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Topic: Does his venus in Scorpio shine trough ?
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OneWonderDay
Newflake Posts: 5
From: Europe
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 25, 2013 04:20 PM
  
Hello,
I was thinking a lot of if I should or shouldn't make this topic and if it's fine to ask complete strangers. It's not exactly advice that I'm looking for, but an explanation.So first my background story:
I'm pisces with Scorpio ascendant and I am a survivor of Child Sexual Abuse (I was not raped, but whatever happened left me quite shattered). I have liked guys since I remember myself, and even after that, I kept liking them... But always as innocent as when I was kid. But in my head I'm only one sexual person, so I don't view anyone in sexual way. But that didn't stop hear some comments or invitations since I was 12 from guys and men (mind you - i was not "gifted" girl, neither I'm right now) Now why I came here:
The guy is my crush. Sun in Libra, Moon in Cancer, Mercury in Libra, Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Capricorn. I have liked him since January, he knows. He also knows the fact that I was sexually abused. Now a twist is that he is only guy that I ever had sexual dream (and/or fantasy about. (Including all of the celebrities) and I decided to tell him (because I'm such a guilt ridden person, and I know it was a silly thing to do, but it won't happen again). He didn't respond immediately, but he started a conversation with me next week...
Asked: why, I didn't know... Asked if it was violent, I said no, told him to just take it as a compliment from my sub-conscience. His response was: ok, then few sentences later, happened THIS:
He asked if a lot of men talk with me about sex, then asked for a number (called me boring for not giving him number after 10 min. since he asked the question), asked why they do it, asked what I do. I was honest (silly thing to do, but I cannot lie unless the way I say something is actually not a lie), I told him that most guys are far too aggressive or too pushy for me. But there are guys who know little bit about my sexuality (like him, with the dream and stuff). Then came his reaction: I'm sure that guy has some "hot" pictures of you 
Me: I don't take "hot" pictures of myself....
He: good First what puzzles me is the "good" part, throughout the conversation it was "ok", but suddenly "good"? And then - why he did that ? I can't under any circumstances this being just "making a small talk" or something. I asked if he was trying to make me feel bad about myself. He said: "no", but when I asked why he asked me those questions, he told me "to talk, not more" and told me not to ask him why he is doing something (and that it wasn't the first time he asked me not do to that) Now, I would like to see how he saw this conversation.... And other guys are interested in me, so I'll give them chance... My guess this is a case of "don't want you, don't want others to want you either", but I would like to hear other opinions... IP: Logged |
JudyVanTassel
Knowflake Posts: 268
From: The Moon
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 25, 2013 06:15 PM
That's hard, i'm sorry you lived that OneWonderDay.
Reading your post bbbbffff woww....to be honest, i don't know what to tell you. I read your post a couple of times to understand it, and i think that guy could be a little bit "squizofrenic"? I don't know what to say about that behaviour. Maybe he was trying to understand your situation, and know how you affront the things with guys, i don't know. I don't think he was trying to make you feel bad, but there are things i don't understand.
So, he talks to you but then he says he doesn't want to talk more? Just a "small talk", what is that? Seriously, i don't get it. I supposed that you have confidence in him, because of the fact that you shared with him a difficult part of your life.
That's the last thing you know about him? When this conversation happened?
I'm scorpio ascendant like you, but i have sun in cancer.
His venus in scorpio may fall in your 12 or 1 house.
But, could you be more specific with this?IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3299
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 25, 2013 06:48 PM
Who is this guy that you shared such intimate details about yourself but not your number?  Offhand I'd guess he was being more Libra curious than showing his Venus Scorpio but I found what you described too strange to understand. IP: Logged |
OneWonderDay
Newflake Posts: 5
From: Europe
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 26, 2013 02:57 AM
I guess I wasn't clear at all, he didn't ask for my number, but told me to tell him how many guys have been doing that. (I don't keep count)He occasionally opens up as well... His questions for me seems weird, so... It was just curiosity that made him ask such questions ? Why would he be curious about that? IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3299
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 26, 2013 04:09 AM
Libra is curious to understand better and is interested in both trivia and in your perspective, that is to see it from your point of view. It's not intended to be invasive or rude or mean (and wouldn't ask if they thought you'd take it that way) it's intended to figure out what it's like for you. Something a lot of people who aren't Libra haven't figured out is that our subjective realities are not objective. That is just because you feel something doesn't mean every other woman feels or reacts the same way, you are an individual, not some clone of everyone else (it's amazing how many people don't realize this, they say they do but then operate on the assumption that every other man or woman is just like himself/herself and may even say things like "any woman who says she's different from me is lying" showing they really don't get it). Libra knows this better than any other sign and therefore needs to know more to have a better understanding since his own understanding is based on experiences that are not yours and therefore he can't figure out your point of view and what things are like for you unless he knows more about you. And Libra typically takes pleasure in learning to understand. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3299
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 26, 2013 04:17 AM
quote:
Then came his reaction: I'm sure that guy has some "hot" pictures of you
Me: I don't take "hot" pictures of myself....
He: goodFirst what puzzles me is the "good" part, throughout the conversation it was "ok", but suddenly "good"?
I don't really understand what you're saying here so I'm having to do some guess work. He was being supportive. Saying a guy or guys had pictures of you may have been joking around a little or he may have been prodding to see just how much it is you share with other men. If he's like a lot of Librans (I'm assuming you are both adults) he probably thinks the trend of females sending sexy pix is crass as well as stupid. He would've accepted it if you had but was glad you didn't. IP: Logged |
OneWonderDay
Newflake Posts: 5
From: Europe
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 26, 2013 12:45 PM
thank you, PixieJane, for your insights  ok, so it's his curiosity, but why? Or relationship is not very close, I'm always the one making conversations, that's why this... is quite weird for me.Hope you have a wonderful day IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3299
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 26, 2013 05:34 PM
Because it's what Libra does. He's showing interest when you speak to him by trying to understand. And if he can properly "weigh" your point of view that feels good. Understanding someone else usually feels nice like how some take joy in solving a puzzle. IP: Logged |
OneWonderDay
Newflake Posts: 5
From: Europe
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 26, 2013 05:44 PM
so, is he interested in me ? [and I don't talk about attractions here, more so about having friendly relationship]IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 3299
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 26, 2013 05:48 PM
He likes you like he likes a lot of people. Libra tends to be very social, knowing different people is good for keeping their scales balanced.IP: Logged |
OneWonderDay
Newflake Posts: 5
From: Europe
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 26, 2013 06:16 PM
ok, thank you... I guess I'll just have to let go of this, but I must be honest - he doesn't really like me, he also belittled me few times, so I guess it's better if I just forget about this all... that conversation was yet another exception, that's why I'm still clinging over it.thank you, PixieJane, for taking your time with your responses. IP: Logged | |
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