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Topic: friends?
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lovemeruby
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posted June 27, 2013 12:20 PM
  
My friend confused me, totally normal from what I hear and see about Scorpios.
He knows my situation, a very difficult and trying one, and he knows I need support. I go to him for a little support, Im aware he can only say so much to help me. We trust each other...I think. So I tell him I just need some company sometimes to distract me from myself and my thoughts, to laugh or watch a movie, and he told me he's not that one for me. And then I ask "So your my friend, but only when Im not acting weird? And we don't hang out?" and then he said "Im someone who is just trying to the best he can be for himself and for others."
I get that, but why doesnt he want to see me? I go to his work rarely because he never wants to see me...I think. And when he sees me he stares or avoids me altogether, but he still texts me back and answers my calls more than he ever has. What is this? Talking but not seeing thing? Did he cut me off? IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 27, 2013 01:25 PM
Hi ruby,Maybe he doesn't want to bother with your "problems"?
Maybe he feels like it's too much responsibility to be there for you and reassure you. Sorry he isn't being a good friend to you. You can always come here and talk to us  IP: Logged |
lovemeruby
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posted June 27, 2013 01:57 PM
thanks, it seems like I don't have any friends. He was the last resort anyway... Ive got nobody when I need them. Nobody, not even my boyfriend, my family is crazy and acts like Im crazy...I feel like everyone just wants me to fake being happy and when I show that I need a break or some help, everyone is mean and cold. I feel it and it shows...I have no support. Im a stay at home mom with no friends and condescending family members who are also selfish. I want to think that this too shall pass, but how long do I have to wait. Its been years. Im quite bored with myself some days. I paint, read, write, dance, watch movies, play with my kid A LOT, take my stress bath, stretch, meditate, drink too much sometimes...learned to bake and cook even better, help others with their problems in hopes I get noticed, see a therapist, go hiking, do nothing... work in the garden. What else can I possibly do to stay strong and focused without becomming bitter and apathetic? And why is this going on so long? Im not annoying either, but apparantly I annoy people when I need them. I have been studying my birth chart too much, I dont get it. I read my cards and I dont understand them, play with the runes...they are saying jibberish. Because who else do I go to? What is the deal?!IP: Logged |
CatMote
Knowflake Posts: 216
From: New Britain, CT, United States
Registered: Apr 2013
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posted June 27, 2013 02:03 PM
i would tell the people you are closest to what you just told us...itll start some drama but sometimes drama is needed to get the truth in the light.
the only thing i can think of is that maybe he likes you but knows he can never be with you and cant deal hanging out with you. ------------------
Sun Aries Moon Pisces
Mars Pisces Venus Pisces
Mercury Aries Jupiter in Virgo
Saturn in Aquarius Pluto in Scorpio
Neptune and Uranus in Capricorn
Ascendant Libra IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 27, 2013 02:08 PM
I'm sorry about your troubles  It happens to all of us to feel neglected.
And I know it hurts, but remember that there's always someone out there who can help you if you reach out. Most people are too busy with their own lives to bother trying to help others, but there are always decent people who are willing to listen and empathize. Looks like you're trying your best to keep yourself busy, which is good! But of course nothing can really replace human interaction. Maybe you could join some clubs or something?
Meet new people who have common interests? Or just come here and learn and share knowledge.  IP: Logged |
lovemeruby
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posted June 27, 2013 02:44 PM
Ive done all those as well. Im still not gonna give up for my sons sake. He is my light at the end of this tunnel. So far my honesty has just pushed my "friends" farther, but yes, they did need to know because they are being total narcissitic jerks right now...for the past few years really. My son is old enough now that we can do sports, Im planning on joining a climbing gym soon. Something I LOVE and he is non-stop climbing all over the place, Im excited about all that. In the meantime...Im so hurt I almost cant cope with it. Im even about to go on a vacation, my first family vacation, and Im apprehensive. Because of very mean boyfriend. He's trying to be nice, but hes very dominant and disrespectful to me. I just let it go for my sons sake. He's a pretty good father, but he's never around, he works on the other side of the country and makes excuses why he cant change his career. Mostly because he says, he has a spouse who cant support him... Im devastated by his comments. Ive never worked so hard to make someone happy and them still be so horribly disappointed in everythibg I do, even the way I look. My butts not big enough...wtf?!
And with my friend, sometimes I do get the feeling he's upset because he can't be with me...but how in the universe would I be able to tell with a scorpio?! By the way, Im surrounded by those...my family mainly! My dads side is almost all fire and they are absent from my life.IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 27, 2013 02:50 PM
Your boyfriend sounds like a je*k.
He's supposed to be there for you, at least morally / emotionally.
And degrading you like that..
I don't know if it's worth staying with someone like that.. And I understand you're probably relying on him for financial reasons but you shouldn't let yourself be disrespected like that.
Fix boundaries, girl! Don't let anyone mistreat you. I don't know much about your situation with that Scorpio friend you're talking about, but one thing's clear: he's not exactly being a good friend.
Take it from there and don't count on him. You need to build new connections, and feel empowered by the people around you, not weakened. I know it's hard to find good friends who really care but sometimes even a stranger who's willing to listen can help. So it's good that you're here, expressing yourself. Don't give up! IP: Logged |
lovemeruby
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posted June 27, 2013 03:00 PM
I wont. Im pretty vocal about my boundaries, thats why he and I fight a lot. But its good hes away from home in that sense. As a matter of fact my mother just came over and insulted my son, I speak for him and I had to make her leave because of the rude behavior. She just wants to fight with me and Im sick of fighting with everyone...Its me telling them they have crossed a line and then the drama starts. And the friend...your right, he sucks. I was just making sure.
The boyfriend, yes, financial reasons. And his whole family is a menace as well... But I chased them off HAHA, for now 
This forum is all Ive got for getting it off my chest. Im so depressed I havent even been able to draw much. Someone did ask me to draw something for them, but I freaked them out and Im not sure if I will hear from them again...but, whatev. Still though, how long does it take for people to start coming around? I may be honest, but Im considerate. I dont ALWAYS call people out, just when they cross the line with me or my son.IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 27, 2013 03:07 PM
It's a good thing that you can call people out on their behaviour.  Now may be a hard time for you but things don't stay the same forever, so just hang in there and eventually, good things will happen to you. You sound like a devoted and caring mother.
Good things are on your way, I'm sure! IP: Logged |
lovemeruby
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posted June 27, 2013 03:08 PM
Is this a cosmic friction with me though? I used to be really quiet and now Im sick of being passive and letting people get away with treating others like dirt. I feel like the universe wants me to teach these people how to deal with the truth. And Im highly aware of the fact that when the truth comes out, the one telling the truth gets blamed for the lie and rarely recognized for breaking such a tough barrier. I think Im brave IP: Logged |
lovemeruby
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posted June 27, 2013 03:10 PM
and Thank you, you are very encouraging...wish you were here IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 27, 2013 03:18 PM
Aww  I'd give you the biggest hug I'm sure you're learning your lessons just fine, whatever they are. Do you know about transits?
I think something's in the air for you right now, that may point to difficulties with other people. IP: Logged |
lovemeruby
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posted June 27, 2013 03:21 PM
not at all, all I know is that last full moon rocked my world maybe for the best though... I have to warn people when its a full moon, since Im cancer and all, its kinda funny sometimes crazy lol
whats a transit?IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted June 27, 2013 03:34 PM
Oh yes, last Full Moon was terrible 
Not sure this will help you understand but..
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Definition:
All the planets transit around the ecliptic (the Zodiac). When astrologers refer to a transit, they're talking about a specific event, like a planet aligning with the natal chart.Transiting planets make aspects to the "moment in time" planets of a chart for an event, entity or person (the birth chart). As the planets move, they aspect eachother, and this also creates meaningful cosmic dynamics.
http://astrology.about.com/od/thebirthchart/g/Transit.htm Or you can get info here:
http://www.cafeastrology.com/transits.html
Ugh I'm not used to explaining things to beginners, lol, sorry.
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lovemeruby
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Registered: Apr 2013
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posted June 27, 2013 03:37 PM
no worries, Ive heard of them and read a little, but I couldnt relate it to myself yet. that was a good little definition IP: Logged | |
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