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Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6436 From: Registered: Mar 2010	posted November 11, 2013 08:36 PM I have spent the last few months getting over fishy.. I have done everything in my power to move forward. I feel so much better now... I started mediating, doing reiki, I've done a tapping session. Just soooooo much to clear my head of this mess.. But fate has it's hand in this and is making me deal with it face to face... Damn u universe!!!! So now we are sharing an office, while mine is under construction... 40 hrs a week next to each other... We are getting along just fine... Haven't had any issues.. We chit chat... Nothing special... But still do our work.. Before, he always refers to "us" as good times... Saying we always have good times and we have great memories of each other... Blah blah.. So today this man walks past my desk at least 10 times saying good times., as he passed me... Each time I just basically ignored it, and kept working.. Not looking at him... Like if I didn't hear.. But that just caused him to say it more and more, passing by even sooner... So after the 10th time. Of him passing by saying it.. I said ..... yeah... Today's a good day. So then he stopped.. Later at the end if the day, I said bye see ya tomorrow.. He said, cool will you look as sexy tomorrow as you do today.. I said your silly , while laughing and walked out.. So for me, I'm like well it's just to late... I don't want to keep going back and fourth anymore.. When it comes up, which I know he will continue.. I want to say something like I don't think you have what it takes to get me back... What I want to do is challenge him.. It's up to him, if he accepts it or not.... Basically I'm not going to make anything easy... If he really really wants to get back, oooo he's gonna have to work for it... If he's just playing around, it won't matter, cuz I'm not falling for it... If he doesn't ohh well.. I'm a lot more direct, I'd rather say hey I like you, you like me, let's give it a shot.. Or if not, it was nice seeing you... His hints and feeling me out is annoying. Idk what changed astrologically, I feel so much stronger and back in control of meeeee... I know that he's never really going to let me go, it will be interesting to see which path he decides to take... Idk what transits indicate a crossroads, but now is the time for him, to choose one way or another... With me or with out me... I'm not going to do anything, just sit back and see what happens.. Let's see what destiny truly has in store with us... IP: Logged
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 5543 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012	posted November 11, 2013 08:36 PM When I saw the title I thought you meant Jesus. IP: Logged
PixieJane Moderator Posts: 3224 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010	posted November 11, 2013 08:40 PM Have you ever tried witchcraft to rid yourself of this connection/obsession? (You know it's not over, you've been on this merry go round for far too long now.) I know I would if I were in your place and as many times as it took. And if I gave up on it then I'd try more desperate measures even if it meant becoming homeless. IP: Logged
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6436 From: Registered: Mar 2010	posted November 11, 2013 08:42 PM I tried cutting the cord, but that never worked... The only way to rid this mess, is to resolve it one way or another head on.. IP: Logged
Faith Moderator Posts: 6104 From: Registered: Jul 2011	posted November 11, 2013 11:40 PM quote: Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme: When I saw the title I thought you meant Jesus. ^ I don't know what anyone can say to help you finalize your breakup, Lioness, but I can tell you something that has helped me. Once upon a time I was in love (VERY rare for me to be truly in love with a guy) and he dumped me unexpectedly without so much as a glance backward in my direction. It was like sudden death. I'm all about turning negative experiences into positives...what that experience taught me was how to, as Pixie Jane said, cut the cord, whether someone is breaking contact with me, or the other way around. It's strange how easy it can be once you get the hang of it...you just say goodbye to the person in your mind and go into "coping" mode until the pain goes away, then you carry on. The way I think of it now is, everyone dies, everyone has to say goodbye sooner or later. I don't mean to sound morbid, just trying to put it in perspective. Best wishes to you, though. IP: Logged
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6436 From: Registered: Mar 2010	posted November 12, 2013 12:30 AM quote: Originally posted by Faith: ^ I don't know what anyone can say to help you finalize your breakup, Lioness, but I can tell you something that has helped me. Once upon a time I was in love (VERY rare for me to be truly in love with a guy) and he dumped me unexpectedly without so much as a glance backward in my direction. It was like sudden death. I'm all about turning negative experiences into positives...what that experience taught me was how to, as Pixie Jane said, cut the cord, whether someone is breaking contact with me, or the other way around. It's strange how easy it can be once you get the hang of it...you just say goodbye to the person in your mind and go into "coping" mode until the pain goes away, then you carry on. The way I think of it now is, everyone dies, everyone has to say goodbye sooner or later. I don't mean to sound morbid, just trying to put it in perspective. Best wishes to you, though. I understand, it's just the circumstances are different... It's really hard to cut the cord with someone, when your basically locked in an office (alone) together.. That's the weird thing, when ever I make any attempt to forget about him, so stupid circumstance happens (out of either of our control) and forces us to face each other. I've been "trying" to get away from it for a very long time now... I've spent 100 of hours avoiding him, no contact, reiki, mediation, tapping... Just to clear my head... I finally do that, then I'm moved into his office.. What I'm figuring is "we" have to face this once and for all, one way or another... We can't run and hide and heal... We have to face it out with each other, some how get to resolve what ever needs to be resolved... So I'm no longer going to run nor waste valuable time/effort getting over it.... I'm going to face it head on, and let it take it's course.. I'm assuming that will be towards some sort if final ending... But universe won't let me "not face" this... For what ever reason, we both just have to face it together... I'm not quitting my job, I've been with the company 19yrs.. I have perks, that I would never be able to get anywhere else... Plus my boss, I have an obligation to him... Maybe when he retires, I will consider moving on... But not until then.. IP: Logged
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 7007 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012	posted November 12, 2013 12:37 AM quote: Originally posted by PixieJane: Have you ever tried witchcraft to rid yourself of this connection/obsession? (You know it's not over, you've been on this merry go round for far too long now.) I know I would if I were in your place and as many times as it took. And if I gave up on it then I'd try more desperate measures even if it meant becoming homeless. Has witchcraft worked for you, personally? Or is it a placebo effect? IP: Logged
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 7007 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012	posted November 12, 2013 12:42 AM quote: Originally posted by Lioness: I have spent the last few months getting over fishy.. I have done everything in my power to move forward. I feel so much better now... I started mediating, doing reiki, I've done a tapping session. Just soooooo much to clear my head of this mess.. But fate has it's hand in this and is making me deal with it face to face... Damn u universe!!!! So now we are sharing an office, while mine is under construction... 40 hrs a week next to each other... We are getting along just fine... Haven't had any issues.. We chit chat... Nothing special... But still do our work.. Before, he always refers to "us" as good times... Saying we always have good times and we have great memories of each other... Blah blah.. So today this man walks past my desk at least 10 times saying good times., as he passed me... Each time I just basically ignored it, and kept working.. Not looking at him... Like if I didn't hear.. But that just caused him to say it more and more, passing by even sooner... So after the 10th time. Of him passing by saying it.. I said ..... yeah... Today's a good day. So then he stopped.. Later at the end if the day, I said bye see ya tomorrow.. He said, cool will you look as sexy tomorrow as you do today.. I said your silly , while laughing and walked out.. So for me, I'm like well it's just to late... I don't want to keep going back and fourth anymore.. When it comes up, which I know he will continue.. I want to say something like I don't think you have what it takes to get me back... What I want to do is challenge him.. It's up to him, if he accepts it or not.... Basically I'm not going to make anything easy... If he really really wants to get back, oooo he's gonna have to work for it... If he's just playing around, it won't matter, cuz I'm not falling for it... If he doesn't ohh well.. I'm a lot more direct, I'd rather say hey I like you, you like me, let's give it a shot.. Or if not, it was nice seeing you... His hints and feeling me out is annoying. Idk what changed astrologically, I feel so much stronger and back in control of meeeee... I know that he's never really going to let me go, it will be interesting to see which path he decides to take... Idk what transits indicate a crossroads, but now is the time for him, to choose one way or another... With me or with out me... I'm not going to do anything, just sit back and see what happens.. Let's see what destiny truly has in store with us... Lioness. I understand, fishies are innocently captivating . You to need use your inner fixed lion queen powers and innocently tell him to fuq himself and be cool. Maybe if you're hostile he'll swim away. They hate hostility, then again sometimes they just bare with that abuse too.... they'll swim away and come back... arrrgh. IP: Logged
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6436 From: Registered: Mar 2010	posted November 12, 2013 12:48 AM Yeah.. He always comes back... Which is more reason, of both if us facing it once and for all, one way or another... I'm not going to be mean or disrecpectful to him... That's not my style... (Unless they are like that to me ) That's not the answer, It's just delaying the facing it... I know that's what needs to be done now.. IP: Logged
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6436 From: Registered: Mar 2010	posted November 12, 2013 12:48 AM Dp IP: Logged
DeepFreeze Knowflake Posts: 71 From: Pluto Registered: Nov 2013	posted November 12, 2013 01:12 AM I think basically ignoring him with just an occasional sarcastic remark as you said you did, will do the trick. Any strong reaction is still a reaction. Even if it's negative, passionate feelings were ignited and it will be recognized. IP: Logged
PixieJane Moderator Posts: 3224 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010	posted November 12, 2013 01:46 AM quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: Has witchcraft worked for you, personally? Or is it a placebo effect? Yes. But I've never used it for something like this. And it's not a placebo effect. I'm not going to say why I know that in this thread, however. Besides, I wouldn't care if it was as long as it stopped my obsessive feelings for him. IP: Logged
DeepFreeze Knowflake Posts: 71 From: Pluto Registered: Nov 2013	posted November 12, 2013 02:35 AM I could use some of that. LOL I get extremely obsessed just with "crushes". It's crazy! Makes my head spin. Got two right now. IP: Logged
bethbabe Knowflake Posts: 416 From: CA Registered: Jun 2012	posted November 12, 2013 02:39 AM hi lioness! i don't know much about the background of your story...but it came suddenly to me that i needed to pray to the universe for you, i hope things will get better for you! IP: Logged
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6436 From: Registered: Mar 2010	posted November 12, 2013 07:28 PM I wouldn't want to do black magic, I'm afraid of that stuff.. Lol... This is the first time, I've ever felt obsessed.... It's a crazy feeling that's for sure... IP: Logged
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 6436 From: Registered: Mar 2010	posted November 12, 2013 07:29 PM quote: Originally posted by bethbabe: hi lioness! i don't know much about the background of your story...but it came suddenly to me that i needed to pray to the universe for you, i hope things will get better for you! Ahhh thanks. IP: Logged
charlie Knowflake Posts: 1144 From: los angeles, ca, USA Registered: Jun 2012	posted November 12, 2013 09:36 PM quote: Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme: When I saw the title I thought you meant Jesus. I just choked on my asparagus IP: Logged
iliketurtles Knowflake Posts: 237 From: 2099 Registered: Nov 2010	posted November 12, 2013 09:49 PM that is so freaking typical isnt it?! you just manage to make peace with something, and hello its right back in your face again idk treat him like a brother tell him hes ugly and stupid.... IP: Logged
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 5543 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012	posted November 12, 2013 09:50 PM quote: Originally posted by charlie: I just choked on my asparagus Why are you eating asparagus :s IP: Logged
PixieJane Moderator Posts: 3224 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010	posted November 12, 2013 09:54 PM quote: Originally posted by Lioness: I wouldn't want to do black magic, I'm afraid of that stuff. It's not black magic, no more than self-hypnosis would be (something else I'd try, btw). Black magic would be more attacking him (including in trying to make him your love slave). IP: Logged
charlie Knowflake Posts: 1144 From: los angeles, ca, USA Registered: Jun 2012	posted November 12, 2013 10:03 PM quote: Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme: Why are you eating asparagus :s Purely experimental purposes IP: Logged
Belage Knowflake Posts: 1299 From: USA Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 13, 2013 09:18 PM If you were clear within yourself that you do not want to go back to him, this situation would be resolved instantly. However, you are still struggling with wanting him. It seems to be the kind of relationship karma where you will have to be burned through and through before you are able to move on. IP: Logged
Belage Knowflake Posts: 1299 From: USA Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 13, 2013 09:19 PM quote: Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme: When I saw the title I thought you meant Jesus. I am dying over here. LOL. IP: Logged
Odette Knowflake Posts: 2820 From: Registered: May 2012	posted November 13, 2013 10:03 PM Lioness - If I really loved my job and was in this situation - and really wanted him out of my life.. then I wouldn't laugh at his jokes or talk to him. I would tell him seriously that he is bothering me a lot and I would like him to stop interacting with me in a way that is unprofessional. I would also tell him that I do not look upon our times as "good times" - merely neural times.. and that I am entirely disinterested in him on a romantic level. IP: Logged
Randall Webmaster Posts: 34370 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009	posted November 14, 2013 09:41 PM Failing to see the Astrology in this thread. IP: Logged

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