posted November 19, 2013 03:08 PM            

Sounds pretty typical of (not very healthy) Cancer men. I've heard a lot of stories similar to yours, with the back and forth, "hot and cold" thing. I actually experienced something similar.

I think the most important question to ask yourself is: do you want to be part of this dynamic? Because people don't change easily. If he's been that way with you all along, it's not just going to magically change because you love him. He has to sort himself out, sure, but are you willing to wait? Who knows how long that could take, and he may not even want to be with you after he gets better.
I don't mean to say that you should just dump him and move on because obviously, it sounds like he's miserable, and maybe he does love you and wants to be with you and needs your support.
It's up to you to decide if you're willing to wait and be there for him. Just make sure you're doing it out of love and not out of a feeling of guilt or duty.

posted November 19, 2013 03:17 PM            

1. He faced me. He didn't hide. He was blunt. He warned me before he 'left' and told me it was not me at all. Unlike last time where he just dropped off the map.

2. He answers me if I text him asking him a simple question. I have only texted twice in this past week , so while I have backed off I have also touched base. Last time, I never got any replies.

posted November 19, 2013 03:20 PM            

(in the 3. instead of choosing "Natal chart", choose "Synastry")

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posted November 19, 2013 03:51 PM            

Your synastry looks intense. There are many elements to it - some very good, and some not so good (like in the majority of synastries between couples).

The thing here is that your Pluto opposes his Venus, and your Moon/Saturn oppose his Mars.
His Uranus/Neptune oppose your Mars, and fall on your DSC.
His Moon squares your Moon/Saturn, as well.

You're the Pluto in the Venus/Pluto opposition, and the Moon/Saturn in the Mars opposition. So he may feel a bit oppressed by you and your "sensitivity" and demands, sometimes. You can come across as quite insecure or bossy, and overly-attached and oppressive to him. He may feel too controlled by you or like he can't express himself like he'd want to. It doesn't have to directly relate to your behavior, but it's more on an energey level.
Your Mars oppose his Uranus/Neptune, now that... that's a red flag, to me personally. Because the Uranus/Neptune person just won't have stable feelings for the Mars person. It's likely to always be an on and off thing. I've had this two times being the Uranus/Neptune person and I can safely say I was never attracted to the Mars person on a "regular" basis. It was very unstable. Besides the fact that they fall right on your DSC only amplifies the instability of the relationship. He definitely acts elusive and aloof sometimes and romantic and caring some other times. Unfortunately, it will probably be quite difficult to "stabilize" this energy.
His Uranus/Neptune also square your Mercury, that only adds to the communication problems and may even point to deceit / lies.

You -do- have some good things, the grand trine between Sun, Venus and Uranus/Neptune, and Sun trine Moon/Saturn, as well as a well-aspected Mercury (his). That's pretty sweet, but it doesn't cancel out all the other energies.

Moon square Moon/Saturn indicates that your basic emotional temperaments are quite different, and there may be some frustration surrounding emotional needs. Saturn adds to the misunderstanding / coldness factor and creates challenges between people so they can grow and learn some lessons through experience.

It looks challenging, to me.
I wouldn't say impossible, but I'm afraid the instability will be a constant, here.

Please don't base your decision on what I've said, though. Take some time to think about it all and see where your relationship goes for the next few months, or so. If you see some improvement, great. If not, then you know what to do.

posted November 19, 2013 04:01 PM            

I am sorry my interpretation sounded quite negative, but I wanted to give you an objective point of view.

posted November 19, 2013 04:22 PM            

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
Trust me , no straight answers is quite accurate.like I said, he wants to try the rubber band theory. Go as far away as he can then snap back? I really hope in his head he see's an issue with this... Want to hear the odd part? I got a virgo day by day astrology guide, and the exact date he checked out last year, to the exact day he checked out this year...Neptune was mentioned . Both times. Think that's a piece of the puzzle?

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I am a Cancer-cancer stellium. As a Cancer and ruled by the Moon we change. We float with the moods and ocean so if there's a transit or progression we change. I was born under a full moon and despite being more like an Aquarius my moods change so quickly that I'll spin your head off. Try to go with the flow for as long as you can take it BUT don't EVER change how you feel just to try and a make him open up more. Just remain the same and reassuring.

posted November 19, 2013 04:24 PM            

Nov 13 2013
"Neptune goes direct in your seventh house today.Difficulties related to marriage or relationships dissolve. Something secretive and deceptive is going on'

posted November 19, 2013 04:26 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
I am a Cancer-cancer stellium. As a Cancer and ruled by the Moon we change. We float with the moods and ocean so if there's a transit or progression we change. I was born under a full moon and despite being more like an Aquarius my moods change so quickly that I'll spin your head off. Try to go with the flow for as long as you can take it BUT don't EVER change how you feel just to try and a make him open up more. Just remain the same and reassuring.

Also, I haven't met one Cancer that wasn't a master at playing games. We find one loophole in you? You will be dragged in sand, over cliffs and rocks and ultimately buried in a hole. Sad but true.

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posted November 19, 2013 05:08 PM            

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
I love male cancers and all, and I do understand their moods. But personally, I draw the line at someone thinking its OK to ignore someone they 'love' for months , then coming back like nothing happened. I am okay with weeks. But months? Ouch.

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