posted July 24, 2013 05:53 PM            

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Originally posted by IrisRainbow:
I also have pluto in 4rth which makes things even worse ;$

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posted July 24, 2013 06:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
Interesting. I just looked at my brothers' charts out of curiosity, and only my youngest brother (the youngest out of all of us) has the Sun Sq Saturn aspect, and he has definitely been more on the receiving end of my dad's criticism than the rest of us for some reason, or has felt it more acutely, to the degree that he's far more wary of my dad than the rest of us are.
I don't know what it is about their relationship, but he's definitely the most affected by that part of my dad. I always feel a little badly for him, and try to encourage him.

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You should talk to your father about that.

That can really mess a kid up as they get older.

posted July 24, 2013 07:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:

You should talk to your father about that.

That can really mess a kid up as they get older.

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I think that my step-mom and I have both spoken to my dad about it a bit, and I am mostly just a "positive speaker" on my brother's behalf. He's well into his twenties now, so sadly the damage has been done. Thankfully, my step-mom is a very caring, nurturing Cancer with Libra rising, and he has good relations with my other brothers and myself.

I have told my dad gently (he's a Libra with Pisces moon, so he's already pretty hard on himself about the past) that my little brother is very smart and responsible for his age (he's 24 now), and he'll figure out what he wants to do with his life. It just may not be in line with how my dad thinks things should go.

My dad procrastinated a lot in his younger years, and didn't commit to a job until he was in his thirties (not such a big deal now, but it was at the time), and I think that he worries about my little brother more than anything. He just hasn't demonstrated the "worry and concern" part as much as the criticism part, but I think that he's trying to make amends.

I wasn't raised with them, so it's only been in recent years that we've all really talked about it. It helped tremendously when my dad stopped drinking, of course.

posted July 24, 2013 08:04 PM            

My parents didn't really raise my, my grandparents did, but they were good to me. I loved my grandma! =)

My dad was distant, cold, aloof..but it was normal, he wasn't mean to me at all though. My mother is sort of a push-over, not controlling or whatever else (I also have Moon sq Venus, but Moon also trines Jupiter and Saturn)

My parents were just distant and I grew up in a different country altogether, so when they tried to be with me I just felt strange around my parents - I needed my grandparents in order to be with my parents once I was older. Saturn in 9th house and Uranus in 10th both are my chart rulers.