posted August 31, 2013 02:41 PM              

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Originally posted by cappy1277:
I had an old man hit on me yesterday (at least 70 years old)...it was so creepy and he couldn't take his eyes off of me lol

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posted October 06, 2015 06:02 PM            

I have to say that (*) 8H Mars pretty much fits my cousin. As an adult he laughs off most of my being a pest to him, even when I hit him in the face several times (but then he knew he deserved it, and I sense because he felt he'd "finally gotten" me to lose all composure and thus a sense of control), but he still resents "a bit" that after I moved in when I was 13 I was given the only bedroom which had traditionally always been the girl's room (including Granny's, Mom, and then me) while he got sent to the utility room (which was actually larger, though sleeping through when the machines were running wasn't possible, and he found it so much easier to sneak in and out of the house from there as well). He also complained that I got "treated like a princess" and the fact that I never asked to be and found it annoying at times only made it worse because I didn't appreciate it so it was "wasted" on me and his losing what was "his" even more unfair. That was HIS room...even if the utility was better. (And the one time Granny left me in charge when we were kids because I was more responsible made him go through the roof and it almost cost me an eye.)

I often repeat about what he once told me that no one torments me but him and hope he was joking, but I don't think he was. He really did defend me and I feel grateful to him...but as an adult I slowly came to realize he saw me as HIS...once again the need to control and own asserting itself. At least he wasn't creepy about it, just more of an older brat, and I mostly laugh thinking of our times together, just as he does. The love has always been more powerful than the resentment.

* This on Mars specifically:

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Mars in the 8th House...
An eighth-house Mars can be a challenging placement. Mars represents the "will" of the chart holder. When Mars is in the eighth house of give and take in the world and intimate relationships, it can get intensely frustrated. Mars has the most difficultly letting go of its own needs and wants because its whole purpose is to satisfy the will of the chart holder. When the will seeks satisfaction through other people and things which are beyond anyone's control in the world, it will constantly get stifled by obstacles and road blocks. Long-term battles in relationships can ensue over perceptions of what's fair. Problems with taxes are common because Mars refuses to let go of what it sees as its possession. Issues of emotional control in relationships can erupt into screaming matches that never find resolution because Mars finds it so difficult to give.

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posted October 07, 2015 12:06 AM            

One thing though I don't find it difficult to give to my significant other though, I share it all with them and am generous, I do have mars in LEO. Although I do believe in prenups, if I was rich I would do a prenup and would not get offended if I were to marry a rich person if they wanted a prenup; I get it.

I share it all but if we don't work out after a few years and I am rich I don't think is fair for you to walk out with half of my HARD earned money or vice versa.

As long as we are together though what is mine is yours! I would also have my parent's back financially if one day they need it as they have had mine when I truly needed it so I feel is only fair and that I owe them to some extent.

I guess mars in the 8th is very concern with fairness in matters of give and take whether on a financial level, attention wise, and respect; it doesn't want to be taken advantaged of or taken for granted.

I do have VENUS in the 8th as well so perhaps that is were my generous side with SO comes from:

One of the best placements in astrology, Venus in the eighth house brings finesse, beauty and pleasure to the eighth house. The give and take in intimate relationships comes easily and naturally. Eighth-house Venus chart holders are comfortable with sex and appreciate the sensual pleasures it brings. Venus is able to enjoy the eighth house without letting its issue get too heavy. It is happy to accept what it gets from the world and other people without expecting a lot in return or easily feeling cheated. Although, never forget that it does value fairness. This placement lends kindness to intimate relationships with a patient understanding of the shortcomings of others. Inevitable challenges that the world brings like deaths and taxes are accepted easily with Venus in the eighth house.

posted October 07, 2015 01:59 AM            

Emotional peace and comfort are sought through intimate relationships when the moon is in the eighth house and there is constant turmoil over who gives more and cares more in these relationships. Those with an eighth-house moon don't enjoy casual relationships. They take intimate relationships very seriously and know very quickly whether a potential mate is either someone they want or don't want. These people are often obsessed with their relationships because they put all of their focus and energy into them, unconsciously focusing their entire lives around their mate, and giving more than they should while wondering why their mate doesn't give as much to them. Happiness is found when the eighth-house moon person brings the unconscious into consciousness and realizes that they expect too much from their partners. It is their choice to focus their whole lives around their mate, and expecting their mate to do the same thing is selfish and only leads to pain and disappointment. The eighth-house moon needs to learn self-sufficiency rather than expecting all their needs to be met through relationships. Extremely sensitive to the unspoken communication, these people experience other people on a feeling level. They assess people quickly and accurately with their feelings, and these feelings cannot be translated into words. This is an emotional weight carried around by the eighth-house moon because it is felt and not expressed. It becomes burdensome. Peace is found when they let go of these feelings and they let go of their expectations in relationships. In the eighth house, the moon needs to satisfy its need to care for another person without expecting anything in return. Satisfying the moon's need to probe and understand can be shifted to worldly issues like politics, psychology or astrology which helps to shift the focus away from the self, and therefore, freeing the eighth-house moon. This chart holder's mother is perceived as very emotional and passionate. Yet the chart holder never feels completely connected with her. This missing connection is forever sought through intimate relationships and by seeking greater meaning in understanding the grand scheme of the world. There are often gains or inheritances from women.

posted October 07, 2015 02:02 AM            

I have come a long way! but still working on some aspects of the FULL description above.

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"Karma needs to be understood, acknowledged, and it needs to be either resolved or dismissed. Karma accumulates when you feed it with energy; if you stop feeding it (that is, you cease to foment the hate, the pain, the guilt, or any other negative emotion), it usually dissolves by itself."

Samantha: But the heart is not like a box that gets filled up. It expands in size the more you love. I'm different from you. This doesn't make me love you any less. It actually makes me love you more.

Theodore Twombly: That doesn't make any sense. You are mine or you are not mine?

Samantha: No, Theodore. I'm yours and I'm not yours.

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