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Topic: Why do Cancer men put there women on tests?
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Sarahwood
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From: London, united kingdom
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 18, 2013 07:33 AM
  
This guy that am seeing starting to test me :S is it a bad sign? am just confusedIP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
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From: Poland/Saturn
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 18, 2013 07:35 AM
Ehem. One Cancer guy is one Cancer guy, not all Cancer men.------------------
I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
Sarahwood
Knowflake Posts: 175
From: London, united kingdom
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 18, 2013 07:54 AM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Ehem. One Cancer guy is one Cancer guy, not all Cancer men.
But I read somewhere they do that :S so am a bit confused. Thought scorpio men do this testing thing. IP: Logged |
moonram
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From: Neptune
Registered: May 2011
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posted May 18, 2013 12:39 PM
My husband is a Cancer and I don't think he tested me...but I sure tested him! My ascendant is at 21º Cancer.IP: Logged |
Sarahwood
Knowflake Posts: 175
From: London, united kingdom
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 18, 2013 12:43 PM
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Originally posted by moonram:
My husband is a Cancer and I don't think he tested me...but I sure tested him! My ascendant is at 21º Cancer.
This guy has cancer sun in 12 house with mercury retrograde in the 12 house. His ascendant is cancer 19 degrees. Thats nearly close to ur degrees. IP: Logged |
cappy1277
Moderator Posts: 1584
From: philadelphia,pa
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted May 18, 2013 01:38 PM
My s.o. has a cancer rising and he loves to put me through tests...mostly it's to test your loyalty but testing equates to games and no one has time for all that. IP: Logged |
Lazyscarecrow
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From: Silent Hill
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted May 18, 2013 08:35 PM
The most important thing to a Cancer (or any water sign) is SELF-PRESERVATION. He ain't trying to come out of his shell just to be hurt. Water signs are emotionally based, and generally will take any precaution to defend themselves against pain or painful situations, even if it means projecting a certain "coldness", self-sufficiency, or testing a potential romantic partner.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted May 18, 2013 10:20 PM
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Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow:
The most important thing to a Cancer (or any water sign) is SELF-PRESERVATION. He ain't trying to come out of his shell just to be hurt. Water signs are emotionally based, and generally will take any precaution to defend themselves against pain or painful situations, even if it means projecting a certain "coldness", self-sufficiency, or testing a potential romantic partner.
Well it's BS. Hmph. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted May 18, 2013 10:22 PM
I don't think Cancers "test," but if you've hurt their feelings then they will start to play games to hurt yours back. All my experience, don't nail me to the cross.IP: Logged |
Sarahwood
Knowflake Posts: 175
From: London, united kingdom
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 19, 2013 07:44 AM
thank you guys! we havent dated yet and we are just texting each other getting to know each other stage. He once tested me and that made me freak out. I was dating a pisces with pisces rising and OMG he was weird and all delusional but he opend up after 4 months. I am an ari sign its hard for me to understand water sign, and I dont want to do the same mistake like be selfish or anything. I like this cancer guy with cancer rising his older and same field. His just astonished that I am academically clever and not normally clever. we will be dating soon and i hope in person he doesnt :s test me. I get panic like seriously to the point I dont knw what to say just like WTH :S okaaaay and walk away. cuz when I like someone I will naturally open up, these mind games and tests means nothing to me. I am loyal u just have to trust me, he said trust is important to him. he is astonished that I am opening up to him more than he is!
How do I let him open up? I share things with him and I hope in return he does the same IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 19, 2013 07:50 AM
How exactly did he test you? quote:
Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow:
The most important thing to a Cancer (or any water sign) is SELF-PRESERVATION. He ain't trying to come out of his shell just to be hurt. Water signs are emotionally based, and generally will take any precaution to defend themselves against pain or painful situations, even if it means projecting a certain "coldness", self-sufficiency, or testing a potential romantic partner.
Cancers can play mind games when they're young and/or insecure. The mature ones are not like that.
Sounds like your guy has self-esteem/trust issues. And if he's already making you feel bad, run for your life, girl. Don't waste time on people who make you miserable.
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Doux Rêve
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posted May 19, 2013 07:54 AM
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Originally posted by Sarahwood:
How do I let him open up? I share things with him and I hope in return he does the same
You can't make him open up, that's the rule n°1 with Cancers  He won't say anything he doesn't want to say, or do anything he doesn't want to do, don't even count on it. If you're really into him, be patient and show him that your feelings are stable. They need to feel safe to open up. And if he doesn't make efforts even after you've been really supportive and consistent, then it's time to move on.
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Ann7
Knowflake Posts: 258
From: united states
Registered: May 2009
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posted May 19, 2013 08:34 AM
I had to think about this for a moment, ironically the one cancer guy that is a like a brother to me definitely tests women. Quietly, though as they have no clue that it's happening... Which isn't cool but it's how he is. IP: Logged |
Sarahwood
Knowflake Posts: 175
From: London, united kingdom
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted May 19, 2013 08:46 AM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
You can't make him open up, that's the rule n°1 with Cancers He won't say anything he doesn't want to say, or do anything he doesn't want to do, don't even count on it.If you're really into him, be patient and show him that your feelings are stable. They need to feel safe to open up. And if he doesn't make efforts even after you've been really supportive and consistent, then it's time to move on.
Haha the thing am so into him, and i have capricorn moon conjucnting my saturn and neptune and my uranus. SO I can be patient but am impatient like too much, the only thing am patient is with my studies LOL! with human beings I want to kill them or i walk out silently.
Well he doesnt want to hear about my exes but he herd how badly they treated me and he said he would never cheat, never lie cuz he learned from these mistakes. He has a gemini venus inconjucnting my scorpio venus. He said his gd at reading ppl and i told him am scared of that trait cuz am scared what u will see its not what i show to other ppl, he said he woulnt mind seeing it. So i did not reply to that.
I my self have trust issues but when I like u i will trust u cuz as a libra sun we r all abotu sharing and hoping in return the share. he has a libra moon conjcunting my libra mars.
his mars in cancer trines my venus in scorpio. I love deepness but I wish he would open deeply with me that makes the connection and relationship meaningful (well to me) (sigh) I always end up with men who are eaither insecure / crazy / dickheads / asswholes/ cheaters and manipulative or mke me feel like **** ! -.-
They were ARies males that I date long time before and two leos and one pisces. Now this cancer ! hope he isnt like them.. IP: Logged |
LovelyKitty
Knowflake Posts: 206
From: Always Sunshine here :heart:
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted May 19, 2013 12:55 PM
Maybe you don't understand him well ..yet becuase cancer sign square aries?Check if the rest of synastry chart could get along...
Imho,
Kitty
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Originally posted by Sarahwood:
thank you guys! we havent dated yet and we are just texting each other getting to know each other stage. He once tested me and that made me freak out. I was dating a pisces with pisces rising and OMG he was weird and all delusional but he opend up after 4 months. I am an ari sign its hard for me to understand water sign, and I dont want to do the same mistake like be selfish or anything. I like this cancer guy with cancer rising his older and same field. His just astonished that I am academically clever and not normally clever. we will be dating soon and i hope in person he doesnt :s test me. I get panic like seriously to the point I dont knw what to say just like WTH :S okaaaay and walk away. cuz when I like someone I will naturally open up, these mind games and tests means nothing to me. I am loyal u just have to trust me, he said trust is important to him. he is astonished that I am opening up to him more than he is!
How do I let him open up? I share things with him and I hope in return he does the same
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moonram
Knowflake Posts: 140
From: Neptune
Registered: May 2011
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posted June 06, 2013 08:39 AM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
You can't make him open up, that's the rule n°1 with Cancers He won't say anything he doesn't want to say, or do anything he doesn't want to do, don't even count on it.
Ain't that the truth! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 42399
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 06, 2013 08:45 AM
I am a woman with a Cancer Moon and mars. I don't test people, per se, but for someone I care about and have given my time and my love and then, they betray me, I amputate. Once I amputate, it would take them coming to me with true sorrow for what they had done. If that happened, I would let them back but more people will not humble themselves, so it won't happen, in most cases.
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starrystratosphere
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Registered: May 2013
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posted June 06, 2013 03:10 PM
trust and loyalty are huge to cancers. the emotions are so very deep. they dont want to get hurt by letting you in and then not being able to let it go when or if you decide you f them over. I think it takes them more time then the average person to rinse out the feelings they have for a person.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 42399
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 06, 2013 03:34 PM
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Originally posted by starrystratosphere:
trust and loyalty are huge to cancers. the emotions are so very deep. they dont want to get hurt by letting you in and then not being able to let it go when or if you decide you f them over. I think it takes them more time then the average person to rinse out the feelings they have for a person.
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