posted June 15, 2013 03:35 PM            

Of course, I would never admit to someone I'm crazy about them if I wasnt sure they feel the same way, so I try to appear cool and aloof and all that I don't care.

However, sometimes other people feel how I feel on the inside.
For instance this Scorpio guy who is close with my crush, always jokes about how much in love I am with him although I have never showed anything in front of them.

I know Scorpios are pretty good at "reading" people, but do you believe that eventually our intense aspects show?

Do people tend to feel the areas where you are intense?

Or there are some certain people who can "read" you?

posted June 15, 2013 03:48 PM            

Hmm..
I think it depends on the other person (their natal, and the synastry).
People are more likely to feel/see our intensity if we get close enough to them to show them that intense part of ourselves. And vice versa - there has to be some connection there first, between you and that person, so that you can even go that deep.
Otherwise it's pretty much invisible, or at the very least, it's not "felt", but can only be "seen".

posted June 15, 2013 04:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Ooh very interesting thread & questions.

Hmm..
I think it depends on the other person (their natal, and the synastry).
People are more likely to feel/see our intensity if we get close enough to them to show them that intense part of ourselves. And vice versa - there has to be some connection there first, between you and that person, so that you can even go that deep.
Otherwise it's pretty much invisible, or at the very least, it's not "felt", but can only be "seen".

I'm thinking about something: what about projection? I've found it happens very often, when one person feels intensely about the other and they assume the other feels something too, and find it hard to accept that the feeling is not mutual because of their own intensity.
Very tricky.

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Ugh, I dont know Doux!!
When I start to feel intense about someone I start playing it cool, ignoring them etc etc, sometimes they even get they opposite message, that I dont care.
For me it's the other way around of what you mentioned- when I feel intense, I think that there is no chance the other person feels so intense about me too so I hide even more because I try not to get hurt.

posted June 15, 2013 04:10 PM            

I actually don't think people ever feel as strongly as I do, either. It only happened to me once, but I know it was a legit feeling cause it went both ways (still, I probably felt more strongly).

Now I'm dealing with my ex-bf who is borderline obsessed with wanting to get back together. When I told him I have no feelings, he couldn't accept it (we have strong Pluto in synastry). He was like "I don't believe you blah blah" and I was just there.. feeling empty. It totally sucks.

That's why I mentioned the projection thing: I can't feel his intensity, because the bond is broken. I can see it, but not feel it. But he thinks it's there, because he projects it onto me.

Is that third person into you?
Maybe they said that to get a reaction out of you for some reason.

posted June 15, 2013 04:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
its_aqua, I know where you're coming from (Moon/Pluto, hello!).

I actually don't think people ever feel as strongly as I do, either. It only happened to me once, but I know it was a legit feeling cause it went both ways (still, I probably felt more strongly).

Now I'm dealing with my ex-bf who is borderline obsessed with wanting to get back together. When I told him I have no feelings, he couldn't accept it (we have strong Pluto in synastry). He was like "I don't believe you blah blah" and I was just there.. feeling empty. It totally sucks.

That's why I mentioned the projection thing: I can't feel his intensity, because the bond is broken. I can see it, but not feel it. But he thinks it's there, because he projects it onto me.

Is that third person into you?
Maybe they said that to get a reaction out of you for some reason.

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We all three work at the same place and from the beginning the friend was dropping hints. Back then I didnt know what he knew about me and my crush as the story between us had ended. But he kept leaving hints to me trying to get a reaction, I always showed nothing, didnt react at all. Later I found out he knee everything even details about our sex life and he would always joke around and yeah his friend maybe attracted to me but only physically cause he teases me, but yeah he continues telling me about how much in love I am with his friend. Now that his friend has a girlfriend I feel like an idiot when he says that to me -_-

posted June 15, 2013 05:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Well, sounds like a classic immature, jealous type of reaction - teasing.
Pretty sure he's into you (even just physically, like you said).

But if you're annoyed by him, tell him to stop and back off. No one should have to put up with other people's BS, no matter if it's 'just a joke'.

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Yeah but then it will be me who is over reacting and doesnt have a sense of humour, and is bothered because "she has still a crush on him"

posted June 15, 2013 05:40 PM            

I'm ruthless and I don't hold back.
I get annoyed easily but it takes a lot to make me angry.

posted June 15, 2013 06:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Ooh very interesting thread & questions.

Hmm..
I think it depends on the other person (their natal, and the synastry).
People are more likely to feel/see our intensity if we get close enough to them to show them that intense part of ourselves. And vice versa - there has to be some connection there first, between you and that person, so that you can even go that deep.
Otherwise it's pretty much invisible, or at the very least, it's not "felt", but can only be "seen".

I'm thinking about something: what about projection? I've found it happens very often, when one person feels intensely about the other and they assume the other feels something too, and find it hard to accept that the feeling is not mutual because of their own intensity.
Very tricky.

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Don't you think that if you looked at the synastry you could tell who felt what, Doux?

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posted June 15, 2013 07:53 PM            

Yeah, I've heard a lot of similar stories about Plutonians being too intense and scaring others away and whatnot. Guess it takes time to channel / control that energy better, or just find the right people who can get you.

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Don't you think that if you looked at the synastry you could tell who felt what, Doux?

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Actually it's quite difficult to see who feels what exactly.
In my experience, the energy can be expressed by either one person or the other, or both of them.
But telling exactly what's going on can be hard, although of course there are indicators (house person usually feels more than planet person; inner planet usually feels more than outer planet, etc).

posted June 15, 2013 09:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Lunae,

Yeah, I've heard a lot of similar stories about Plutonians being too intense and scaring others away and whatnot. Guess it takes time to channel / control that energy better, or just find the right people who can get you.

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Yeah, it does take time. I found the people who can get me but we can't get together as often as we did because of our busy schedules.

I also noticed that I can get along better with those who have foreign roots. I am very comfortable being myself with them without being judged. My closest guy friend grew up abroad and we instantly clicked.