because they will definitely surface in the relationship

I guess the advice would be to remember that the planet person can feel very hurt, angry, rejected, etc. by your dismissals of them.. So with his Merc unaspected, try not to cut down his ideas or make him feel like he can't talk to you because you'll be apathetic or overly critical of what he says. And with your Venus unaspected he should be careful to not make you feel like you can't show him any affection or express how you're feeling.. And with Uranus he should try not to cut down what you see as exciting and innovative. Like Saturn coming around to be a downer and poke holes in all your new projects or creative energy-or literally just restricting your freedom (just my first thought on that one lol) The lesson for the planet person seems to be self-control, cause there are gonna be set backs, but also self-esteem- knowing you don't have to overcomponsate for the planet just to "prove" you're worthy of being heard, loved, etc..