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Topic: Should I bother?
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Ishtar Newflake Posts: 8 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 13, 2013 08:03 PM
I'm deeply in love but the synastry and composite are pretty negative.In synastry, his Venus doesn't aspect any of my planets nor does his moon (a 7 degree trine to my Saturn), and there are barely any Saturn contacts and the ones that are existing are wide orbs and soft aspects. In the composite, again no Saturn, barely any Venus contacts, barely any moon contacts, hardly any Pluto. My Venus conjuncts his south node exactly, my Ascendant widely conjuncts his sun, are suns are exactly trine. Weirdly though, his Draconic ascendant exactly conjuncts my vertex. I'm quite saddened by this. What do you think? IP: Logged |
Lilithsquared Newflake Posts: 11 From: Registered: Jun 2013
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posted August 13, 2013 08:06 PM
Any asteroid - North Node conjunctions? Astrology aside, just because a relationship won't last long doesn't mean you won't learn something from the experience.
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Ishtar Newflake Posts: 8 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 13, 2013 08:09 PM
My Draconic sun exactly conjuncts his natal north node. But does that count for anything?IP: Logged |
vickymadness Knowflake Posts: 1193 From: Minnesota Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 14, 2013 12:04 AM
What about houses overlays ? They play a BIG role
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Jkitty Knowflake Posts: 976 From: an oasis in the desert Registered: Mar 2013
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posted August 14, 2013 12:17 AM
Synastry can show potential, but what really matters is what both people do with it. If you want to give it a try, why let the synastry discourage you? Are you afraid that it may be a one-sided relationship? (Check the archives if you think it is). If you both want to pursue it, then do. If it works out, great. If not, then learn something from it and move on.IP: Logged |
Lotis White Knowflake Posts: 1203 From: USA Registered: Dec 2010
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posted August 14, 2013 12:27 AM
Please post your charts. A picture is worth a thousand words.Also, have you looked into midpoints yet? or your Duad charts? or progressions? These may also explain some of what you're feeling. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 2506 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted August 14, 2013 12:32 AM
quote: I'm deeply in love but the synastry and composite are pretty negative.
quote: Should I bother?
Yes. Of course you should bother!!!!! If you're in love, then you're in love and you can make things work if he feels the same way. There are other couples with un-aspected planets. Nicole Kidman's husband - Keith Urban - has his Mars in early Capricorn and it does not aspect anything in her chart. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 2506 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted August 14, 2013 12:35 AM
Oh - and actually.. I always seem to forget this but in my synastry - with someone I was very much in love with.. my Venus made no aspects to his planets other than a wide - 7 orb opposition to his Mars. But his NN was conj my Venus and my own NN. Also, do you have his correct time of birth - and ascendant? If you don't - then you can't know the exact degree of his Moon.. so your planets might be in aspect to his Moon. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 3834 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 14, 2013 12:36 AM
One thing I do have to wonder...if someone is in love, sees bad synastry and composite charts, will just seeing this and having it influence their mood be enough to bring about what is shown in the charts? IP: Logged |
curiouswoman Knowflake Posts: 1053 From: on earth Registered: Sep 2011
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posted August 14, 2013 12:41 AM
stars don't control destinyIP: Logged |
Ishtar Newflake Posts: 8 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 14, 2013 05:15 AM
Thanks so much for your replies. I really appreciate them.This is our synastry. I am on the outside. [/U RL]This is our composite: [URL=http://s1314.photobucket.com/user/rosepetal888/media/compo_zps9ac6f87c.gif.html] This is him: Planetary positions planet sign degree motion Sun Cancer 24°14'57 in house 11 direct Moon Aquarius 13°35'44 in house 6 direct Mercury Leo 16°59'24 in house 12 direct Venus Leo 3°17'56 in house 11 direct Mars Taurus 22°56'32 in house 9 direct Jupiter Virgo 12°17'12 in house 1 direct Saturn Aquarius 16°42'23 in house 6 retrograde Uranus Capricorn 15°41'07 in house 5 retrograde Neptune Capricorn 17°23'00 in house 5 retrograde Pluto Scorpio 20°12'19 in house 3 retrograde True Node Capricorn 0°35'09 in house 4 retrograde House positions (Placidus) Ascendant Virgo 5°21'26 2nd House Virgo 28°11'03 3rd House Libra 26°27'53 Imum Coeli Sagittarius 0°03'02 5th House Capricorn 5°32'17 6th House Aquarius 7°49'29 Descendant Pisces 5°21'26 8th House Pisces 28°11'03 9th House Aries 26°27'53 Medium Coeli Gemini 0°03'02 11th House Cancer 5°32'17 12th House Leo 7°49'29 This is me: Planetary positions planet sign degree motion Sun Taurus 25°46'10 in house 11 direct Moon Gemini 22°43'17 in house 12 direct Mercury Taurus 29°33'37 in house 11 direct Venus Cancer 1°17'37 in house 12 direct Mars Virgo 3°55'55 in house 3 direct Jupiter Virgo 0°51'06 in house 3 direct Saturn Virgo 20°13'27 in house 3 stationary (D) Uranus Scorpio 23°27'48 in house 5 retrograde Neptune Sagittarius 21°59'18 in house 6 retrograde Pluto Libra 19°27'33 in house 4 retrograde True Node Leo 24°26'23 in house 2 retrograde House positions (Placidus) Ascendant Cancer 18°02'20 2nd House Leo 6°07'09 3rd House Leo 27°11'46 Imum Coeli Virgo 24°39'27 5th House Scorpio 1°22'17 6th House Sagittarius 12°56'16 Descendant Capricorn 18°02'20 8th House Aquarius 6°07'09 9th House Aquarius 27°11'46 Medium Coeli Pisces 24°39'27 11th House Taurus 1°22'17 12th House Gemini 12°56'16
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Lotis White Knowflake Posts: 1203 From: USA Registered: Dec 2010
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posted August 14, 2013 05:49 AM
Hi Ishtar,Could you post the degrees of your planets and house cusps as well? IP: Logged |
chargeomentum Knowflake Posts: 70 From: Registered: Jun 2013
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posted August 14, 2013 07:03 AM
>deeply in love >synastry negativeyou're not deep in love with that person if you choose to follow some star position rather than your own emotions IP: Logged |
Ishtar Newflake Posts: 8 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 14, 2013 07:18 AM
You have a right to your opinion. I understand where it's coming from. But you don't know the situation. I would like to hear comments about the synastry and composite if anybody can offer any. Thank you.IP: Logged |
Lilithsquared Newflake Posts: 11 From: Registered: Jun 2013
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posted August 14, 2013 05:40 PM
I don't know much about Draconic charts, sorry Looking at these charts though, it appears your Venus conjuncts his South Node. There's some info about it here, scroll down for it http://starscopestoday.wordpress.com/tag/venus-conjunct-south-node-synastry/ IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 6075 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted August 14, 2013 05:54 PM
Go for it and then tell us if it worked.IP: Logged |
Ishtar Newflake Posts: 8 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 15, 2013 09:01 AM
Thanks for the encouragement and LilithSquared, that was a wonderful article, thank you.IP: Logged |
Ishtar Newflake Posts: 8 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 02, 2013 07:01 PM
It didn't work out. It was extremely Plutonian. I was madly in love. I'm heartbroken and still obsessing. Damn all that Pluto. And yeah, I guess my Saturn did hit a couple of planets so it's hard to let go.IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 6075 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted September 02, 2013 07:04 PM
Ishtar, what happened?IP: Logged |
SilverFeather Knowflake Posts: 676 From: Mercury sometimes...Jupiter some other times Registered: Aug 2012
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posted September 02, 2013 07:24 PM
I'm sorry to hear that Ishtar Sometimes things are not meant to be so stay strong IP: Logged |
Ishtar Newflake Posts: 8 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 02, 2013 07:41 PM
When we first met, he felt an instant attraction to me (he told me later) but I didn't feel anything. We hung out quite a bit, so much so that others noticed, but I didn't pay much attention to it. Fast forward a couple of weeks, and he texted me to hang out and we went out together and had a great time. I did an astrology reading on him and apparently it was so accurate it freaked him out. The whole time, his intense eyes were on me, just piercing right through me. I should probably say he is absolutely gorgeous. I have to admit, his chart really intrigued me and left me more than a little interested considering it was apparently so dead on. We started hanging out more. I found myself becoming more and more attracted, falling more under his spell, couldn't stop thinking about him. Then Pluto hit. I confessed my attraction and he confessed his and we began to become really emotionally involved and we both, awkwardly, admitted mutual obsession with each other. We had so much in common, psychologically, spiritually, emotionally. We had eerily similar past experiences. We had common interests and were just fascinated and admired each other and communicated beautiful and confessed really deep and dark things to one another. Then the lunacy began. He said he really liked me and wanted to take things slow (being a Cancer) but he found me beautiful and intelligent and I wasn't like anybody he met. I wanted things NOW. I couldn't stop obsessing and my feelings were so intense and consumed me and I was torturing myself endlessly. He saw what was happening and was trying to get a handle on what was happening and he was gentle and trying to be understanding but I was pushing too hard and too fast (I have a Pluto singleton in the 4th house that trines my Moon and squares my Asc). I couldn't handle the intensity of my feelings for him and I told him I loved him. He took it well and we continued to meet and he was affectionate and reiterated he wanted to slow things down. When we got together, we were happy, and we were deeply psychological and emotional and went places mentally and bonded so deeply, it's hard to put words to it. Then I began to push and pull (Uranus?) and he couldn't understand why I was pushing him away. But he was acting more and more distant too, not texting as much, not wanting to talk on the phone. I was coming on so strong that it should have scared the pants off of him but it didn't. But he was also acting one way when we were together but being distant when we were not and I got sick of it. I flipped and said I was going to find someone else and I was dumping him. The next time we met, he said he wasn't in love with me and he strung me along because he was afraid of losing my friendship. And he was acting incredibly unattractive to stop my feelings for him. My guess is that he was influenced by something somebody told him. Anyway, he said he wanted to remain friends. Since then, he hasn't texted, was cool on the phone, and hasn't planned any dates to get together. There's a lot I'm leaving out of this post but the gist is there. There seemed to be a lot of manipulation, mind games. I'm still in love. I'm completely obsessed but reining myself in. I feel this compulsion to have him in my life and he doesn't seem to want to let me go. I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. Argh!IP: Logged |
slowpoke Knowflake Posts: 602 From: Registered: Nov 2009
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posted September 03, 2013 10:22 AM
There may be an easier way to read and understand complicated Synastry pie chart aspects. Pie chart aspects can also be produced onto a basic Synastry Aspect Chart, a color coded chart. Review the sample chart at your leisure. It may help you gain even more insight than you currently have. http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting#!in-the-closet-astro-tools/c1s43 Once you have it loaded, your aspects will be in the following formation. You can then apply some questions.
Here is an example: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/008126.html Slowpoke IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 6075 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted September 03, 2013 02:48 PM
((( Ishtar ))) Sorry about what happened to you. I don't know what's going on with him but try to focus on yourself for now and take care of yourself. If you guys are meant to be, you'll get back together. If not, someone else is waiting for you out there. I wish you the best of luck! ~ IP: Logged |