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Topic: Pisces man, what to do?!
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AngelicTaurus
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posted September 15, 2013 05:22 PM
  
Do Pisces men ever change their mind and come back? Particularly if you had a rocky start because of (mainly) his problems and issues. He is a pisces sun and also Venus in pisces, mars in pisces and cancer rising. I am taurus sun, taurus moon, gemini Venus, libra rising, mars in Leo. I met this pisces man online. Our first date didn't go too well, mainly because he was quite shy and nervous and he made me shy. The next time we met was much better, lovely date, drinks, dinner and I ended up going home with him as I warmed up to him and it felt right. He blew hot and cold with a lot. He never called,most of the time I had to initiate contact by text to which he would reply quite quickly. I had to take the.lead and.suggest things. He was flaky, saying he'd want to do something and not get round to it. But he was very sweet, gentle and caring when we were together. I felt well looked after and special to him. He asked questions about my leave and was I taking vacations as he may want to come. He aired his dirty laundry quite early on. Told me of his ex who left him a few months ago when they were together 4 years. She wasn't right for him, years older and clinically depressed. He said he doesn't like being single either. He had job problems: he was in a bad job that made him depressed and he left it. He was between jobs when we met. He got another job when we were together. the new job was bad too. His mood declined badly when he started his new job. I noticed he has very dark moods. He couldn't switch off and leave work behind, he let it affect everything, most of all, us. I was caring and sympathetic and listened to him and tried to make.him feel better. We had a lovely date about 3 weeks ago. He'd been having a rough time at work with long hours. He stayed in touch by text for days afterwards. Then he vanished for nearly a week. I finally asked what was wrong and he text me back and said work was awful not in the right frame of mind for dating anyone. I was upset so probed further and he then said I'm a great person but we've got nothing in common for long term. I pointed out its only been 6 dates and too early to assess as all we did was.have dinner and talk about work. He didn't know me well enough to.tell and he had said no one falls for.him until.they know him well. I gave him a hard time slightly as I was hurt but I made it clear I liked him. I apologised a few days later on text but its now 2 weeks since I heard from him. So my question is: we got on well, we had amazing sex, he didn't take the time to get to know me as he was always.busy at work. He has very black moods and takes life and work stress very hard, he is very sensitive and can't seem to shrug things off.
If / when he sorts his mess out is it likely he will change his.mind and contact me? What should I do? Leave him alone or stay in contact with him and what should I say? I've been.reading lots that pisces men always.come back. how true Is that? Thank you. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 15, 2013 05:31 PM
I would logically advise you to move on because it seems he needs to sort his **** before he dates people..There isn't much you can do now but you'll know what to do when the time comes!
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AngelicTaurus
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posted September 15, 2013 05:37 PM
Thanks Kerosene. But should I just leave him well alone or should I just send the odd text once in a while? Would.pisces man want to be left totally alone or do.they.prefer knowing someone cares and is thinking of them? IP: Logged |
orocairion
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posted September 15, 2013 06:03 PM
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Originally posted by AngelicTaurus:
He is a pisces sun and also Venus in pisces, mars in pisces and cancer rising.
That sounds horrible. No offence.
I can barely stand my own Pisces Asc/Neptune rulership as it is, I can't begin to imagine how it is to have all those Pisces placements in the chart... And I agree with Kerosene here, he doesn't know what he wants and will sabotage himself conciously or unconciously until he resolves his issues quote:
He said he doesn't like being single either.
And this alone should be a red flag.IP: Logged |
AngelicTaurus
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posted September 15, 2013 06:09 PM
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Originally posted by orocairion:
That sounds horrible. No offence.
I can barely stand my own Pisces Asc/Neptune rulership as it is, I can't begin to imagine how it is to have all those Pisces placements in the chart...And I agree with Kerosene here, he doesn't know what he wants and will sabotage himself conciously or unconciously until he resolves his issues [QUOTE]He said he doesn't like being single either.
And this alone should be a red flag.[/QUOTE]I'm new to this astrology thing. What would having all those pisces placements in the chart mean? Would it make a person indecisive / sensitive etc. And please someone.tell me: leave him alone or send the.odd.text now and again? IP: Logged |
orocairion
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posted September 15, 2013 06:14 PM
From my own experience, Pisces is quite sensitive but if he really had strong feelings for you, he would be all over you, issues or no issues.
I'd say let him go, but if you really must, you could text him once every few weeks. IF he doesn't reply to your texts, don't insist.
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AngelicTaurus
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posted September 15, 2013 06:22 PM
See that's what I've thought. But I've read SO many.threads on this site and others that say pisces men are famous for vanishing and acting hot and cold and protecting their freedom even when they like you.I've read that they sit on the fence and need a strong woman to guide it. He was all.over me when we were together and it took a turn for the worse when he got that new job which is awful. This.guy is morose and broods a lot. IP: Logged |
starmoon
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posted September 15, 2013 06:30 PM
i'd leave him alone. men know their own minds regardless of signs, and if he wanted to come around he would, you don't need to pursue a guy that's interested. all that pisces energy in his chart will not make him a go-getter, but rather passive, quiet and introspective. pisces (in general) want to let things happen naturally and not be forced into decision and doing things. your own placements are not like that so it'll be a struggle even if you do hook up again, you just won't 'get' this guy ultimately. the mars in pisces is also a placement indicative of a liarIP: Logged |
AngelicTaurus
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posted September 15, 2013 06:52 PM
Yeah he is very quiet and introspective. I don't know I found him very calming and restful but then my last bf was a gemini who was very hard work and restless.It made a nice change to have a quiet restful guy. I have seen lots of threads here about pisces being changeable and have a reputation for swimming away but then coming back. Can that be true? IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
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From: Love Street, she lingers long on Love Street..
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posted September 15, 2013 07:01 PM
Save yourself any more mental torture and pls read this.
http://www.aphroditeastrology.com/2012/06/disappearing-reappearing-man-what-to-do.html IP: Logged |
starmoon
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posted September 15, 2013 07:05 PM
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Originally posted by AngelicTaurus:
Yeah he is very quiet and introspective. I don't know I found him very calming and restful but then my last bf was a gemini who was very hard work and restless.It made a nice change to have a quiet restful guy. I have seen lots of threads here about pisces being changeable and have a reputation for swimming away but then coming back. Can that be true?
I have placements similar to yours and dated a guy long-term with pisces placements. I did find him a nice change from other men but, ultimately, his laziness and passivity left me bored. unless you're the type that wants to rule over your guy you'd be better off with someone less 'watery' IP: Logged |
AngelicTaurus
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posted September 15, 2013 07:20 PM
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Originally posted by starmoon:
I have placements similar to yours and dated a guy long-term with pisces placements. I did find him a nice change from other men but, ultimately, his laziness and passivity left me bored. unless you're the type that wants to rule over your guy you'd be better off with someone less 'watery'
I wouldn't mind ruling over the guy tbh and making decisions. Reason being all the other guys I've ever been with have been dominating and I found that tiring. everything had to be their way not caring what i wanted. Well I told this guy that I liked him, lets just hope he comes back. His last r'ship broke down because of his moods and depression with his last job. so he says. He was so passionate though. really miss that.
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soulmate777
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posted September 16, 2013 12:33 AM
I'm dealing with one myself too and they're so hard to figure out...they never seem to know what they want.
You said that his ex left him after 4 years, well knowing how sensitive pisces are, his ego is bruised badly...he's probably hurting a lot too and that's way he's all over the place (emotionally)!! I would say let go and if he really wants you, he'll come back hopefully with a clearer vision. Also you don't wanna be his therapist, black moods, job..
Mine's back in the picture right now, dumped him..lol...and now he's all over me, wanting marriage, kids...after 5 years..lol...he just won't give up!!I must say they do mature so he's not really the guy I used to know...now he knows what he wants, talks openly about feelings...he's not the puppy I used to take care of..LOL Good luck IP: Logged |
afarin
Newflake Posts: 13
From: Canada
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 16, 2013 01:18 AM
I just wanted to add my own experience with someone who has most of his planets in Pisces:I always assumed Pisces meant sweet, calm, wouldn't hurt a fly, and would never have a temper tantrum. I think the sensitivity thing carries on into bigger issues. The assumptions I had about Pisces weren't and my own dad has most of his planets in Pisces and has had a horrible temper problem for my entire life. My parents are divorced and my dad is EXTREMELY sensitive and WILL NOT let go of a grudge no matter how ridiculous it is. They don't move on quickly and are bogged down by emotion (this is someone who has the majority of planets in Pisces -- a simple sun sign isn't enough). Anyway, I'm an aries, and I get over things quickly and move on. He is the total opposite of me. I can't imagine having to deal with someone like this in a relationship partner. Anyway, that's all! Maybe this is of some use to you. Good luck either way. I have venus in Pisces, but a venus placement just calms/mellows down the more extreme aries traits that people write about in me. Mercury/Mars/Moon/Sun combos seem to be more potent IP: Logged |
charlie
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From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted September 16, 2013 01:43 AM
As someone who dated a Pisces Sun/Scorpio Moon, Cancer Mars and Pisces Venus for 5 years an have also had many flings with other Pisces, I can quite positively say that you ought to stay away from this one for a while.IP: Logged |
starmoon
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posted September 16, 2013 09:41 AM
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Originally posted by afarin:
I just wanted to add my own experience with someone who has most of his planets in Pisces:I always assumed Pisces meant sweet, calm, wouldn't hurt a fly, and would never have a temper tantrum. I think the sensitivity thing carries on into bigger issues. The assumptions I had about Pisces weren't and my own dad has most of his planets in Pisces and has had a horrible temper problem for my entire life. My parents are divorced and my dad is EXTREMELY sensitive and WILL NOT let go of a grudge no matter how ridiculous it is. They don't move on quickly and are bogged down by emotion (this is someone who has the majority of planets in Pisces -- a simple sun sign isn't enough). Anyway, I'm an aries, and I get over things quickly and move on. He is the total opposite of me. I can't imagine having to deal with someone like this in a relationship partner. Anyway, that's all! Maybe this is of some use to you. Good luck either way. I have venus in Pisces, but a venus placement just calms/mellows down the more extreme aries traits that people write about in me. Mercury/Mars/Moon/Sun combos seem to be more potent
you know, this is a really good point - about holding a grudge and not releasing anger. like you, I let it go asap and move on, but pisces definitely won't let it go, and a partner 'pays' for their mistakes for quite a while. the tendency is the same with cancer as well, not sure on scorpio. so be warned, a pisces can forgive, but will never forget and it's almost like once you hurt them/the relationship you cannot repair it, because their fantasy has been crushed somehow. they are passionate, but I will take my passion in a different form from now on :-) IP: Logged |
AngelicTaurus
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posted September 16, 2013 01:24 PM
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Originally posted by starmoon:
you know, this is a really good point - about holding a grudge and not releasing anger. like you, I let it go asap and move on, but pisces definitely won't let it go, and a partner 'pays' for their mistakes for quite a while. the tendency is the same with cancer as well, not sure on scorpio. so be warned, a pisces can forgive, but will never forget and it's almost like once you hurt them/the relationship you cannot repair it, because their fantasy has been crushed somehow. they are passionate, but I will take my passion in a different form from now on :-)
I never hurt.him though. I was lovely to him. In fact I put up with bad behaviour from him and did.nothing but try to be kind and good to him. He was the one apologizing when he ended it (by text message!!) saying he was sorry he upset me. I.hope pisces remember women who were.nothing but kind to them.
I was a bit vocal at the end but it was just me.pointing out he made no attempt to get to know me and was writing me.off already.
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Brendan34
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From: Albany, NY, USA
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 19, 2013 01:57 AM
I have Cancer Ascendant, Pisces Sun, Pisces Venus, Pisces Jupiter, Cap Moon, Sag Mars and it seems like some of the water placements are getting a bad rap in here. Perhaps from those folk who do not have the water placements. People forget they gravitate toward what works for them in astrology, what complements their placements, and sometimes the emotions do not work for everyone. Everyone has a different disposition. Being watery, like too much of any element, has its positives and negatives so lay off the negative connotations with "watery." IP: Logged |
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