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Topic: Heartfelt plea - to anyone who hears
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starlightsoul Knowflake Posts: 43 From: north adams, ma, usa Registered: Sep 2013
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posted September 24, 2013 10:06 PM
when you dont know someones time of birth, is there any hope of understanding your synastry? My boyfriends mother and I are at extreme odds (and my boyfriend and I have a 1 year old daughter together ) with one another, she is stubborn, snobby, watches tv 24/7 convinced she is right and refuses to listen to anyone else.. I am 32, mother of 2(my second child is her first grandchild) riddled with anxiety and depression and adhd, and... all i really want to know is where to look for hope. I pray her outdated ways do not destroy my relationship with her son, but, i could never ask him to choose. though , i feel i'm giving up... letting go. It hurts so much! Ive never experienced such close intimacy with another, but what is our intimacy when those closest to us do not support us? Do I ask him to choose me over his own mother? Do I back off and let his mother win? I'm so lost, and hurting so deeply. And our (my bf and I) synastry is riddled with conflict, yet we communicate about intimate matters better than I've ever been able with any other. Is that enough? Can we overcome? Does anyone know where I'm coming from? Has anyone here ever felt this sting, this pain? I'm at a loss. I'll do anything for resolution, for a solution. I desire love an harmony for all, will I ever see it? I experienced enough pain in my life before I met her to fill a dozen lives, I wan t no pain or hurt or suffering for anyone. I don't know what to do! Let go, keep fighting? My bf and I are riddled with struggle, but yet in a way that supports one another. And we have a 1 year old daughter together, and she is the light of our lives. Maybe I'm being too emotional right now, but I feel hopeless, clueless, and full of pain. Such is my life. I dont know what to do or where to turn. I score astrology sites seeking answers, but only end up more frustrated. Anyone else feel my pain? anyone else know what I'm going through? maybe you need not give advice.. but the comfort of knowing another understands.. can be enough to carry on. IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 690 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted September 24, 2013 10:26 PM
My parents were/are in a similar situation. My father’s side hates my mother and her family. My mother’s side returns the sentiment. My parents went through a lot of troubles and tension, their relationship isn’t a harmonious one, but they love each other and stick with each other. In my culture it is not the norm to completely detach from the family, so the best my parents can do is trying their best to ignore and brush those people off. I wish you and your boyfriend all the best. Don’t give up.
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somethingexcellent Knowflake Posts: 2852 From: vodka fine, I'm so divine Registered: Nov 2012
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posted September 24, 2013 10:45 PM
Please talk to your boyfriend about it! I don't think it's fair to him if you're detaching from the relationship without his knowledge...I wish you luck! IP: Logged |
lalalinda Moderator Posts: 3356 From: nevada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 24, 2013 11:39 PM
Hello starlightsoul! Welcome to LL ------------------
"For all those who believe, expect a miracle.” Linda Goodman 1925-1995 IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 5522 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 24, 2013 11:49 PM
You have to think about your daughter, I think that should come before everything else.Anyways there's some good advice here, good luck with everything!!!!! IP: Logged |
Venus De Milo Knowflake Posts: 232 From: the planet of love Registered: Jul 2009
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posted September 25, 2013 06:35 AM
I think you should not worry too much about the synastry and just try to act from a place of love and compassion at all times - for the sake of your beautiful daughter.I understand wanting know, but if you can't find out... then that's that. It doesn't matter what the chart says, how does he make you feel? How do you two CHOOSE to behave towards one another? the chart is just a snapshot of what you're already experiencing, and if you CHOOSE to express the higher vibration of the aspects contained within in it, which is love, kindness, compassion, forgiveness... hope that helps IP: Logged |
starlightsoul Knowflake Posts: 43 From: north adams, ma, usa Registered: Sep 2013
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posted September 25, 2013 09:16 AM
I just want to thank everyone for thier responses. Re-reading what I wrote last night in my emotional breakdown, I was quite a mess. Not much I can do to get through to his mom, except pray that time reveals to her the truth of her own actions and behaviors. I dont want to dwell to much on it, all it does is take my energy from me.. and taking care of a 1 year old demands as much energy as possible! Again thank you everyone.. and may your days be blessedIP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 47716 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 25, 2013 09:19 AM
I have been there. I did it all wrong. I can tell you that. If I had to do it again, I would do it differently but that is hindsight.For you, I am feeling you need to BACK off from your b/f's relationship with HIS mother. Is this easy to do? NO, No, no. Can it be done? Yes, but with a great deal of personal will power. That is my 2 cents. ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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lalalinda Moderator Posts: 3356 From: nevada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 25, 2013 12:11 PM
Ami, you are the sweetest ------------------
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