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posted June 22, 2013 01:06 PM            

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I’m going on a first date with a man I met online. He is married and I am in a long term relationship. I love my partner dearly, we have two wonderful children but there are things I am missing he cannot give to me anymore.

We text throughout the day and there seems to be a "connection".

My Saturn is conjunct to his Mercury, Venus, Mars and Uranus (all Scorpio) and my Pluto is conjunct to his Mercury, Mars and Uranus (this is a out of sign conjunction where my Libra Pluto is conjunct to his Scorpio planet).

His Sun is also in Scorpio and my Sun is in Virgo.

Now I wonder if I should go on this date as this synastry (all the Saturn and Pluto aspects) might mean that this could get way messier than the friends with benefits type of thing we are looking for.

Any thoughts or experiences with Saturn and Pluto aspects in synastry

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posted June 22, 2013 03:12 PM            

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I might not answer your question but I would say that ruining someones marriage is not a good idea. If marriage appeares as a mistake then man (or a woman) must divorce before they look to a side. This is just my oppinion, I know many people think otherwise.

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posted June 22, 2013 04:59 PM            

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I'm not going to judge, especially if you both have open relationships (you didn't say, but it's a possibility), but (without seeing the rest of the charts) those Pluto and Saturn aspects would give me pause - especially for a "light" relationship.

What's his chart doing to yours?
You've only mentioned one side.

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posted June 22, 2013 05:51 PM            

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i think its best to detach yourself from your partner completely before heading off with someone else. your date should do the same as well if he is unhappy in his marriage

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posted June 22, 2013 07:29 PM            

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posted June 22, 2013 07:30 PM            

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Sorry for being blunt but I cannot call this anything else but cheating..
If you love your partner " dearly" as you say, why not be honest with him and tell him he does not do it for you anymore ? Why the sneaking around ?
I do not think you'd appreciate it if someone was do the same to you.

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posted June 23, 2013 09:38 AM            

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Yes, I am in an open relationship and he is too. We met on a dating site for people in open relationships. I should have added that to my previous post.

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posted June 23, 2013 09:49 AM            

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That's some mighty heavy Pluto and Saturn action, then.

I'd look for more Mars/Venus passion and frivolity.

I mean, it will likely be intense, but also potentially "sticky".
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posted June 23, 2013 09:55 AM            

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I checked our synastry online and it didn't give me the aspects the other way around. We have no venus-mars aspects. So maybe there won't even be real life attraction.

How could all this saturn and pluto manifest itself?

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posted June 23, 2013 10:02 AM            

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Saturn + Pluto in synastry can be summed up by two words:

Intensity and Fear.

It's extremely binding but usually leads to a disaster, unless both people are very mature and stable emotionally.

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