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Topic: Need help with capricorn man!
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ProudLeo
Newflake Posts: 2
From: Aubrey, Texas, 76227
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted August 21, 2013 12:56 AM
  
What is it with capricorn men!? I keep having my run ins with cappies...like they are drawn to me. The last cappie I feel hard FAST and then...poof...he was gone. I still miss him, but he used to drive me crazy when I wouldn't hear from him for days or when his replies were short and undetailed etc. and he was so hard to read...one minute hot and the next cold. But I just couldn't resist him....I tried to give him space but then I started to feel like a pawn for him to use when he wanted. When I expressed my feelings, he vanished This cappie guy is incredibly attractive and my god is he witty, funny, intelligent, driven, and masculine...oh my! He approached me...and you know any good leo lady turns her nose up initially at anyone who assumes they can pick her up with some cheesy line. I was out on my birthday and He gave me his line "I told myself that I was going to go up and talk to the most beautiful woman in the bar tonight...and it was going to be her birthday!" (He must have overheard that it was my birthday) and my response was "well...you're in luck! .but I don't talk to strangers but I appreciate the compliment" and I turned around to walk off....he caught my arm and turned me back around!! WTF! My initial thought was who in the actual hell does he think he is?! But our eyes met briefly...and I was intrueged! He said "At least let me buy you a birthday drink before you just walk away". I paused and just looked at him....he said "let me guess....you don't let strangers buy you drinks?" Then we both laughed. He bought me a drink and we talked...I was expecting dull..because people bore me often...especially men who are attempting a pick up! But this man was funny, articulate, and obviously intelligent...and oh my god is he incredibly handsome...I actually found it hard to keep eye contact...like I was cowering submissively or something....he was dominating me!! ME!! He seemed impressed about everything I told him about myself...only when asked of course...a lady never boasts lol. And oh did he give compliments...you are gorgeous, I want to take your course (I teach undergrad history course while finishing my MA), you look amazing, you're a great dancer, youre funny, I like you....and on and on all night like this. He was stroking my leo pride and I was melting! But really trying not to show it! He put his hands on me...around my waist...and normally I would be very offended at someone i dont know touching me like this...but instead of offense and clawing him...there was burning attraction and I found myself clinging to his hands. At this point I thought I should set the record straight and I told him "I will NOT be sleeping with you, so I hope that isn't your plan". He looked at me wide eyed and then laughed and said "I have never had a woman tell me that before! I actually find that attractive!" He was walking me to ,y friends car and suddenly just pulled me to him and kissed me...I tried to pull away but he pulled me back, finished his kiss, and then gently pulled away...I couldn't move! Then he whispered "you are absolutely gorgeous". Where did this man come from?! The sprinklers were in and he says to me "take your shoes of and we will run though the sprinklers". So...being the fun loving leo...I did...we laughed...he grabbed me and kissed me again...getting soaking wet. Then he asked me to breakfast...we ate, we talked everything from politics, culture, goals, family etc. then we went to the park...played in the slide, swings, laughed, talked. By 5 am I said "I have to go". He asked me my number and immediately texted me right there...he picked me up...literally, picked me up! I wrapped my legs around him and he kissed me like I have never been kissed and said "I know I said I didn't want to have sex with you but I do...is that bad?" I just smiled and said "I will see you soon...but you have to let me go right now" and he replied "that's really hard to do....but I really hope I do see you soon". And we parted ways. The next day I didn't hear from him all day but from my previous experience with cap men I know they are usually NOT initiators and maybe I would have to make the first move so I just decided at the end of the evening to send a tex "I really enjoyed last night it was so fun. Very nice meeting you!" And he replied "I had more fun then I have had in a long time. I've been running errands all day and I'm exhausted. Did you get some rest?" Then I say "get some rest. Maybe we can hang out again later" and I actually meant later as in another day but he replied that he had yard work left to do so it would be late if that was ok. Typical cappie! Yard work....pffft lol. Ugh...ok...I made chicken chili so I say "you have to be exhausted. I made chicken chili and I will bring you some, just text me when you are done". He replied "that sounds great!" And he did and I met him at "our park" and gave him his chili and chocolate cake. We chatted for about an hour about various things, had some good laughs....but he didn't sit by me, he didn't compliment me, and he didn't I intiate a kiss....I finally kissed him, he kissed back but then said "the park is closed and we probably shouldn't be here making out...and I have to get home, I have a long day tomorrow (he works two jobs and is finishing grad school!). So knowing he is a cap I don't take offense I just say "enjoy your chili and get seem rest" he says "drive safe. Have a good night and thanks for coming to see me". Like a business deal...wtf?! SO I drive off thinking ok...done...not messing with caps anymore...I messed it up again and I won't even hear from him. The next day, in the middle of his work day, he sends a text "hope you are having a good day. Thank you for the chili, it was really good". I wait a good 4 hours before replying even to I was so excited to hear from him and I say "thank you! I'm so glad you liked the chili! I will cook something again for you sometime! Have a great day!" And I've gotten no response....it's been a day and a half  . I have not texted or called and I wonder if I should or should I leave r ball in his court? Is he interested? Did he lose interest and was just being polite sending me the text thanking me? Why wouldn't he respond when I mentioned cooking for him again? Should I just keep waiting? Did he say all those things just trying to get me into bed and when it didn't work just lose interest in me? Why didnt he plan a date or another time to see each other? why havent i heard from him. What should i do...not do?I really want to get to know him better but I don't want to chase him away and I don't want to be used either. Ahhhhhh capricorn men!! IP: Logged |
Faith
Moderator Posts: 5435
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posted August 21, 2013 06:02 AM
That was a good story! But he sounds like a jerk, sorry to say. Best wishes, maybe stay away from Cap men from now on... IP: Logged |
Jkitty
Knowflake Posts: 934
From: an oasis in the desert
Registered: Mar 2013
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posted August 21, 2013 08:59 PM
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Originally posted by ProudLeo:
Did he say all those things just trying to get me into bed and when it didn't work just lose interest in me?
That. Plus you already took the initiative the next day by texting him and bringing him food. If he's the type that wants a challenge, you showed him that you're much too willing. He probably isn't interested in a "relationship" with anybody. BTW he sounds like he probably has personal planets in Sagittarius and/or Aquarius. He sounds much too outgoing for a Cappy. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 3547
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted August 21, 2013 09:13 PM
First,
It all depends on the Cappy and the Leo. My advice for the Leo, based on what I have seen between these two suns irl, NEVER, if you can help it, give the Cappy the impression you are taking them for granted because the Cappy will react and they can be pretty cold and mean when they want. The Leo will not be able to forgive and forget so easily and will struggle understanding what happened, since Leos are being themselves, they feel like they have done nothing to warrant such behavior and can experience hurt feelings. The Cappy wants to be treated as an equal to the Leo, from what I have seen.Just wanted to say that about Cappys and Leos in general. Now onto your specific post.
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Originally posted by ProudLeo:
[b]What is it with capricorn men!? I keep having my run ins with cappies...like they are drawn to me. The last cappie I feel hard FAST and then...poof...he was gone. I still miss him, but he used to drive me crazy when I wouldn't hear from him for days or when his replies were short and undetailed etc. and he was so hard to read...one minute hot and the next cold. But I just couldn't resist him....I tried to give him space but then I started to feel like a pawn for him to use when he wanted. When I expressed my feelings, he vanished
From what you describe, he sounds unsure of himself and is distancing himself a bit. Not sure why he is doing this. Could be a number of reasons from him being insecure to him not wanting a serious relationship to him being anti social. Other explanations are possible. quote:
This cappie guy is incredibly attractive and my god is he witty, funny, intelligent, driven, and masculine...oh my! He approached me...and you know any good leo lady turns her nose up initially at anyone who assumes they can pick her up with some cheesy line. I was out on my birthday and He gave me his line "I told myself that I was going to go up and talk to the most beautiful woman in the bar tonight...and it was going to be her birthday!" (He must have overheard that it was my birthday) and my response was "well...you're in luck! .but I don't talk to strangers but I appreciate the compliment" and I turned around to walk off....he caught my arm and turned me back around!! WTF! My initial thought was who in the actual hell does he think he is?! But our eyes met briefly...and I was intrueged! He said "At least let me buy you a birthday drink before you just walk away". I paused and just looked at him....he said "let me guess....you don't let strangers buy you drinks?" Then we both laughed. He bought me a drink and we talked...I was expecting dull..because people bore me often...especially men who are attempting a pick up! But this man was funny, articulate, and obviously intelligent...and oh my god is he incredibly handsome...I actually found it hard to keep eye contact...like I was cowering submissively or something....he was dominating me!! ME!! He seemed impressed about everything I told him about myself...only when asked of course...a lady never boasts lol. And oh did he give compliments...you are gorgeous, I want to take your course (I teach undergrad history course while finishing my MA), you look amazing, you're a great dancer, youre funny, I like you....and on and on all night like this. He was stroking my leo pride and I was melting! But really trying not to show it! He put his hands on me...around my waist...and normally I would be very offended at someone i dont know touching me like this...but instead of offense and clawing him...there was burning attraction and I found myself clinging to his hands. At this point I thought I should set the record straight and I told him "I will NOT be sleeping with you, so I hope that isn't your plan". He looked at me wide eyed and then laughed and said "I have never had a woman tell me that before! I actually find that attractive!" He was walking me to ,y friends car and suddenly just pulled me to him and kissed me...I tried to pull away but he pulled me back, finished his kiss, and then gently pulled away...I couldn't move! Then he whispered "you are absolutely gorgeous". Where did this man come from?! The sprinklers were in and he says to me "take your shoes of and we will run though the sprinklers". So...being the fun loving leo...I did...we laughed...he grabbed me and kissed me again...getting soaking wet. Then he asked me to breakfast...we ate, we talked everything from politics, culture, goals, family etc. then we went to the park...played in the slide, swings, laughed, talked. By 5 am I said "I have to go". He asked me my number and immediately texted me right there...he picked me up...literally, picked me up! I wrapped my legs around him and he kissed me like I have never been kissed and said "I know I said I didn't want to have sex with you but I do...is that bad?" I just smiled and said "I will see you soon...but you have to let me go right now" and he replied "that's really hard to do....but I really hope I do see you soon". And we parted ways. The next day I didn't hear from him all day but from my previous experience with cap men I know they are usually NOT initiators and maybe I would have to make the first move so I just decided at the end of the evening to send a tex "I really enjoyed last night it was so fun. Very nice meeting you!" And he replied "I had more fun then I have had in a long time. I've been running errands all day and I'm exhausted. Did you get some rest?" Then I say "get some rest. Maybe we can hang out again later" and I actually meant later as in another day but he replied that he had yard work left to do so it would be late if that was ok. Typical cappie! Yard work....pffft lol. Ugh...ok...I made chicken chili so I say "you have to be exhausted. I made chicken chili and I will bring you some, just text me when you are done". He replied "that sounds great!" And he did and I met him at "our park" and gave him his chili and chocolate cake. We chatted for about an hour about various things, had some good laughs....but he didn't sit by me, he didn't compliment me, and he didn't I intiate a kiss....I finally kissed him, he kissed back but then said "the park is closed and we probably shouldn't be here making out...and I have to get home, I have a long day tomorrow (he works two jobs and is finishing grad school!). So knowing he is a cap I don't take offense I just say "enjoy your chili and get seem rest" he says "drive safe. Have a good night and thanks for coming to see me". Like a business deal...wtf?! SO I drive off thinking ok...done...not messing with caps anymore...I messed it up again and I won't even hear from him. The next day, in the middle of his work day, he sends a text "hope you are having a good day. Thank you for the chili, it was really good". I wait a good 4 hours before replying even to I was so excited to hear from him and I say "thank you! I'm so glad you liked the chili! I will cook something again for you sometime! Have a great day!" And I've gotten no response....it's been a day and a half . I have not texted or called and I wonder if I should or should I leave r ball in his court? Is he interested? Did he lose interest and was just being polite sending me the text thanking me? Why wouldn't he respond when I mentioned cooking for him again? Should I just keep waiting? Did he say all those things just trying to get me into bed and when it didn't work just lose interest in me? Why didnt he plan a date or another time to see each other? why havent i heard from him. What should i do...not do?I really want to get to know him better but I don't want to chase him away and I don't want to be used either. Ahhhhhh capricorn men!!
From reading all this, my impression is the guy, even though he is hot, could be a bar fly. He tried to pick you up in a bar. He bought you a drink. How many times does he do this each weekend? Bet the guy has many numbers in his mobile. So that could the explanation for his flaky behavior, he's a lady's man. He always has plenty to choose from, is on the prowl for others each weekend so you are not his top priority. Sounds harsh but what can you expect from a dude in a bar? He's a social butterfly I bet. Sorry to have to tell you this but it's better than a Leo ending up with a broken heart.
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FireBird
Knowflake Posts: 104
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posted August 21, 2013 11:28 PM
I think it's more like he established good contact with you, and now he wants to act like a normal person. Establishing good contact means he feels secure enough that both of you have the same feelings, so he can act more like himself for you to get to know him. Acting like a normal person doesn't mean he's resting on his laurels, though.Just do your thing, and when he's able, he'll come to you naturally. It doesn't mean that you are following his timeline. It's more like, when there's a group of people conversing, there are some people who will only jump in when you can contribute. Think of it that he will jump in when he can contribute...but in linearity of time. He's not going to be ON all the time, because he may not have something to contribute, or he's busy doing other things. Don't take it personally. Just trust that you two established emotional common ground, and you can build steadily from there. IP: Logged | |
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