posted May 19, 2013 08:07 AM            

From experience, people with Venus in hard aspect to Uranus attract unstable or unavailable people, or are that way themselves. They tend to form relationships quickly and sometimes their relationships are short-term or have a distinctive unstable quality to them - feelings change abruptly, circumstances make it hard for the two people to be together, etc.

They can be very on and off in their affections. One day they're into you, the next they're seemingly not.

Usually they need a lot of personal space and alone time.

If they also have Venus opposing Neptune, they'll probably be more romantic than the "typical" Venus/Uranus person, more into feelings, more idealistic and prone to falling in love with the concept of love itself and not the person. They can be easily disappointed and are a bit naive. Some of them have a "the grass is greener on the other side" mindset, which compels them to always seek a "better" partner.

posted May 19, 2013 08:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Your last question doesn't make sense, but anyway!

From experience, people with Venus in hard aspect to Uranus attract unstable or unavailable people, or are that way themselves. They tend to form relationships quickly and sometimes their relationships are short-term or have a distinctive unstable quality to them - feelings change abruptly, circumstances make it hard for the two people to be together, etc.

They can be very on and off in their affections. One day they're into you, the next they're seemingly not.

Usually they need a lot of personal space and alone time.

If they also have Venus opposing Neptune, they'll probably be more romantic than the "typical" Venus/Uranus person, more into feelings, more idealistic and prone to falling in love with the concept of love itself and not the person. They can be easily disappointed and are a bit naive. Some of them have a "the grass is greener on the other side" mindset, which compels them to always seek a "better" partner.

In synastry it can mean that the relationship may be quite unstable or non traditional in some way - long-distance, big age gap, different cultures, etc. There may be some drastic ups and downs and an unpredictable vibe.

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Sorry for not writting it clearly. Meant whos the uranus and whos the venus in that relationship.

Hmm this sounds :S unsafe for me. As I am seeking a commited relationship. he has been in long term relationships. However, he been in love with different culture types of women. He likes dark feature and exotic types.

well there is age difference he is 26 and am 23 :S I normally go for kids lol younger than me at least 3 years beneath me.and another difference is culture and religion am far away from him.

So there is no point for starting something if it will end shortly with his venus opposite uranus?

posted May 19, 2013 09:50 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Your last question doesn't make sense, but anyway!

From experience, people with Venus in hard aspect to Uranus attract unstable or unavailable people, or are that way themselves. They tend to form relationships quickly and sometimes their relationships are short-term or have a distinctive unstable quality to them - feelings change abruptly, circumstances make it hard for the two people to be together, etc.

They can be very on and off in their affections. One day they're into you, the next they're seemingly not.

Usually they need a lot of personal space and alone time.

If they also have Venus opposing Neptune, they'll probably be more romantic than the "typical" Venus/Uranus person, more into feelings, more idealistic and prone to falling in love with the concept of love itself and not the person. They can be easily disappointed and are a bit naive. Some of them have a "the grass is greener on the other side" mindset, which compels them to always seek a "better" partner.

In synastry it can mean that the relationship may be quite unstable or non traditional in some way - long-distance, big age gap, different cultures, etc. There may be some drastic ups and downs and an unpredictable vibe.

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posted May 19, 2013 10:07 AM            

That's not a big age difference, haha.
Well, if you guys live far away from each other, that's probably it. Distance.
Usually the Uranus person is hesitant about commitment and has changing feelings, but it can go either way.

You can still try and form a relationship with that person, just be aware of what's going on, and if things don't work out, well.. you're going to be okay anyway.

ShyVirgo,

posted May 19, 2013 10:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Sarah,

That's not a big age difference, haha.
Well, if you guys live far away from each other, that's probably it. Distance.
Usually the Uranus person is hesitant about commitment and has changing feelings, but it can go either way.

You can still try and form a relationship with that person, just be aware of what's going on, and if things don't work out, well.. you're going to be okay anyway.

ShyVirgo,

Ouch, sorry to hear that.
My father was the same - Venus conjunct Uranus and Pluto. Definitely not into commitment or family life.

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To me thats BIG haha!
He seems commited type just am worried about my self cuz am always into these unstable relationships becuz am not stable emotionally. My dream is stability we r together andn do exciting things together and build a life together and bring ppl in with us. Like aquarius and sagttarius persoanlity I got. I hope so too.

posted May 19, 2013 10:37 AM            

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Originally posted by ShyVirgo1979:
@Doux Reve-

Thank you for that. I've since then forgiven him and healed so it doesn't matter much now. If I remember right, his north node is in his 7th house. So I'm sure he had lessons to learn from it too. Thru LL and reading I've realized there's no use being angry over something that is in his nature and anyone with hard venus/uranus aspects in their natal has lessons to learn and grow from just like the rest of us. He is now remarried and they just had a baby girl in march and I wish him the best. Funny, our 10 yr old daughter tells me that he drives truck all week and when he is off on weekends, he isn't even home that much when she stays there on his weekends and goes off doing other stuff. So he still has his issue with needing personal freedom and doesn't like being confined lol

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posted May 19, 2013 11:06 AM            

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Originally posted by hikoro:
so....natal venus opposite uranus is one of those aspects that cant be changed?
anybody who has or has met someone with this aspect and is committed?

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Hi Hikoro,

I met this man randomly he has this in his natal and from he told me he had different girlffriends and for long term, he also lived with one. but when I ask him why it ended any of his relationships (he doesnt give me a clear answer). He mentioned he kissed someone else while he was in a relationship and tried to cover it up but learned from that mistake wouldnt do it again. SO commitment it can be. althoguh shyvirgo said she was with a TAURUS and there known for stability and wanting a commited relationship. However, it didnt last.
I liked a guy wit venus square uranus natally and i have uranus square with his venus in synstry. I seem to attrcat not stable relationship. so yea wish it can lead to steady relationship. and last long.

posted May 19, 2013 12:23 PM            

He's the kind of guy who does all the romantic things and expects romance in return. At times, he does go overboard. And his constant need for reassurance can be slightly annoying. He's also very mistrusting of women and projects his insecurities onto them. Women here is me. He doesn't decieve but thinks i am decieving him. And he always has reasons to call me the cheating party, based on absolute irrationality.

His uranus isn't much of a problem. Saturn is tightly conjunct uranus and opp venus. We have our 'get lost from my life' moments once a week but those don't really matter. We're back immediately with our hi and baby as if nothing happened. I guess he needs to release his uranian energy from time to time. But he isn't the typical 'today you, tomorrow another' text book uranian. Nor is he very spacey. Quite contrarily, he is always calling, texting or with me face to face.
Having a strong uranus natally helps. I have venus semi-square uranus myself so his behavior doesn't bother at all. I too can be erratic at times.

My ex had venus square uranus/neptune and he was into several girls at a time, very flirtatious to say the least. He was also very social and dreaded being alone so the loner rule doesn't apply to him.
The aspect repeated itself in synastry. Uranus, being my chart ruler and sitting calmly in the natal chart, didnt like being activated so harshly. Our relationship was very very very unstable. I acted out a negative uranus very well. And i also wove a web of idealistic dreams on air and ultimately got trapped in it. I simply hate uranus/venus in synastry. Neptune is still decent.

My partner and i come from different cultural, religious, social and educational backgrounds and have an age difference of 5 years. Nothing is unconventional about the relationship. By the way, he's a taurus with venus in cancer and descendant in libra.