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Topic: Opinions on synastry between my Ex and her new "friend"....
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Tinysteps
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From: EUROPE
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 03, 2013 07:44 AM
  
A bit of an usual question perhaps. But I need opinions! Me and my ex broke up 4 months ago, she wasn't happy, I had changed, etc. We had a long distance relationship for almost 2 years. We're both in our early 30s.Two weeks ago she went to America, I found out. (She and I are European) and once there decided to stay with this guy for a MONTH, a guy she's gotten to know through her internet work, and looked up to, but never met until now. My ex has a powerful angular Uranus in the 7th house, conjunct Jupiter (and DESC). And a strong natal Aquarius influence. Amongst other things she felt I had gotten clingy and critical/controlling  Obviously.. I dont know the exact birth time of the new guy. But her 7th house URA/JUP configuration in SAG squares the new guy's Venus/Mars conjunction in VIR, rather closely. They have square Suns too, (not too close) and Sun square Mercury. The good aspects are a close Sun-Moon trine (her Moon) and a possible Sun-Moon conjunction depending on his B-time for his moon. Also, his Venus/Mars sextiles her Saturn. They were born the same year. I know I'm partial in all this...any insights guys? IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted October 03, 2013 07:50 AM
Sun-Moon conjunction is said to be a soul mate aspect. Maybe she could instantly connect with him. Some people prefer hard aspects in synastry rather than soft ones. Ura/Jup square Venus/Mars can also create instant attraction.It's an unusual question for sure. IP: Logged |
Tinysteps
Newflake Posts: 8
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 03, 2013 08:07 AM
Yeah, some form of attraction seems very likely I'm thinking more of the long-term possibilities here. Seeing that her ambition is strong (in this case most likely for working in America) I'm thinking she can create an idealistic infatuation that suits and helps her goals, keeping down her intense needs for independence and not feeling stifled...for a while. Obviously I don't want it to work out between them, I admit. But I do care deeply for her and am still in love with her, alas. IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted October 03, 2013 08:11 AM
Even if it does not last, she may not come back to you. She left for a reason, whether it was a good reason or not, I don't know.What goes around, comes around, don't wish for bad things to happen to others. IP: Logged |
Tinysteps
Newflake Posts: 8
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 03, 2013 08:24 AM
While I appreciate the reply, and no offense, but I'm not looking for any karmic/moral opinions here. Only synastric ones. I truly believe we could have a great relationship further on - she left without giving me a chance to repair what had slowly happened because of changes in my life, and the traits I displayed were not really me (whether or not that was the real reason for the breakup). IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted October 03, 2013 08:28 AM
And the synastry between you two? IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted October 03, 2013 08:31 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Tinysteps:
While I appreciate the reply, and no offense, but I'm not looking for any karmic/moral opinions here. Only synastric ones. I truly believe we could have a great relationship further on - she left without giving me a chance to repair what had slowly happened because of changes in my life, and the traits I displayed were not really me (whether or not that was the real reason for the breakup).
You said you don't want it to last. Whether the synastry is positive or not, you will still wish for it to not last, do our opinions make any difference? IP: Logged |
Tinysteps
Newflake Posts: 8
From: EUROPE
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 03, 2013 08:55 AM
Some of our synastry:Me <------------> Her
Uranus conjunct (exact) DESC
DESC conjunct North node
Uranus square Mars
Sun sextile Sun
Mars sextile Sun
Moon trine Moon
Moon trine Mars
Mercury conjunct Mars
Mercury conjunct Moon
Sun semi-sextile Moon
Mars sextile ASC And almost all her personal planets fall in my 1st house. (Big Placidus 1st house)
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AriesLilith
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posted October 03, 2013 08:56 AM
It might be easier if you post the image of the synastry and composite. The aspects you listed can point to some attraction and compatibility, but it doesn't really say much about the big picture.IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted October 03, 2013 08:59 AM
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Originally posted by Tinysteps:
Some of our synastry:Me <------------> Her
Uranus conjunct (exact) DESC
DESC conjunct North node
Uranus square Mars
Sun sextile Sun
Mars sextile Sun
Moon trine Moon
Moon trine Mars
Mercury conjunct Mars
Mercury conjunct Moon
Sun semi-sextile Moon
Mars sextile ASC And almost all her personal planets fall in my 1st house. (Big Placidus 1st house)
Was she attracted to you at first? from what I've seen, usually the planet person gets attracted to the 1st house person at first. Uranus conj. DSC, instant attraction. This synastry lacks stability. IP: Logged |
Liliya
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posted October 03, 2013 09:08 AM
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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
This synastry lacks stability.
What would indicate stability? I'm not picking on you, it's just when I read the aspects, I got slightly jealous o.O Sun sextile Sun, Moon trine Moon, Mercury aspecting personal planets... As for that girls synastry with her new bf, I like that Sun trine Moon more than Moon conj Sun. From my personal experience, when womans Sun conj mans Moon, there will be clashes. Works much better other way around IP: Logged |
Tinysteps
Newflake Posts: 8
From: EUROPE
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 03, 2013 09:10 AM
She (DESC) was highly attracted to me (URA) at first, and for a long time. Was mutual however. But she was the one pushing for spending more time together (Long distance relationship). I slowly let my guard down, and finally fell completely in love too. And then the pendulum of course started to turn the other way IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted October 03, 2013 09:20 AM
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Originally posted by Liliya:
What would indicate stability? I'm not picking on you, it's just when I read the aspects, I got slightly jealous o.O Sun sextile Sun, Moon trine Moon, Mercury aspecting personal planets...As for that girls synastry with her new bf, I like that Sun trine Moon more than Moon conj Sun. From my personal experience, when womans Sun conj mans Moon, there will be clashes. Works much better other way around
Saturn usually brings stability but she may prefer these kind of relationships as she has Uranus in 7th. I have read that when woman's sun conjuncts man's moon, the woman will play the masculine role in the relationship. IP: Logged |
Tinysteps
Newflake Posts: 8
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Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 03, 2013 09:21 AM
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Originally posted by AriesLilith:
It might be easier if you post the image of the synastry and composite. The aspects you listed can point to some attraction and compatibility, but it doesn't really say much about the big picture.
Hers and mine? Synastry looks like this, me inside http://oi42.tinypic.com/2whgwih.jpg IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted October 03, 2013 09:30 AM
Your Dsc ruler Moon opposed by her Neptune, are you sure you're in love with _her_? Are you satisfied? #roseglassesIP: Logged |
Liliya
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posted October 03, 2013 09:32 AM
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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
I have read that when woman's sun conjuncts man's moon, the woman will play the masculine role in the relationship.
True, I had it, wasn't pretty! Also, know a lot of couples with this aspect, and it ends up bitter sooner or later. Thanks for the Saturn point!
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Liliya
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posted October 03, 2013 09:35 AM
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Originally posted by Tinysteps:
Hers and mine? Synastry looks like this, me inside http://oi42.tinypic.com/2whgwih.jpg
I'm qwuite new to astrology, what what I noticed straight away, is that non of you have any personal planets in each others Relationship houses (5th, 7th and 8th). Anyways, I'll leave it to professionals to comment on the rest IP: Logged |
Tinysteps
Newflake Posts: 8
From: EUROPE
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 03, 2013 09:36 AM
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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
Your Dsc ruler Moon opposed by her Neptune, are you sure you're in love with _her_? Are you satisfied? #roseglasses
Who knows aye But yeah, I'm afraid I am. And for the new guy, as I don't know the birth time (I dont even know if they have a real relationship), this is the planet chart:
http://oi42.tinypic.com/2vbmsfd.jpg IP: Logged |
Tinysteps
Newflake Posts: 8
From: EUROPE
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 03, 2013 11:27 AM
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Originally posted by Liliya:
I'm qwuite new to astrology, what what I noticed straight away, is that non of you have any personal planets in each others Relationship houses (5th, 7th and 8th).Anyways, I'll leave it to professionals to comment on the rest
Well except for my Uranus exactly on top of her 7th cusp, but yeah =) IP: Logged |
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