posted September 11, 2013 11:37 AM            

I have a friend I really apreciate and care about but from time to time we have quite a breakdown in comunication and misunderstandings.

Usually I would try to avoid an argument(Pisces Asc taking over, though doing so gets on the nerves of my Aries moon) but lately I've tried to be slightly less accomodating.

Doing that has made me notice that maybe she takes some things I say a little too seriously and at face value(I'm a Sag merc, which apparently makes a nifty pretty square to her Merc).

Mind you, I try to reign in the usual Sag bluntness(particularly since she is a Cancer Moon) and I, on the other hand, have a hard time figuring out when she is being literal, sarcastic, or actually annoyed/mad.

posted September 11, 2013 11:44 AM            

I suppose you could try to say things a little more...flatly? From my experience, they don't take well to humour, exaggeration, or bluntness. It seems they want you to say things as though you were writing a formal essay lmao! Can you be blunt on formal essays?

posted September 15, 2013 05:16 AM            

Don't - talk much, disagree with them, dare to have imagination.. mention anything emotional or psychological that requires slightly more understanding than "pass the salt" or "I have a horrible headache. What do you suggest I take?" - Don't mention anything esoteric unless they mention it first - because they will very quickly put you in the "cray cray" basket - they're a pretty judgemental bunch.

posted September 15, 2013 08:23 AM            

But if you do it, she will have to accept that you do have a different style of talking. I think Virgo and Sagittarius are similar in some way as they both like to do things big - Virgo for the details and analysis, Sagittarius just to share all the knowledge they've picked up.

The extreme sensitivity is part of her Cancer moon, too, probably. Then you get taken aback by that reaction for something you didn't indend that way.

I think Virgo Mercuries do need to learn how to communicate in a less matter-of-fact kind of way. A lot of us are shy, awkward and so we stick to what's comfortable, even if that's too specific for anyone but us. We need to learn to overlook small things, see the big picture, etc. And accept that some things just don't make sense - they happen, it's how you feel.

If you can, try not to take it personally when she's tired/stressed and snaps at you. They do say things shortly, it is hard to feel what they mean sometimes. Chances are they don't either. I agree with what's said, if you're really getting unsure, just ask, silly as it sounds. She may not know how she comes across, and that does need to be said if you get anxious over it. Virgo wants to fix things, they, of all people, would need to hear the most.

And I hate that formal kind of talking! That's more Capricorn's territory, actually. When someone's close with me, I want to feel that way too and super formal is just so... detached. We want to be taken seriously when something is serious for us, though, and when that doesn't happen, at least I feel like my feelings don't matter.