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Topic: A Virgo that's deeply hurt by an Aquarius..
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SilverFeather Knowflake Posts: 473 From: Mercury sometimes...Jupiter some other times Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 01, 2013 02:22 AM
My Virgo cousin has been married for three months now and her Aquarius husband already cheated on her THREE times !! Imagine that. He mentally, emotionally and physically drained her. She forgave him the first and the second time since it was only on the phone but on third time she found he was actually sleeping with two girls along aside with HER ! She's been complaining about how emotionally distant and cold he has been lately. He never tells her that he loves her, he doesn't cuddle nor does he initiate sex. She is always the one who does, two weeks ago I went with her to the mall because she wanted to buy a new sexy pair of nightgowns so that she'd look sexier for him only to find out a few days later that he's screwing a punch of girls behind her back. It was so hard for me to see her break down with all the tears and screaming. He terribly hurt her and the ******* didn't even apologize for it ! My double Aquarius Dad did the same to my mom and so did one my Aqua friends to his fiancée. The more personal experiences I hear about Aqua men, the more I detest them. They cheat and lie and actually feel damn JUSTIFIED. This may sound rather " strange" to some coming from a Sagittarius Sun/Venus/Mars/Mercury woman but I can forgive anything but cheating, like NEVER !! I'm honest to the highest level, if I want to have sex with someone else aside from my bf, I will go and tell my bf that I feel more attracted to that said someone and that we should better break up rather than end up hurt each other. I don't do secrecy and the lying games, they disgust me honestly and I noticed that's almost an unbroken pattern with Aqua Sun/Venus or Mars men. Air and Water are the best match made in HEll ! so it's better for them to stir away from each other ! I'm 75% fire and personally I cannot get along with Aqua males even as friends. there's a certain coldness to them that chills you to the bones. Cappy males are actually " warmer" than them which something I noticed more than once. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 6981 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 01, 2013 02:50 AM
quote: Originally posted by SilverFeather: My Virgo cousin has been married for three months now and her Aquarius husband already cheated on her THREE times !! Imagine that. He mentally, emotionally and physically drained her. She forgave him the first and the second time since it was only on the phone but on third time she found he was actually sleeping with two girls along aside with HER ! She's been complaining about how emotionally distant and cold he has been lately. He never tells her that he loves her, he doesn't cuddle nor does he initiate sex. She is always the one who does, two weeks ago I went with her to the mall because she wanted to buy a new sexy pair of nightgowns so that she'd look sexier for him only to find out a few days later that he's screwing a punch of girls behind her back. It was so hard for me to see her break down with all the tears and screaming. He terribly hurt her and the ******* didn't even apologize for it ! My double Aquarius Dad did the same to my mom and so did one my Aqua friends to his fiancée. The more personal experiences I hear about Aqua men, the more I detest them. They cheat and lie and actually feel damn JUSTIFIED. This may sound rather " strange" to some coming from a Sagittarius Sun/Venus/Mars/Mercury woman but I can forgive anything but cheating, like NEVER !! I'm honest to the highest level, if I want to have sex with someone else aside from my bf, I will go and tell my bf that I feel more attracted to that said someone and that we should better break up rather than end up hurt each other. I don't do secrecy and the lying games, they disgust me honestly and I noticed that's almost an unbroken pattern with Aqua Sun/Venus or Mars men. Air and Water are the best match made in HEll ! so it's better for them to stir away from each other ! I'm 75% fire and personally I cannot get along with Aqua males even as friends. there's a certain coldness to them that chills you to the bones. Cappy males are actually " warmer" than them which something I noticed more than once.
Yes we are cold hearted aren't we?
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lalalinda Moderator Posts: 3271 From: nevada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 01, 2013 03:10 AM
oh that's to bad This behavior is not going to change if she loves him so much that she's willing to adapt to that lifestyle (not recommended) then more power to her but if she can't she should cut her losses now before something worse happens like a STD or an unplanned pregnancy. 3 Months? Doesn't sound like he was ever serious about giving this union a chance. ------------------
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Bluejay Newflake Posts: 5 From: Registered: Jun 2013
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posted August 01, 2013 03:53 AM
Unless your cousin is willing to accept this as part of their relationship, she should run like hell. This guy sounds like a sex addict that has no self control or remorse for cheating. I don't understand why men like this even get married. I think they really just want a woman to take care of the household and cook for them. My dad is an Aquarius and he has always been a lady's man. It's pathetic, women young and old love him, and they can't see him for what he is-a dirty old man. I think the only woman he really ever loved was his mother...big time mama's boy. Sorry to get off on a tangent there...I've seen so many comments about Aquarius men being cheaters, and my dad definitely fits the stereotype. If your cousin stays in this marriage, she has taught him that there are no consequences to his behavior. Not only that, but he isn't interested in having sex with her? This guy is a creep, and she should consider herself lucky to get away from him before they build a life together. IP: Logged |
jellyfishtry Knowflake Posts: 864 From: LaLa land Registered: Apr 2013
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posted August 01, 2013 04:20 AM
Silverfeather, where is this guys Pluto? 7th house by any chance? If not does he have any planets in the 7th or 8th house? IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7493 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 01, 2013 04:37 AM
I`m very sorry to hear that. But honestly,unfortunately these douchebags come under just an sign.The ex-boyfriend of my friend did practically the same to her, just he would be lying about it and stringing her along for MONTHS, just because he didn`t want anything in his life to change. I guess she was like a comfortable old shoe, he had gotten used to. She is a Virgo, too. He had a stellium in Libra. On the other hand my Dad is an Aquarius (Sun, Venus, Jupiter in Aquarius), has been married for nearly 40 years to my mum, and never cheated. I think in the beginning they had a talk about how there is a line between friendship and love/ sex, and how women would not understand that he is just being charming and friendly, and if he didn`t watch that friendly charm of his, my mom wouldn`t have any of that, leave in a flash and probably take his balls with her. (She is a SCorpio with Virgo Moon, Venus and Mars, and I can imagine how they had that discussion in a very rational tone. lol).
I am probably exaggerating a little, but fact is, that they have been married happily for all these years, and my Dad still has only eyes for my mom, besides it would be difficult to cheat on her, as they practically spend every minute of the day with each other. So, no, not all Aquarius Men are like that.
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Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7493 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 01, 2013 04:41 AM
quote: Originally posted by jellyfishtry: Silverfeather, where is this guys Pluto? 7th house by any chance? If not does he have any planets in the 7th or 8th house?
Pluto in the 7th house as isolated placement is not prone to cheat, it rather eats you alive. But of course hte whole chart has to be taken into account. Uranus can`t easily hold his attention for long unless really fascinated, and constantly needs new stimulation. So I`d be more wary about Uranus in 5th, 7th or 8th house in that regard. But even if it is placed ther it does not mean someone 'WILL cheat. Their hunger for change and stimulation can be satisfied in different ways. IP: Logged |
jellyfishtry Knowflake Posts: 864 From: LaLa land Registered: Apr 2013
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posted August 01, 2013 04:50 AM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: Pluto in the 7th house as isolated placement is not prone to cheat, it rather eats you alive. But of course hte whole chart has to be taken into account.
Don't know i know of an Aquarius, who did the exact thing described here and the only thing in his chart that could suggest why he did that was a Pluto in the 7th...he needed the constant fighting, and if there was no reason for it, he'll do something like cheating, even if with someone he doesn't like just for that. Everything else in his chart showed a more 'stable' person...
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jellyfishtry Knowflake Posts: 864 From: LaLa land Registered: Apr 2013
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posted August 01, 2013 04:52 AM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: I`m very sorry to hear that. But honestly,unfortunately these douchebags come under just an sign.
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Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7493 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 01, 2013 05:30 AM
quote: Originally posted by jellyfishtry: Don't know i know of an Aquarius, who did the exact thing described here and the only thing in his chart that could suggest why he did that was a Pluto in the 7th...he needed the constant fighting, and if there was no reason for it, he'll do something like cheating, even if with someone he doesn't like just for that.Everything else in his chart showed a more 'stable' person...
Oh yes, c heating as a powergame. You are right.
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StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 2978 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 01, 2013 08:53 AM
quote: Originally posted by SilverFeather:
She's been complaining about how emotionally distant and cold he has been lately. He never tells her that he loves her, he doesn't cuddle nor does he initiate sex.
Wow, for a Virgo to complain about something like that! It's usually the other way around. IP: Logged |
hippichick Moderator Posts: 2817 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 01, 2013 11:09 AM
quote: Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme: [QUOTE]Originally posted by SilverFeather: [b] She's been complaining about how emotionally distant and cold he has been lately. He never tells her that he loves her, he doesn't cuddle nor does he initiate sex.
Wow, for a Virgo to complain about something like that! It's usually the other way around. [/B][/QUOTE] yep! IP: Logged |
hippichick Moderator Posts: 2817 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 01, 2013 11:19 AM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: [B On the other hand my Dad is an Aquarius (Sun, Venus, Jupiter in Aquarius), has been married for nearly 40 years to my mum, and never cheated. I think in the beginning they had a talk about how there is a line between friendship and love/ sex, and how women would not understand that he is just being charming and friendly, and if he didn`t watch that friendly charm of his, my mom wouldn`t have any of that, leave in a flash and probably take his balls with her. (She is a SCorpio with Virgo Moon, Venus and Mars, and I can imagine how they had that discussion in a very rational tone. lol).
So, no, not all Aquarius Men are like that.[/B]
I always remember the age factor. Back in the day, regardless of sun sign folks were raised to stick things out in marriages, etc. Reminiscent of your thread, one of the 2 or so men who chose me was an Aqua. With all of my crazy Aqua stuff I draw them like flies to...anyway...at the time he was in his 50's me in my 40's, and didnt bother to tell me he was married till we had been "dating" a year. Well he didnt tell me...I drug it out of him. Now he is 62 and remains a "distant" friend but will not hesitate to flirt with me still! And he remains in a sham of a marriage...it's not even a marriage. So in this example we have an "older generation" that stays and an Aqua who cheats... O, those Aqua men
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Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 7493 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 01, 2013 11:23 AM
quote: Originally posted by hippichick: I always remember the age factor.Back in the day, regardless of sun sign folks were raised to stick things out in marriages, etc.
Well my parents were young in the 60`s. Nuff said.
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jellyfishtry Knowflake Posts: 864 From: LaLa land Registered: Apr 2013
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posted August 01, 2013 11:38 AM
doesn't take long for some ppl to find some threads and bring their 'positivity' to it, when the people involved aren't even one's they know!before such 'fishy' people hijack this thread to, and energize it with their own selfishness oh no sorry 'selflessness' wants, hence why one hateful thread isn't enough...lets go back to that this is astrology in it's depth, not the entertainment section of the Sunday paper! Silverfeather, if your cousin doesn't mind u can post a synastry chart and we can tell from that, why this is happening in this union? IP: Logged |
Jkitty Knowflake Posts: 651 From: an oasis in the desert Registered: Mar 2013
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posted August 01, 2013 11:41 AM
quote: Originally posted by Ceridwen: I think in the beginning they had a talk ... wouldn`t have any of that, leave in a flash and probably take his balls with her.
LOL. Yah, I'd have set the limits right at the beginning. She forgave him the first TWO times? I'd have been out of there after the first! In fact, I'd have let him know before I EVER got sexual with him that I'd NEVER tolerate such behavior. I've been cheated on ONCE in my life. So I called this guy's other girlfriend and suggested we surprise him with a little ménage a trios for his birthday since "he's sleeping with us both anyway". She hung up on me (no surprises there). He lost both of us and serves him right. IP: Logged |
hippichick Moderator Posts: 2817 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 01, 2013 11:48 AM
quote: Originally posted by jellyfishtry:
doesn't take long for some ppl to find some threads and bring their 'positivity' to it, when the people involved aren't even one's they know!before such 'fishy' people hijack this thread to, and energize it with their own selfishness oh no sorry 'selflessness' wants, hence why one hateful thread isn't enough...lets go back to that this is astrology in it's depth, not the entertainment section of the Sunday paper! Silverfeather, if your cousin doesn't mind u can post a synastry chart and we can tell from that, why this is happening in this union?
your funny!
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SilverFeather Knowflake Posts: 473 From: Mercury sometimes...Jupiter some other times Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 01, 2013 04:41 PM
She's 28 and he's 32, he has been with many girls before her and she only been with two guys before him.Her biggest problem is that she loves him a lot and tends to turn a blind eye to his faults. She tried almost everything to fix this relationship but her efforts remain one-sided. Her second biggest problem is that she's dependent on him financially. She can't find a job yet and since he's the one who works, he holds the budget. I don't know their full birth dates that's why I didn't post a chart.
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Jkitty Knowflake Posts: 651 From: an oasis in the desert Registered: Mar 2013
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posted August 01, 2013 05:03 PM
quote: Originally posted by SilverFeather: Her second biggest problem is that she's dependent on him financially.
I think I'd say that's her FIRST biggest problem. He has absolutely no reason to change. Why should he? He can do whatever he wants and she's both unwilling and unable to do anything about it! That girl needs to get herself some balls before she can do anything about his. IP: Logged |
libraschoice77 Knowflake Posts: 972 From: past, present, and future Registered: Aug 2010
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posted August 01, 2013 05:20 PM
quote: Originally posted by SilverFeather: My Virgo cousin has been married for three months now and her Aquarius husband already cheated on her THREE times !! Imagine that. He mentally, emotionally and physically drained her. She forgave him the first and the second time since it was only on the phone but on third time she found he was actually sleeping with two girls along aside with HER ! She's been complaining about how emotionally distant and cold he has been lately. He never tells her that he loves her, he doesn't cuddle nor does he initiate sex. She is always the one who does, two weeks ago I went with her to the mall because she wanted to buy a new sexy pair of nightgowns so that she'd look sexier for him only to find out a few days later that he's screwing a punch of girls behind her back. It was so hard for me to see her break down with all the tears and screaming. He terribly hurt her and the ******* didn't even apologize for it ! My double Aquarius Dad did the same to my mom and so did one my Aqua friends to his fiancée. The more personal experiences I hear about Aqua men, the more I detest them. They cheat and lie and actually feel damn JUSTIFIED. This may sound rather " strange" to some coming from a Sagittarius Sun/Venus/Mars/Mercury woman but I can forgive anything but cheating, like NEVER !! I'm honest to the highest level, if I want to have sex with someone else aside from my bf, I will go and tell my bf that I feel more attracted to that said someone and that we should better break up rather than end up hurt each other. I don't do secrecy and the lying games, they disgust me honestly and I noticed that's almost an unbroken pattern with Aqua Sun/Venus or Mars men. Air and Water are the best match made in HEll ! so it's better for them to stir away from each other ! I'm 75% fire and personally I cannot get along with Aqua males even as friends. there's a certain coldness to them that chills you to the bones. Cappy males are actually " warmer" than them which something I noticed more than once.
Wow Silverfeather, sorry your cousin is having such a rough time with her new husband. What I dont understand is if hes going to fool around on her and wants other girls, than why did he marry her? I find that cruel the fact that he doesnt even care how badly it hurts her! This guy sounds like an incredibly selfish jerk, hopefully your cousin can gain the independence she needs to show him she can stand alone if she needs to. Right now he seems to think he can get away with what ever and no consequences will happen. IP: Logged |
SilverFeather Knowflake Posts: 473 From: Mercury sometimes...Jupiter some other times Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 01, 2013 05:30 PM
quote: Originally posted by Jkitty: I think I'd say that's her FIRST biggest problem. He has absolutely no reason to change. Why should he? He can do whatever he wants and she's both unwilling and unable to do anything about it! That girl needs to get herself some balls before she can do anything about his.
You're absolutely right. She even applied for job at his friend's firm but the son of a ***** interfered and told his friend not to accept her. He does the same every single time because he knows that if she becomes financially independent then she can leave him. IP: Logged |
Jkitty Knowflake Posts: 651 From: an oasis in the desert Registered: Mar 2013
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posted August 01, 2013 05:41 PM
quote: Originally posted by SilverFeather: You're absolutely right. She even applied for job at his friend's firm but the son of a ***** interfered and told his friend not to accept her. He does the same every single time because he knows that if she becomes financially independent then she can leave him.
WOW! So sorry IP: Logged |
SilverFeather Knowflake Posts: 473 From: Mercury sometimes...Jupiter some other times Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 01, 2013 08:56 PM
this is my cousin's natal chart : IP: Logged |
SilverFeather Knowflake Posts: 473 From: Mercury sometimes...Jupiter some other times Registered: Aug 2012
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posted August 01, 2013 09:38 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: Yes we are cold hearted aren't we? [/B]
Last time I checked, emotional coldness is not something to brag about. You also happen to find it very funny, I wonder how would you feel if your wife/partner did the same to you . I bet you wouldn't find it THAT funny anymore. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 6981 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 01, 2013 09:40 PM
quote: Originally posted by SilverFeather: Last time I checked, emotional coldness is not something to brag about. You also happen to find it very funny, I wonder how would you feel if your wife/partner did the same to you . I bet you wouldn't find it THAT funny anymore.
I was kidding. All joking aside what that guy did and does are d*ck moves and it has nothing to do with sun signs , it has to do with a lack of morals. I have sun,ascendant,and venus in aquarius and I would never act that way. IP: Logged |