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Topic: Hard sun-Uranus aspects in synastry= a doomed relationship?
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tgem
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posted September 01, 2013 07:32 PM
  
I have read that hard aspects of sun-Uranus in synastry will indicate the relationship will ultimately fail...I had hard sun-Uranus tight aspects (DW) with my ex-husband. I have a hard sun-Uranus aspect with a close friend and our friendship is on the verge of ending. Can anyone verify if this is a common outcome in relationships with sun-Uranus in the synastry? Thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted September 02, 2013 07:34 AM
In my experience - yes.I've had the square and the opposition - poof, gone. It doesn't have to be an abrupt ending although it often is - one person suddenly (from the other person's perspective) decides to leave. I'm sure there are exceptions to this but there would probably be an on and off vibe to the relationship anyway. IP: Logged |
Xena
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posted September 02, 2013 07:39 AM
Who? The Sun person or the Uranus person. Maybe the Sun person would get tired of Uranus's rebelliousness, and the Uranus person would see the Sun person as too boring for their taste. Do Venus and Moon opp/sq Uranus have the same affect? IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted September 02, 2013 07:45 AM
Xena,I've had it both ways - the Sun person, and the Uranus person. People usually assume that the Uranus does all the push / pull tactics but in my experience (and that is supported by other people, too), the Sun / personal planet can - and often does - play out the role of the outer planet. Moon / Uranus sounds like a disaster for a personal relationship, unless you enjoy tension and uncertainty. I don't see it in long-term relationships. Venus / Uranus seems to work for some reason. Maybe it's the sexiness that keeps people together, the excitement.
Mars / Uranus sometimes shows up in long-term relationships also, for the same reasons, I believe (but they probably have some Saturn / Nodes / angles stuff going on to keep it together). IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted September 02, 2013 08:12 AM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
In my experience - yes.I've had the square and the opposition - poof, gone. It doesn't have to be an abrupt ending although it often is - one person suddenly (from the other person's perspective) decides to leave. I'm sure there are exceptions to this but there would probably be an on and off vibe to the relationship anyway.
Doux, can minor aspects (quintile, quincux) have the same affect? Were your square/oppositions tight orbs or not necessarily? Thanks 
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olgatheo
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posted September 02, 2013 08:38 AM
SUN/URANUS hard aspects between couples or friends can work, but freedom is required , if you have hard Pluto aspects or Saturn aspects in your chart then the relationships/ friendships will fail over time. But if you have Uranus aspects to SUN/MOON/Venus then the relationships will survive because you ass. freedom/trust in your beliefs about relating! Just know that these peeps you have Uranus aspects to want space , freedom and trust to remain! IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted September 02, 2013 09:34 AM
My Uranus is tightly square my husband's sun, and we've been together almost 15 years. We could "ultimately fail," but that's already a long time together. IP: Logged |
Selene
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posted September 02, 2013 12:08 PM
I have tons of Uranus with Mr. Uranus, as it turned out lately, my soulmate. We're not together, though. It's a phase of a close friendship now. There are times i don't understand anything at all, what does he even wants from me, why keeps doing all the things he does. He said once he did not believe in a friendship between a man and a woman, yet there he is in my life, doing everything to make me grow as an individual, as a person - in all matters, starting from basketball to poetry, strategical thinking, adventures done together, etc. A psychic-astrologer i once went to said he was into my life for a very long, long time, yet she couldn't say what the relationship would be, as there is so much Uranus going on. My Uranus square his Sun EXACT (we met the day transit Uranus was conjunct his Sun and squared my natal Uranus, transit Sun was exactly conjunct our composite Uranus) His Uranus squares my ASC EXACT
His Uranus trines my Moon EXACT
His Uranus sextiles my Mercury EXACT
His Uranus sextiles my Venus EXACT
His Uranus opposite my Mars EXACT
His Uranus trines my Jupiter 3 IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted September 02, 2013 12:14 PM
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Originally posted by tgem:
Doux, can minor aspects (quintile, quincux) have the same affect? Were your square/oppositions tight orbs or not necessarily? Thanks
No, I don't think minor aspects can be that powerful. They weren't very tight orbs, no - 3°, 4° or so.
But the energy was still there. You're welcome.
olgatheo  I agree.
Selene, That's a crazy synastry. *jawdrop*
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slowpoke
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posted September 02, 2013 12:17 PM
You may have your natal Sun in hard aspect to your natal Uranus. And this could be a strong reason why it seems to keep showing up in your Synastry Aspects.Uranus in hard aspect - the influence is that of the unpredictable occurrences. The best way to handle these types of situations, is to not respond with traditional ways of behavior. Release all impulses to be possessive or protective of the issues surrounding Uranus. In-fact, be willing to let important issues go, pertaining to Uranus issues, and Uranus will let you have it. P.S.
Willingly, let the relationship(s) breakup, but try and remain friends. The union may remain. I know of a married coupled with a MR sqr. UR and UR opp. MR. Synastry aspect combination. She wanted a divorce, they divorced but have never left each others side, as far as I know. The guy told me, "he was more concerned about the relationship than the marriage." (that is some heavy stuff.)
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SagittariusRising
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posted September 02, 2013 12:33 PM
IME, yes, hard Uranus aspects have always abruptly ended relationships for me. Depending on other aspects, some of these endings were bad. I have three examples:- One I avoided like the plague as soon as he wanted to become official (can you believe a Sun-Merc-Venus in Cancer in 7H turned down a relationship?! LOL!)
- A guy I was dating who I kept pursuing a relationship with who went cold when I brought up being official. We're friends now, keep in contact for holidays, birthdays, etc.
- A guy and I liked each other, but he had a girl, and I didn't want to be his side girl. We keep in touch in bursts. To be frank, unless we had really DEEP soulmate/twinflame-y synastry, I wouldn't even take someone who I had positive Uranus aspects with seriously. Knowing what I know, I'd resist marriage if it came up because in my heart of hearts I'd know it'd be short-lived. I also have Uranus prominent in my chart, so I'm used to the weirdness, lol IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted September 02, 2013 01:42 PM
My Leo and I have Uranus conjunction Sun and Uranus square Moon aspects in our synastry together and so far we have been ok. The fact that he has alot of Uranus in his natal chart makes it so he is more at ease with these type of contacts. It also helps that I have Venus trine Uranus in my chart.Same with someone else, if you get a person with a ton of Saturn aspects in their natal of course they may find too much Uranus unsettling within a synastry chart.What ever theme(heavy Neptune, Mars, etc) you have going on in your natal is what you will be comfortable with in your synastry with someone. Just like if a person has a bunch of squares and oppositions in their own chart, they would be so bored and feel unchallenged with 'soft' kind of synastry having lots of trines and sextiles. IP: Logged |
ikja
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posted December 28, 2014 04:05 AM
Welp!Thought I would give this a bump even though it is a year old. There's no hope for Sun-Uranus hard aspects then  IP: Logged |
next to neptune
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posted December 28, 2014 04:36 AM
I certainly hope there is! Me and my boyfriend don't have Sun-Uranus in synastry, but we have it in the Composite, very tight! Some people say this is even worse than having it in the synastry. And we also have venus square uranus EXACT and Moon square uranus (6 degrees wide though) and Ascendant opposite Uranus (Some people also say that this is REALLY the worst synastry aspect you can have at all) My hope is that my boyfriend also got these aspect in his natal, except moon square uranus. But then again - I, myself have Moon square uranus. So it seems to fit well in some way! And we also have a lot of saturn in our chart, inclusive saturn in 7th house in the composite, and both our saturn fall in each others 7th house in synastry. Uranus doesn't! We have been together a little over a year now, and I have never been so much in love before
What I especially also love about our relationship is that we give each other a lot of personal space and freedom. This is what I think will keep us together And also if we can manage to have a union together that is original, and never boring. So let's just cross our fingers that this aspect doesn't have to be the end. But the aspect could also simply have that side to it, that one or the other in the relationship "Have" to leave, during external factors. Maybe the job, career or something else. Something that makes it impossible for the two to keep together, that has nothing to do with their love for each other.
This is actually what I fear the most!! IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted December 28, 2014 06:07 AM
hmmmm this is speaking, purely, from someone with Mercury as chart ruler and Uranus/Aquarius as overall ruler, with an 11th house stellium trine and sq (venus) Uranus: I have Sun, Venus, Mercury and Moon sq my SO's Uranus in Libra and our main problem is that I become bored in a second whereas he is more rooted (saturn conj moon). His mind is lightning quick (Aries merc sq Libra Uranus) BUT his actions are slow and it grates on my nerves. Forgot: my Uranus is opp. his moon. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted December 28, 2014 09:31 AM
The two people I have it with, yes, the abrupt end came. I think we have tight neptune conjunct too and hence it was like breaking out of the mist. It's funny they were born only a few days apartIP: Logged |
ikja
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posted December 28, 2014 11:21 AM
From what I have read about this placement, the Uranus person tends to be rebellious and this makes the Sun person nervous. Especially as the Sun symbolises (ego?), so it's as if at times, their ego is not being fed or adequately looked after by the Uranus person. Perhaps (maybe speaking from experience here lol), when the Sun person tries to "command" (?) the love and affection that they feel they deserve, the Uranus person finds this too taxing to deal with. Too much of a burden to shoulder/carry.... Hence the abrupt end? - see http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/001757.html I think this aspect along with Mars sqaure Mercury makes for the stuff that nightmares are made of!!! IP: Logged |
athenaia
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posted August 16, 2015 01:59 AM
This is such a doom and gloom thread! My boyfriend has Uranus conjunct Venus natally, and sandwiched in between that is his IC. In our synastry, my chart ruler is opposite his Uranus and we've been consistently great for three years. I also have Uranus (loosely) conjunct my IC though, plus I have a lot of Uranian energy in my natal chart. There is hope to be had. I had to look up this aspect on Google and came across this thread - I have Uranus opp. Moon in the synastry with one of my academic advisors and it's good to know there are other positive experiences out there. IP: Logged |
Rosalind
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posted August 16, 2015 02:34 AM
Unless its a conjunction, trine or sextile, yes, the relationship is doomed.IP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted August 16, 2015 01:48 PM
Nothing is "doomed". I've seen plenty of these in long lasting unionsIP: Logged |
athenaia
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posted August 16, 2015 01:52 PM
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Originally posted by Rosalind:
Unless its a conjunction, trine or sextile, yes, the relationship is doomed.
If one of these placements is in Aquarius though I can see it being an energizing force instead of a separative aspect. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted August 16, 2015 02:07 PM
^^ That's how it is for us.My Aqua DSC square my Scorpio Uranus square my husband's sun-Uranus on my ASC. We have Venus closely trine & exactly sextile Uranus in synastry. 17 years together in October. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted August 16, 2015 02:25 PM
If the person has its natally it can't be that bad Like plutonic or Saturnian, Iranian often attracts other uranians any way. IP: Logged |
StargazerLeo
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posted August 16, 2015 02:36 PM
I have a man in my life who appeared suddenly a year and half ago and was gone for a while. He came back a few months ago. It was quick and surprising seeing as I felt nothing the first time I met him. I won't see him until September, so he comes and goes. I have natal Venus and Mars trine Uranus so I may be used to the energy. In synastry, my Venus sextile his Uranus, my Sun square his Uranus, his Moon square my Uranus, and his Uranus makes a conjunction to my Asc in Scorpio. My Uranus also sextile his North Node and trine his South Node and Chiron, but I don't know what effect they would have. They're all pretty close in orb, too. Nothing more than 4. I have to say that not only are our meetings sudden, but we have a bit of an "unconventional bond". There's a 12 year gap between us (I'm 26 and he's 38) and we're from different cultures. We both have jobs that require us to travel a lot so we're rarely in the same place. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted March 25, 2018 07:09 AM
So basically if a person has hard Uranus aspects in their own chart. They would be able to handle it in synastry.IP: Logged |
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