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ash20
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posted October 18, 2013 02:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ash20     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted October 18, 2013 02:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Zander916     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well I'm sure that there's much more going on but the first thing that I looked for, that you share with me is: Venus square Neptune.

I easily accept everything in my chart. It is me, who I am. But Venus square Neptune I have not. I hate it.

"square aspect to Neptune, your Venusian expression takes on an other-wordly quality. Your yearning may be for that perfect lover whose spirituality, passion, purity of spirit and drive all stem from the highest possible level. Loving in such a manner would seem to remove you from the bondage of ordinary life and transport you into true bliss. Although this seems possible in fairy tales or movies, it's really difficult to find those elements in another human being. You may also operate under the illusion that you must first sacrifice yourself before you are worthy of love. It's all too easy to project unrealistic feelings onto your lover, and it is just as tempting to try to alter yourself to please a man so that he will love you. Whether those alterations are in your behavior, your appearance or your attitudes, if you submerge your real self beneath the illusions of what you feel will make you more lovable, you're selling out. If you want to experience the ecstasy you dream about, you'll surrender to a love which honors your real needs and learn to avoid situations where you become addicted, co-dependent, victimized or abused. Forgiving the shortcomings of the man you love is one thing; allowing him to deceive or victimize you is another! Know when and how to give help, but be careful of emotional rescue ventures!"

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posted October 18, 2013 02:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There's a lot of squares and oppositions involving Venus and Neptune. You could be surrounded by people who do not have your best interests at heart. Look for better people.

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posted October 18, 2013 03:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ash20     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have been told im too nice and forgiving. I can't just cut people off, even though scorpio asc suggests so.
But i never noticed venus sq Neptune in my natal, only in my progressed chart so i assumed it was like a transit. Will it ever end?

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posted October 18, 2013 03:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for IndigoDirae     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ash20:
I have been told im too nice and forgiving. I can't just cut people off, even though scorpio asc suggests so.
But i never noticed venus sq Neptune in my natal, only in my progressed chart so i assumed it was like a transit. Will it ever end?

Gotta learn. Really. Best thing I ever did, learning how to say 'no' to people.

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posted October 18, 2013 03:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Zander916     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ash20:
I have been told im too nice and forgiving. I can't just cut people off, even though scorpio asc suggests so.
But i never noticed venus sq Neptune in my natal, only in my progressed chart so i assumed it was like a transit. Will it ever end?

No, you can only become aware of it. I pay close attention to mine. I can cut people off. Usually though, Venus square Neptune blinds me, leads me in and ignores all warning signs. It causes me to lay down and play victim. Then, suddenly, Leo says enough is enough and I end things in a dramatic way. Often, they are completely baffled as to where that "pet" went to and where did this "monster" come from.

I haven't exactly mastered it, but I THINK the key is. Be yourself, treat them as you want to be treated. Expect that what you give, you should also get. It's an even trade (to me anyway) not a sacrifice.
Ultimately, your happiness is still on your shoulders, not theirs, and visa versa.
I've always approached it as this great sacrifice of myself when really I should have just continued on as myself, faults and all.

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posted October 18, 2013 03:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ash20     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Zander916,

I find that very true. Not only did i try to alter myself for guys to like me but also to fit in at school and with friends. But I've (mostly) grown out of that habit. Im still learning to do things im comfortable with and not just to seem "cool" to everyone else.

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posted October 18, 2013 03:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Twirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What happens if you don't use equal house in the chart? Or are they really all the same size?
@zander: I made a pact with friends. They just check the guy to see if what I see is actually there, lol.

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posted October 18, 2013 03:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ash20     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
Gotta learn. Really. Best thing I ever did, learning how to say 'no' to people.

Lol. I think im getting better at the no thing. My ex boyfriend even said he liked me better when we first started dating because i always did what he said. Now he sees me growing a backbone and he doesn't like it lol.

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posted October 18, 2013 03:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Zander916     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Twirl:

@zander: I made a pact with friends. They just check the guy to see if what I see is actually there, lol.

That's great idea!
I always thought that it was for women only as a safety precaution. It would work great for me too perhaps.

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posted October 18, 2013 04:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Twirl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Zander916:
That's great idea!
I always thought that it was for women only as a safety precaution. It would work great for me too perhaps.

I can recommend it with the square. Also, whenever you meet someone who flies you to the moon & back: usually not the best sign. Bit more reality/genuine based really is so much better. Or at least that's been my experiences.

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ash20
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posted October 18, 2013 04:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ash20     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Twirl:
I can recommend it with the square. Also, whenever you meet someone who flies you to the moon & back: usually not the best sign. Bit more reality/genuine based really is so much better. Or at least that's been my experiences.

I've realized the guys who seem to good to be true usually are.This one guy i met didn't give me butterflies and i didn't feel any 'sparks' so automatically i thought i couldn't like him that much. But when i finally did give him a chance i fell hard.
Of course that still didnt work out either but i think moreso because of his own venus sq pluto.

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