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lovehate122
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posted July 16, 2013 06:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovehate122     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What aspects could you have in synastry to make the other person think they own you .

for example a guy im seeing has Venus and mars in cancer in his 2nd house and he is VERY protective . He doesn't like to hear me talk about other guys in a good way . I told him a story about an encounter i had with a few guys (when i wasn't with him) and he wouldn't let me finish because it made him feel like smashing his head up against a wall lol.

The funny thing is im a Taurus , and so is his sister and so was his last girlfriend and he is REALLY protective over them . like crazy protective . like all of us are born in late April . In his case his 12th house rules his 2nd house . (his 12th house is taurus)

I just want know is it the synastry aspects or the persons own placements that make them this way .

From me interpreting his protectiveness i would say its because his Venus and mars can make him quick to anger especially over issues concerned with the second house .

Like is this because of his own chart or could there be synastry aspects that would make someone become pore posessive or protective .

for example me and him have
Mars trine venus double whammy
venus sextile venus double whammy
mars sextile mars double whammy
Moon conjunct Neptune
Venus square Saturn
Mars square saturn

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Ami Anne
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posted July 16, 2013 06:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Moon/Pluto

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posted July 16, 2013 06:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for themischievousone     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm totally not trying to be negative with this, but isn't Venus square Saturn one of the more tough aspects for synastry?

I would think that has something to do with it. I read somewhere that the Saturn person kinda gets scared of the Venus person withdrawing and that may come across as "I own you" or possessive.

I would think something natal would indicate that too.

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posted July 16, 2013 06:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My Libra ex was like this. Libra Sun/Cap Moon & AC - Scorpio stellium. Not that he thought he 'owned' me.. nor was he verbally angry/aggressive... but whenever I mentioned another guy, he'd get extra sarcastic and cutting and try to make the guy look bad. Even if my story was nice... and was clearly painting a positive picture of the guy in question, he would find a way to run him down and make him seem like a jerk.
He had an issue with other men in general and didn't think men and women could be just friends.
He was even jealous over my gay male friends.

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posted July 16, 2013 06:50 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Venus/pluto.

Venus rules the 2nd house and taureans are famously known for being possessive.

So venus also rules these qualities.

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posted July 16, 2013 06:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Look at your natal chart, see what it says. You can tell if you attract possessive people. Oppositions in the natal can indicate situations in which you feel powerless.

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posted July 16, 2013 06:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sounds like a Water issue..

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posted July 16, 2013 06:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Venus/pluto.

Venus rules the 2nd house and taureans are famously known for being possessive.


Yes ^.

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posted July 16, 2013 06:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mars-pluto ASPECTS

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posted July 16, 2013 07:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geri     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, yes totally Venus and Mars in Cancer can make someone like with a short fuse and I agree a person with that kind of chart dealing with a Taurus sun would exhibit those symptoms of possessiveness because somehow the Taurus unconsciously kindle those traits in a Venus and Mars in Cancer in the 2nd house.

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posted July 16, 2013 07:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Venus/pluto.

Venus rules the 2nd house and taureans are famously known for being possessive.

So venus also rules these qualities.


One of my exes was like this, he's a Taurus moon/SN and his Venus-Mars is conjunct my Pluto.

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posted July 16, 2013 08:30 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Saturn in 2nd house & venus/saturn synastry aspects. Also if the person has strong fixed placements

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posted July 16, 2013 08:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ Hi cappy! Haven't seen you around in a while. Hope all is well with you.

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posted July 16, 2013 08:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, Moon/Pluto, Venus/Pluto or Mars/Pluto

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posted July 16, 2013 09:29 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Faith! I have been lurking around here...just going with the flow of things. How is everything with you?

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posted July 16, 2013 09:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12thhouser     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Yes, Moon/Pluto, Venus/Pluto or Mars/Pluto


I take it the Pluto person owns the other in those three cases? Regardless of synastry aspect, or certain kinds of aspects?

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posted July 17, 2013 12:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lioness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm thinking Pluto also, could be strong in the persons natal and just part if their personality.
Or strong in synastry/composite and the other person brings it out in them..

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posted July 17, 2013 12:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
In the relationships where I had Moon/Pluto, Mars/Pluto and Venus/Pluto - I felt like there was no question about the intensity level between us... and neither of us were that jealous or possessive - since it was so obvious that we were so strongly into each other.

Even in one situation, where we had Venus opp Pluto & Mars opp Pluto -- and we never ended up dating - I still felt like the emotions between us were very obvious and clear.. I never felt like I had reason to mistrust that.. so it wouldn't have bothered me to see him make out with 10 other women right in front of me - since I was so beyond clear on the fact that it would never be 'the same' with those women..... (unless of course they also had Pluto aspects with him! loll)

In the relationship - with Libra guy (above^) - we had Moon conjunct Moon in Cap, My Mars/Neptune conj his AC... our AC/DC axis was reversed. We had a lot of conjunctions and trines but not much Pluto happening.
If anything - it was the fact that on some level he *knew* I was never his... that made him jealous.
Because as much as I cared about him as a friend.. I was never 'in love' as such - even when we were together.

With all those Pluto aspects you guys mentioned - it was just obvious that we were in love - so insecurity was thrown out the window for the most part.
This was even more so the case - when the aspects were very close. With the only man I feel like I was 'in love' with - my Pluto is conjunct his Mars in Scorpio (0' orb) - and my Moon - Cap is trine his Pluto - Virgo (also 0' orb). I was and still am so sure of him.. I can't even explain how sure. I can still say I trust him 100% years later.
:edit: In natal, I have Venus opp Pluto - and he has Venus conj Pluto.

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posted July 17, 2013 02:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmpressMendez     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Venus square Pluto
Pluto conjunct Asc
Moon square Pluto

^Personal experience

I'm the Pluto (except in Moon-Pluto), yes I think I still own him..

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posted July 17, 2013 02:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovehate122     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Odette:
My Libra ex was like this. Libra Sun/Cap Moon & AC - Scorpio stellium. Not that he thought he 'owned' me.. nor was he verbally angry/aggressive... but whenever I mentioned another guy, he'd get extra sarcastic and cutting and try to make the guy look bad. Even if my story was nice... and was clearly painting a positive picture of the guy in question, he would find a way to run him down and make him seem like a jerk.
He had an issue with other men in general and didn't think men and women could be just friends.
He was even jealous over my gay male friends.

Omg my guy is like that EAXCTLY maybe its the capricorn moon because mine has a capricorn moon aswell .

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posted July 17, 2013 02:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovehate122     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Geri:
Yes, yes totally Venus and Mars in Cancer can make someone like with a short fuse and I agree a person with that kind of chart dealing with a Taurus sun would exhibit those symptoms of possessiveness because somehow the Taurus unconsciously kindle those traits in a Venus and Mars in Cancer in the 2nd house.

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posted July 17, 2013 03:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovehate122     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Im not really possessive of him im just like if he wants someone else go to them but DO NOT cheat on me . Its okay for him to mention a girl or whatever but as soon as i do it its world war 3 , he does whatever he can to keep me around yet when i am around he barely puts in the effort and when i want to leave he's the most romantic thoughtful person in the world.

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posted July 17, 2013 03:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lovehate, is he the first possessive person who has entered your life or has there been more than one? Just wondering.

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posted July 17, 2013 05:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for EmpressMendez     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow! This is it. You just described how the aspect plays out for me & the person I share this with. Does he have Moon square Pluto/Venus in his natal chart?

Any pluto squares in your synastry?

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Originally posted by lovehate122:
Im not really possessive of him im just like if he wants someone else go to them but DO NOT cheat on me . Its okay for him to mention a girl or whatever but as soon as i do it its world war 3 , he does whatever he can to keep me around yet when i am around he barely puts in the effort and when i want to leave he's the most romantic thoughtful person in the world.


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posted July 17, 2013 05:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lovehate122     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
Lovehate, is he the first possessive person who has entered your life or has there been more than one? Just wondering.

My father is one . No he's not . Most of my friends and every guy ive ever had anything to do with is either jealous or possessive and if im lucky their both .

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