posted September 23, 2013 12:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Lipitor11:
I was seeing this guy-who happens to be a cancer, for about a month-everything was going great, until a week later, he told me he was feeling indifferent about us right now and that a relationship wasn't a priority. And that came out of nowhere. After that he just ended things. I tried to contact him, but he just ignored me. I don't get it, as soon as I was showing interest he pushed me away, and in the beginning, he was saying that I wasn't showing any interest!

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From what I understand....and from my current heart wrenching predicament; this is very much cancer-like. The cancer I was seeing told me in the beginning that I was playing hard to get, but he didnt mind. We connected very well, very fast. I don't even think there is a romance novel out there to describe our connection. I fell hard....head over heels...and fast! And he sent the same signals to me. He opened up to me emotionally as well...and so did I. I felt comfortable enough to go further and so we spent the night on the beach....the most romantic night of my life and sex that I didn't even think existed. He said the most heartfelt and brilliantly romantic things like: "sometimes something special comes along....like shooting stars...that's what we are". Who the hell says that....and who the hell has sex four times in a few hours and all four times being un describably sensual, erotic, and pretty much unearthly. We had such an amazing connection...so intuitive and comfortable. Like it was just a natural fit (he said that too!). He asked me if I could fall in love with him and I said yes...anything is possible. And then he played a song and stated it was perfect for the night with one of the lines being "make me feel like I'm in love again..." The next morning (almost noon) he sent me a good morning text and said he felt amazing and we made plans to meet for dinner. A coupke hours later he calls me freking out about birth control and said he was a nervous wreck....but we had already had the discussion that i have an iud...but he said he just needed to double check with me and he felt better. When i got there for dinner he gave me the most sensual kiss as a greeting. He was all smiles...said he felt great. We had a great dinner...laughed, played footsie, held hands and then went to the nursery and I got sme flowers to plant...he opened doors, held my hand, carried the flowers. We got in the car to leave and all of a sudden he says that he had been an emotional wreck all day and he is trying to get his life back on track and this isn't the path he wanted to take (he had previously been in a serious long term relationship and had an injury to his hand that left him unable to work...he is a musician...and she cheated on him and then left. He lost everything and had to relearn how to use his hand...it took over a year). Anyway, he says he can't risk me falling in love with him. Last I saw him he was walking away all sad faced, turned to wave, and I was trying to keep from crying. I was stunned...I didn't know what to say...so I didn't say much if anything. After I collected my thoughts I sent him a text to ask if we could talk...no answer...I text again...no answer...then I text and ask him why he is treating me like this...he answers and says "I'm sorry but I just don't want to put either of us through anything unnecessary". WTF?! I'm absolutely dumb founded. If he was just trying to have sex with me then someone needs to give that man a Grammy....but I thnk one of two things happened: he had feelings and it scared the **** out of him or he had gotten me and the challenge was over and a committed relationship just isn't in his agenda right now....even tho I wasn't asking for one. We had previously agreed that we would just see what happened as we both continue to work toward our own goals. But...I guess he forgot that plan...or idk...I'm as dumbfounded as you. I haven't heard from him in over a week and I'm seriously heart broken. The single most horrible week of my life...mainly because idk wtf happened. It was like a whirlwind. But I know it's best not to contact a cancer man...leave them be and hopefully they will poke back out again...and then I will take things much, much slower no matter what he says. But...to top my sad story off...I think I shot myself in the foot and lost any chance I had. It was a hard week and I was feeling sorry for myself, so I went with friends to the little hang out where I met my cancer one night when he was playing there....I got really, really, really intoxicated...out of misery and alcohol, I hit on one of the bar tenders (who I knew was previously into me) which happens to be my cancers friend :/. Big mistake. I'm sure it will get back to my cancer . Sigh...I miss him. I hope yours comes back around!

posted September 27, 2013 12:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Lipitor11:
Interesting! I have good news-he came back! I decided to contact the Cancer guy earlier this week-just for the heck of it-to see if he responds. I sent him a text and he responded! I was shocked and he asked me if I wanted to come over-of course I said yes. Then we talked as if nothing happened. They are so confusing! They are so moody...I guess its true what they say-they are crabs and they like to hide in their shells. I guess what he needed was some space.

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Mine came back too....sent me a text Monday morning asking about my weekend as if nothing ever happened....even wondered why I didn't go to his show Friday night. Said he would love for me to come to the next. I left it at that and I haven't texted him at all this week. I genuinely like him and we have a great connection...but I'm a leo sun, sag moon, scorp asc honey...you want me...well, you gotta do better than that cause I can and will move one. I can handle emotional....but not if you hide or don't want to face it...that just goes against my nature and frankly, I have too much to do to keep up with all that!