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Topic: Tell me about Cancers sideway moves :)
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Freesia
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posted July 27, 2013 06:06 PM
  
Hi, I know there are many topics about that Cancer man like this sideway moving to their feminine target till they test the woman and decide to catch her (or not).
I would like you to tell real stories about their moves, how do they act, what does it mean "sideways" practically?
And what kind of REaction do they await from a woman (as positive)?
How did you react (if a woman) and what was the result?
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IrisRainbow
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Registered: Jul 2013
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posted July 27, 2013 06:15 PM
I'm not a man but I'm a cancer sun so I know a thing or two :P
First,don't insult them.They take everything really personally and feel awkward and unwanted afterwards.
If they do or say something wrong it's probably because they are shy and feel nervous.They feel nervous around new people or their crush
Cancers are not the type of men that will grab you and throw you onto the bed the exact same night.They take it slow.They are smooth and they do not cheat,nor want to get cheated on or betrayed.They are too sensitive.
You need to have patience with them.Just bring the imagine of the crab in your head and the way it walks.It never walks directly to it's target.A cancer man will probably take you out for dinner,give you flowers,tell you how beautiful you look but will never tell you that they are into you right away.They fear rejection.
Also,don't flirt around.Show him you're a girl that if he wants to he can settle down with.They need to feel secure.
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breeandpen
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posted July 27, 2013 07:29 PM
I know a Cancer guy ( with a bunch of other Cancer placements as well, including Mars and Mercury ) from my best friend, he's her cousin. Basically that particular side of her family is really close, and they were all at her house for Thanksgiving. My friend and I were chatting over facebook for a while that day. What I hadn't known at the time was that somewhere during that conversation, she'd gone upstairs to tidy her room after her other cousin had wrecked it some, and she never said she was leaving. So the Cancer guy I guess took this to his advantage and he started talking to me from my best friends account, and he was posing as her. .__. And then, me thinking it was my best friend, he was asking me personal questions like what I was doing, and then he progressed to ask what I thought of him, and he was VERY persevering. xD When I didn't give him a straight answer he would become more and more demanding and I questioned if this was even my friend because she really isn't the one in our friendship who cares who I like or even about relationships, I'm the obsessive one and the only reason we're really friends is to balance each other out xD ( I'm a Scorpio with a Libra moon, so.. xD ) So then he said yes, of course, and then when he got desperate he kept saying that he liked me "a little" over and over, until he had to leave my cousins house and then my cousin got back on to her own account and the last bit of the chat was her telling me that her cousin had been on her computer for the past three hours. And she never read the conversation between her cousin and I. I've never addressed him about it even though I like him because I'm very passive when I like a guy. ^///^. IP: Logged |
Freesia
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posted July 29, 2013 01:25 PM
@IrisRainbow
You described very good their thinking. Cancers slowliness is just killing me. Each time I decide to throw them out of my head once for all and to move on with my life they appear again. I want to understand them better.@breeandpen
Your story shows that Cancers can also be deceivers  This is sad.
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IrisRainbow
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posted July 29, 2013 01:41 PM
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Originally posted by Freesia:
@IrisRainbow
You described very good their thinking. Cancers slowliness is just killing me. Each time I decide to throw them out of my head once for all and to move on with my life they appear again. I want to understand them better.@breeandpen
Your story shows that Cancers can also be deceivers This is sad.
Cancers are usually stuck to their past.Whether that means their childhood,their mother,their ex partners or friends.
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charlie
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posted July 29, 2013 04:07 PM
I'm a Cancer sun, Venus, Mercury, Ceres plus Saturn in 11H. I am very forward with whom I want.
I have also a long record of cheating and sadly all other Cancers I know have cheated as well. My friends mean more than my family. I am not sensitive but I do hang on to "old" stuff like antique furniture and paintings. My home is where I regenerate and my home has proven to be my bedroom. I am super intuitive so I can tell when people lie, which annoy the sh1t out of me!! I love food!!! People and conversation bore me very quickly. That's it.
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Freesia
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posted July 29, 2013 04:19 PM
@charlie
Thanks for honesty.  Do you have a good relationship with your mother?Speaking about Cancers home, how soon would you ask a girl to visit your home? Do you invite every girl to show your home or just if she is a special one? IP: Logged |
Freesia
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posted July 31, 2013 07:13 AM
Has anybody else a story? IP: Logged |
Azurenite
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posted July 31, 2013 11:45 PM
I have a cancer moon and ascendant. I go "sideways" when pursuing a love interest, that's for sure. I'm indirect to point that they don't know if I'm interested or not. Only after a long time does it become apparent. I've never cheated. Love food and homey things like cozy blankets and photos on the walls.IP: Logged |
Freesia
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posted August 01, 2013 03:09 PM
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Originally posted by Azurenite:
I have a cancer moon and ascendant. I go "sideways" when pursuing a love interest, that's for sure. I'm indirect to point that they don't know if I'm interested or not. Only after a long time does it become apparent.
If your love interest chases you how do you react? Are you positive or holding back at the start? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted August 01, 2013 03:21 PM
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Originally posted by IrisRainbow:
I'm not a man but I'm a cancer sun so I know a thing or two :P
First,don't insult them.They take everything really personally and feel awkward and unwanted afterwards.
If they do or say something wrong it's probably because they are shy and feel nervous.They feel nervous around new people or their crush
Cancers are not the type of men that will grab you and throw you onto the bed the exact same night.They take it slow.They are smooth and they do not cheat,nor want to get cheated on or betrayed.They are too sensitive.
You need to have patience with them.Just bring the imagine of the crab in your head and the way it walks.It never walks directly to it's target.A cancer man will probably take you out for dinner,give you flowers,tell you how beautiful you look but will never tell you that they are into you right away.They fear rejection.
Also,don't flirt around.Show him you're a girl that if he wants to he can settle down with.They need to feel secure.
It's going to take time but you will know if he wants you and if he knows it too,he'll come to get you
That is interesting. I thought you were a woman  ------------------
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hannaramaa
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posted August 01, 2013 04:13 PM
Ahem... does no one remember Cancer is a cardinal sign?!*They're always close with their mothers. Always. Even if they have an unhealthy relationship with her, it is a very close or emotional bond (sure sure, then there's going to be a few members who pop up "Me and my mom aren't close, blahdee dah. Good for you. :thumbs up *Many Cancers are social people, and enjoy social drinking. I have yet to meet a Cancer who will turn down a good drink. I think they use this to relax their antennaes. Which brings me to my next point... *Cancers always have their feelers out. This is why they prefer sideways to directness, they will pick up more this way by analyzing little things. *Cancers can be very clingy and needy! They may have a lot going on in their life, and need you to be their solidity. They're usually fairly good with money, but emotionally, despite their long roster of "friends," they only have a FEW people they open up to. Really open up to. Like call every time they have a fight with their boyfriend, or their mother, or when they had a bad day and vent type of close. If they do this with you you are for sure special to them, and they'll take you back many times over. *They are very touchy-feely when they're into you, unabashedly too. I went on a date with a Cancer man I used to attend high school with but didn't remember and he was all over me, but not in a sexual way (of course... he had Mars in Leo too, so...) *They love their naps! Don't f.ck with their naps or they'll get moody and pis.y. It's not terrible, but it's annoying.
Anything else?
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Yanmorg
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posted August 01, 2013 06:07 PM
I have been involved with a Cancer man for over 3 years now. He moved to another state about a year and a half ago so our communication is not as frequent, but we still keep in touch. After I ended our relationship a couple of months after we first started seeing each other, he literally ignored me for 8 months, but me being an insane and persistent Scorpio, I eventually got him to come around. After that, we kept in touch then lost contact for awhile. When I reactivated my Facebook, he immediately sent me a random message telling me he loved me and I was the only girl he had ever loved. I was extremely shocked and surprised because the way this Cancer moves made me back off. He's not direct and he goes into his shell more often than I would like to since I'm always very direct and intense. From my experience, Cancer men are kind-hearted at heart despite their "male tendencies". I always feel like his actions are never done maliciously or with bad intent. He moved forward then retreats unto he's ready to move forward again. It's frustrating but I cherish every "forward" moment in our relationship.IP: Logged |
Freesia
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posted August 31, 2013 09:17 AM
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SagittariusRising
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posted August 31, 2013 09:21 PM
I'm a Cancer Sun/Merc/Venus female. I worked alongside three Cancer males for about three years, best Cancer male lesson ever.What hannaramaa and Yanmorg said about Cancers is largely accurate, but I will tell you this: If you want a Cancer male, make sure he is secure (whether it's emotionally or financially). I worked alongside three Cancers, two were okay in their self-confidence, and the third (our supervisor) was very insecure. One was separated from his wife and taking his failing marriage in stride (dating, lol), the second in a happy marriage, the supervisor in an unhappy long-term relationship. The supervisor was a serial cheater and mimicked the actions of his serial cheater best friend. He often needed validation, especially from women. He also NEEDED to be seen as "the man", going as far to openly discuss his sexcapades while we were working. He was very domineering in regards to raising his daughter and people he felt ranked "below" him, either on the job or intellectually. Although he was close to his mother and sisters and had female friends, he was quite chauvinistic. The first two Cancers were very laid-back and easygoing, quite social, loved their family and friends, and generous. They were well-liked by everyone. They both were adventurous to a degree, while the supervisor was a bit of a late bloomer. That is the Cancer guy you want, as we're naturally into our home and feeling "comfortable"--a Cancer with Air or Fire placements can be beneficial in adding needed balance to our personalities and experiences. In my humble opinion, an insecure water sign male is NOT good--they can be very vindictive, manipulative, and/or abusive. Even with the two self-confident Cancers I worked with, I noticed that they ALL were concerned with being seen as macho. In some Cancer males, they struggle with gender/cultural roles in my observation; their natural sensitivity can be associated with femininity. IP: Logged |
SagittariusRising
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posted August 31, 2013 09:31 PM
Hmm, looks like I went off on a tangent.To better answer the OP's question: IME, the self-assured Cancer male will approach you in a gentle, often humorous manner to ease the tension. It depends on the level of confidence he has if he can approach you with people around you. I've not had a long-term relationship with a Cancer male, but I met one at a lounge, another at a restaurant. The first had a couple of drinks and was very funny, sort of self-deprecating. The second smiled at me while I was making my way back from the restroom. I smiled back at him when I was getting up to leave, and he ran after me and caught up with me in the parking lot. A Virgo ex of mine (PACKED 4H stellium), I met through one of his best friends. We talked over the phone everyday for about a monnth before he decided it was time to take me on a date to his fave restaurant. His friends were like, "Whoaaaaaaa, he must REALLY like you!!!" LOL IP: Logged |
Zander916
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posted August 31, 2013 09:32 PM
Don't do it to a Leo. They'll take it as being flaky and crush you. LOL IP: Logged |
FruitTreeFresh
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posted August 31, 2013 10:22 PM
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Originally posted by Zander916:
Don't do it to a Leo. They'll take it as being flaky and crush you. LOL
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Freesia
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posted September 02, 2013 05:45 AM
Do "secure ones" also need long retriets in the beginning stage of flirting?
Like asking to dates a couple of months then retrieting for a month in his shell without any visible reason, is it a usual Cancer mans attitude? Does Cancer wait for a chase or should I leave him alone until he is ready to return if ever? IP: Logged |
SagittariusRising
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posted September 02, 2013 01:23 PM
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Originally posted by Freesia:
Do "secure ones" also need long retriets in the beginning stage of flirting?
Like asking to dates a couple of months then retrieting for a month in his shell without any visible reason, is it a usual Cancer mans attitude? Does Cancer wait for a chase or should I leave him alone until he is ready to return if ever?
That's interesting. He's retreating in the beginning stage? I would think in the beginning when the other party is showing an interest, that's the validation that a sensitive Cancer needs. How receptive have you been with him? If you have been playing hard to get, or in any way busy, it's not good. Cancer NEEDS validation and reciprocity in romance. And do remember we're ruled by the Moon; we're changeable. We're sometimes bright, sometimes dark. But we don't forget about anybody when we "retreat", we're just needing our quiet place for our sanity! LOL So it could be due to his Cancerian moodiness, family/work issues, or not feeling like he's good enough for you. OR, he could have other options (i.e. another girl he's dating/flirting with). There are too many variables. The more insight you have on his life, family and friends, the better. I would plainly let Cancer guy know you like him, sincerely compliment him, and be warm. If he likes you, he will come, and that's with any guy. And don't you wait on him, either, continue to meet new people. Don't miss out on any new opportunities! IP: Logged |
SagittariusRising
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posted September 02, 2013 01:30 PM
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Zander916
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posted September 02, 2013 01:53 PM
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Originally posted by FruitTreeFresh:
Why so?
We're very direct. If we see too much side-shifting and dodging then we assume there is something to hide or a game being played and not fully honesty. I liked this woman. We talked a lot, I would flirt a little and she withdraw slightly. I even told her how I felt a couple of times and she withdrew some. I just thought, "Okay whatever. She's not interested like that."
If I withdrew a little bit though, she would get all concerned that I was upset with her and she would sometimes flirt with me also.
I just felt like I was being taken for a ride and I snapped on her. IP: Logged |
Freesia
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posted September 02, 2013 02:54 PM
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Originally posted by Zander916:
If we see too much side-shifting and dodging then we assume there is something to hide or a game being played and not fully honesty.
Are you Leo Sun? Funny cause I feel the same cause I'm direct myself and these games with back and force are making me nervous. I can not understand what this person wants from me. One week shines as sun, flirts and takes you out, the other week you can not hear from him. Then reappears again as if nothing happened.
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Freesia
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posted September 02, 2013 03:09 PM
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Originally posted by SagittariusRising:
That's interesting. He's retreating in the beginning stage? I would think in the beginning when the other party is showing an interest, that's the validation that a sensitive Cancer needs. How receptive have you been with him? If you have been playing hard to get, or in any way busy, it's not good. Cancer NEEDS validation and reciprocity in romance. And do remember we're ruled by the Moon; we're changeable. We're sometimes bright, sometimes dark. But we don't forget about anybody when we "retreat", we're just needing our quiet place for our sanity! LOLI would plainly let Cancer guy know you like him, sincerely compliment him, and be warm. If he likes you, he will come, and that's with any guy. And don't you wait on him, either, continue to meet new people. Don't miss out on any new opportunities!
Yep, I'm warm when he contacts me. He is keeping in touch but I have a feeling he is waiting on me doing something.
I did not play hard to get (I guess). But I'm a pretty much reserved person in my attitude till I get to know a guy better. I'm not opening up myself early. So we both are the same. IP: Logged | |
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