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Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 172 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 11:22 AM
A question.Are lunar Aquarians, Moon-Uranus sqaure/opposition and conjunction people generally unreliable? I guess what I mean is, is there always something that comes up with them when they set a date and have to cancel? Do they dislike making plans to meet up or when the date finally arrives for a commitment they've made, find it difficult to honour it? I have just been stood up by an Aquarian Moon and though I won't be too mad at him(he claimed that he had a crisis that he had to take care of), but this keeps happening with Aquarian lunar people and myself or those with challenging aspects between Uranus and the Moon(including the conjunction). My ex has an opposition with to his Moon from Uranus and he always was either late for dates, cancelled dates frequently or would show up and expect me to be available. It was really very annoying. I used to get so mad at him until I discovered that he has this aspect in his chart. Another had their Moon in Aquarius(unaspected) and she was simply unrelatable to me. What I mean is, she was very aloof and disengaged in conversation; would interrupt when you are making a point, change the subject just when you're invested emotionally in it or simply walk away to talk to someone else when in the middle of a conversation. I stopped talking to her . I just couldn't take the way she treated our interactions anymore. The last is not a lunar Aquariusn but has his Ascthere. He is the most unreliable, random and frequently does things on a whim. He dislikes commitments and even when he makes them, something always seems to compe "up". Then suddenly he re-arranges everything and expects everyone else to understand and be able to re-schedule to a time that best suits him. What??? There are , ofcourse, many other exmaples that I would list as a part of my experience with Uranus/Aquarius Moon people. And even with those who have Aquarius rising/Uranus aspecting it. If I could get a response from Aquarian people, it'll be grand. Is it in your nature to avoid commitments or are most of you "victims of circumstances" that are beyond your control; causing you to cancel dates and re-schedule appointments?
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charlie Knowflake Posts: 1329 From: los angeles, ca, USA Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 12:23 PM
I want to answer based on my stellium in 11H and Uranus being trine that stellium and Uranus also being my 2nd highest ranking planet after Mercury. And as a comparison guy I am dating has an Aqua Moon.I am flakey as he11. I can cancel on you a few minutes before we are due to meet. My thoughts are electric and I go with the "flow" which means I go where the wind takes me without much consideration for anyone else. I do things on the whim everyday. I live by "fate". I am also super-aloof and, like you said about someone else, can walk away mid-conversation or simply change topic. I also have a love for humanity as a whole which makes it very hard to concentrate on one human. Guy with Aqua Moon is as fixed of a human you'll find. His thinking might be slightly "out there" but he is the EXACT opposite of what I stated above. So I THINK that the changeable nature more comes from very prominent Uranus as opposed to the sign Aquarius if that makes sense. IP: Logged |
micromermaid Knowflake Posts: 40 From: Registered: Nov 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 12:29 PM
I have a Pisces sun and Aquarius moon. As far as Uranus goes, I'm part of the Uranus conjunct Neptune in Capricorn generation, and my Uranus is opposite my Midheaven making me emotionally independent and frustrated by jealousy and possessiveness. This last aspect doesn't have anything to do with my moon, but I think it enhances a lot of the Aquarian qualities you touch upon here. I would say that I can be very aloof. Aquarians love their freedom and value individuality above most anything. Is it in my nature to avoid commitments? Yes and no. When I commit to something, I do it with every ounce of my being. If I didn't seriously commit, chances are that I took the issue as more of a suggestion with little consequence. Often times I'll suggest something with no serious intention of pursuing it, just because I want to have that option open and viable in case the wind blows that way. It's not that I'm a victim of circumstance, it's just I like to have my options open in case something else comes up. And often other things do come up, and when I change plans it's nothing personal. The way I see it, I'm perfectly capable of doing my own thing and occupying myself, so why can't you? Of course this isn't the most empathetic approach (my Pisces sun makes me more empathetic than this, so I can usually catch myself doing this), but I do have a tendency not to consider it an issue when I want to do my own thing or a thing different from what was originally suggested. IP: Logged |
earthypisces Knowflake Posts: 398 From: Greenville, South Carolina Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 12:43 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: A question.Are lunar Aquarians, Moon-Uranus sqaure/opposition and conjunction people generally unreliable? I guess what I mean is, is there always something that comes up with them when they set a date and have to cancel? Do they dislike making plans to meet up or when the date finally arrives for a commitment they've made, find it difficult to honour it?
This sounds exactly like my mother. She's a Libra with an Aquarius moon. She'll make all these promises to people, then have absolutely no problem breaking them. If possible, she'll even try to throw the responsibility onto another person at the last second, and if they refuse, she acts like they are the worst person ever! She drives both of my brothers and I absolutely insane with how unreliable she truly is.
------------------ Pisces Sun Capricorn Moon/Venus Taurus Ascendant Aquarius Mercury Leo Mars IP: Logged |
AscTaurus Knowflake Posts: 801 From: Pretoria, Gauteng,South Africa Registered: May 2009
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posted December 05, 2013 01:39 PM
quote: Originally posted by charlie:
I am flakey as he11. I can cancel on you a few minutes before we are due to meet. My thoughts are electric and I go with the "flow" which means I go where the wind takes me without much consideration for anyone else. I do things on the whim everyday. I live by "fate". I am also super-aloof and, like you said about someone else, can walk away mid-conversation or simply change topic. I also have a love for humanity as a whole which makes it very hard to concentrate on one human.
Aries23 has a point, But hey look, I'm no saint either. I have the Moon aspecting Mercury and Mars by opposition and square(respectively). And, just like you said, I want the leeway to explore other options and not be "bound" to one. But I reckon that when you are at the brunt of where these cancellations and last minute re-arrangements hit, you can't help but get emotional and angry. Mars aspecting Moon and Neptune aspecting moon(Aries and Pisces Moon) also have this flair of just "winging it" at short term notice-without really thinking of those whom are affected by the changes they have implemented. But here is the rub; After some time, when people start to see you as eccentric, unreliable and not likely to keep dates/ promises, doesn't that make them isolate you from their company? Not to say that they'll shut you out visibly, but they'll find it difficult to count on you in difficult times when looking for assistance or when counting on accountability? These are essential to relationship building and if not nurtured, don't you think that you may not necessarily end up being alone, but definitely "feeling" alone? This is kinda like the friend that you loved to party with in College/Varsity but simply cannot emotionally invest in when looking for a more stable future with your husband/wife and kids. Catch my drift??? I am finding that, even though I have no Aquarian energy in my chart,but I do find that when people see you as unpredictable and emotionally distant, after some time, they stop trying to reach you. The irony here ,however, is that when this happens, you start reaching out for them.
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somethingexcellent Knowflake Posts: 4122 From: vodka fine, I'm so divine Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 01:41 PM
quote: Are lunar Aquarians, Moon-Uranus sqaure/opposition and conjunction people generally unreliable?
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Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 172 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 01:56 PM
quote: Originally posted by micromermaid: I have a Pisces sun and Aquarius moon. As far as Uranus goes, I'm part of the Uranus conjunct Neptune in Capricorn generation, and my Uranus is opposite my Midheaven making me emotionally independent and frustrated by jealousy and possessiveness. This last aspect doesn't have anything to do with my moon, but I think it enhances a lot of the Aquarian qualities you touch upon here. I would say that I can be very aloof. Aquarians love their freedom and value individuality above most anything. Is it in my nature to avoid commitments? Yes and no. When I commit to something, I do it with every ounce of my being. If I didn't seriously commit, chances are that I took the issue as more of a suggestion with little consequence. Often times I'll suggest something with no serious intention of pursuing it, just because I want to have that option open and viable in case the wind blows that way. It's not that I'm a victim of circumstance, it's just I like to have my options open in case something else comes up. And often other things do come up, and when I change plans it's nothing personal. The way I see it, I'm perfectly capable of doing my own thing and occupying myself, so why can't you? Of course this isn't the most empathetic approach (my Pisces sun makes me more empathetic than this, so I can usually catch myself doing this), but I do have a tendency not to consider it an issue when I want to do my own thing or a thing different from what was originally suggested.
But have you considered that perhaps this tendency to consider all available options has more to do with wanting to experience relating to others on a superficial basis(much like Gemini). Where you can appease yourself and move on? Its not like you are allowing for the choice you've made(at that given time) to unravel the many potential manifestations because(much like a Libra Moon) , you're sitting on the fence; aware of many options but not really "experienced" enough to detail where each one leads. Why does is seem like the "flow" is synonymous with ambiguity, contradiction and, even, outright chaos? IP: Logged |
Liliya Knowflake Posts: 480 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 01:58 PM
Ohh my, I've Moon conjunct Uranus, and I'm unreliable. I actually never paid attention to it, but reading your post, I realised I always do such things I can cancel dates with friends and even doctor appointments for no apparent reason, just because I "don't feel like it". Ahh, I didn't notice this until you pointed it out. Thanks very much. I'll definitely work on it! IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent Knowflake Posts: 4122 From: vodka fine, I'm so divine Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 02:13 PM
To write a longer response...me and my Libra friend are like this! We're very whimsical and free-flowing! If we cancel or suddenly make plans, then just go with the flow! It's just how airy people are.Don't take it personally, it's just what's available to us at that moment. We don't mean any harm! For example, I often suddenly cancel or stand up people, she will quit plans because she has something more important that needs doing, I will suddenly push for something at the last minute, she'll tag along without much warning... It's good when we're together because I can call her up 20 minutes until the start of a movie and say, "are you up for a movie right now?" and she'll say yes and drive to the theatres! Or conversely, she'll suddenly say she needs to visit her family and watch her younger siblings and I'll say ok! There's no ill intent, so I don't view it as a spot on someone's character, I just roll with it and continue the value the person as I can! I know, I know, for some people it's hard to not take things personally, but that's the specialty of an airy person - to let things roll off their back and just keep flowing. IP: Logged |
charlie Knowflake Posts: 1329 From: los angeles, ca, USA Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 02:19 PM
quote: Originally posted by Liliya: Ohh my, I've Moon conjunct Uranus, and I'm unreliable. I actually never paid attention to it, but reading your post, I realised I always do such things I can cancel dates with friends and even doctor appointments for no apparent reason, just because I "don't feel like it". Ahh, I didn't notice this until you pointed it out. Thanks very much. I'll definitely work on it!
Yep. I do the whole doc appointment "thing" as well. Sadly it's getting worse for me as I am aging. ONE second of feeling caged in I will bolt IP: Logged |
micromermaid Knowflake Posts: 40 From: Registered: Nov 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 02:30 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: But have you considered that perhaps this tendency to consider all available options has more to do with wanting to experience relating to others on a superficial basis(much like Gemini). Where you can appease yourself and move on?Its not like you are allowing for the choice you've made(at that given time) to unravel the many potential manifestations because(much like a Libra Moon) , you're sitting on the fence; aware of many options but not really "experienced" enough to detail where each one leads.
My Mars is in Gemini, and on a certain level, yeah I do want to connect with lots of people on a superficial level. Also, my Asc is Libra, so yeah, I do have a tendency to seem indecisive in this regard. But truly, I crave deep and meaningful connections. I can superficially connect with just about anyone, but if we keep hanging out and don't make any progress towards truly knowing each other, I get bored or frustrated. My Mercury and Venus are in my 7th house, so one-on-one relationships and communication are incredibly important to me. quote:
Why does is seem like the "flow" is synonymous with ambiguity, contradiction and, even, outright chaos?
Do you have lots of earth influence in your chart by any chance? The behavior I described here does seem flighty and very Gemini-esque, but really most of the Aquarians I know (myself included) take their responsibilities very seriously. I think we just have different expectations about what constitutes a responsibility. I may earnestly make a suggestion, not a promise, and have no intention of being deceptive. You may take this as a commitment, as a solid plan, and then be disappointed when I don't follow through with what you understood to be a promise. There is a communication gap here, and if you value the Aquarians in your life and want to stop being disappointed by them, you should talk to them about it and try to adjust your expectations.
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micromermaid Knowflake Posts: 40 From: Registered: Nov 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 02:32 PM
quote: Originally posted by somethingexcellent: To write a longer response...me and my Libra friend are like this! We're very whimsical and free-flowing! If we cancel or suddenly make plans, then just go with the flow! It's just how airy people are.Don't take it personally, it's just what's available to us at that moment. We don't mean any harm! For example, I often suddenly cancel or stand up people, she will quit plans because she has something more important that needs doing, I will suddenly push for something at the last minute, she'll tag along without much warning... It's good when we're together because I can call her up 20 minutes until the start of a movie and say, "are you up for a movie right now?" and she'll say yes and drive to the theatres! Or conversely, she'll suddenly say she needs to visit her family and watch her younger siblings and I'll say ok! There's no ill intent, so I don't view it as a spot on someone's character, I just roll with it and continue the value the person as I can! I know, I know, for some people it's hard to not take things personally, but that's the specialty of an airy person - to let things roll off their back and just keep flowing.
very well put
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charlie Knowflake Posts: 1329 From: los angeles, ca, USA Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 03:49 PM
Funny..my prog moon is in Aqua so....I guess I contradicted my own statement lolIP: Logged |
Liliya Knowflake Posts: 480 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 03:52 PM
quote: Originally posted by charlie: Funny..my prog moon is in Aqua so....I guess I contradicted my own statement lol
hahahaaa ps. missing doctor appointments is not good! IP: Logged |
summerlite Knowflake Posts: 495 From: Registered: Nov 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 03:58 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Another had their Moon in Aquarius(unaspected) and she was simply unrelatable to me. What I mean is, she was very aloof and disengaged in conversation; would interrupt when you are making a point, change the subject just when you're invested emotionally in it or simply walk away to talk to someone else when in the middle of a conversation. I stopped talking to her . I just couldn't take the way she treated our interactions anymore.
lol i know someone with Aquarius moon that sounds exactly like your friend. IP: Logged |
theunknown Knowflake Posts: 474 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 05, 2013 05:30 PM
depends on placement. My Moon square Uranus but everything else in my chart are just boring fixed energy, or straight, plain cappy. So no, I am not unreliable. There is a Aries guy with Aqua moon I know. And he thinks standing someone up is "emotional spontaneity." I know 2 flaky Libra with Aqua moon, but they are also Libras so I don't know which energy explains their behaviors. IP: Logged |
MorpHnStorM Knowflake Posts: 52 From: Registered: Oct 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 11:41 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: A question.Are lunar Aquarians, Moon-Uranus sqaure/opposition and conjunction people generally unreliable? I guess what I mean is, is there always something that comes up with them when they set a date and have to cancel? Do they dislike making plans to meet up or when the date finally arrives for a commitment they've made, find it difficult to honour it?
No. I have a mutable Moon square Uranus... As far as commitment goes; while I do have commitment issues (the last few years anyway, didn't used to be that way), and am rather spontaneous/random, once I make a commitment, I stick to it...
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MorpHnStorM Knowflake Posts: 52 From: Registered: Oct 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 11:54 PM
quote: Originally posted by theunknown:
There is a Aries guy with Aqua moon I know. And he thinks standing someone up is "emotional spontaneity."
LoL, I'm sorry, but this killed me right here! smh...Leave it to an Aries to explain it that way... IP: Logged |
theunknown Knowflake Posts: 474 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 06, 2013 12:00 AM
quote: Originally posted by MorpHnStorM: LoL, I'm sorry, but this killed me right here! smh...Leave it to an Aries to explain it that way...
My moon square Uranus agrees with you. I asked him if we should date so that I can stand him up so that he can enjoy all the emotional spontaneity. I hate ppl standing me up and I'm OCD about being on top of one's schedule! Must be my Tau Asc speaking. But moon square uranus only goes so far as I appreciate spontaneity in daily activities, not as an excuse to be irresponsible! IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 172 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 06, 2013 12:23 AM
quote: Originally posted by somethingexcellent: To write a longer response...me and my Libra friend are like this! We're very whimsical and free-flowing! If we cancel or suddenly make plans, then just go with the flow! It's just how airy people are.Don't take it personally, it's just what's available to us at that moment. We don't mean any harm! For example, I often suddenly cancel or stand up people, she will quit plans because she has something more important that needs doing, I will suddenly push for something at the last minute, she'll tag along without much warning... It's good when we're together because I can call her up 20 minutes until the start of a movie and say, "are you up for a movie right now?" and she'll say yes and drive to the theatres! Or conversely, she'll suddenly say she needs to visit her family and watch her younger siblings and I'll say ok! There's no ill intent, so I don't view it as a spot on someone's character, I just roll with it and continue the value the person as I can! I know, I know, for some people it's hard to not take things personally, but that's the specialty of an airy person - to let things roll off their back and just keep flowing.
In Vedic astrology, I have some airy positions(Moon,Venus,Saturn,Pluto). But I guess its the trine of Saturn/Moon and Saturn /Venus that makes me unable to just "go with the flow". I love spontaenity as much as the next person. I'm all for fun. But when it comes to appointments of a more serious/sober nature, I expect an affort to be made to honour them. You can cancel them on that day-hours before any finalizations of any plans. But you can't do that 5 minutes before that event??That's not fair. A colleague of mine(Aries) was talking of how his fiance changed her mind about marrying him. The date had been set, the invitations were sent, the ring/wedding dress and all accompanying accessories were bought and then, the day before the wedding, she takes him on the side and says "I don't think that this is such a good idea". ?? He was obviously very angry about the whole thing; the expenses, the time invested, the retracting of all the invitations etc.
I asked him if she is an Aquarian and he said "Her birthday is 15th of February, I'm not sure". And sure enough, it is Sun in Aquarius in both Vedic as well as Western astrology. There are too many co-incidences with this placement to just rule it off. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 172 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 06, 2013 12:26 AM
quote: Originally posted by micromermaid: Do you have lots of earth influence in your chart by any chance? The behavior I described here does seem flighty and very Gemini-esque, but really most of the Aquarians I know (myself included) take their responsibilities very seriously. I think we just have different expectations about what constitutes a responsibility. I may earnestly make a suggestion, not a promise, and have no intention of being deceptive. You may take this as a commitment, as a solid plan, and then be disappointed when I don't follow through with what you understood to be a promise. There is a communication gap here, and if you value the Aquarians in your life and want to stop being disappointed by them, you should talk to them about it and try to adjust your expectations.
I have Mercury in Capricorn(the only "earth" placement) on my birth chart. I think it could be my Western Moon in Cnacer that is very emotional about it. But as soon as I intellectualize it, it makes sense and then I feel better because it goes away; The angry feeling that is. IP: Logged |
AnastasiyaEnchanted Knowflake Posts: 156 From: Canada Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 06, 2013 06:27 AM
I have an Aquarius moon and I find that I do have a hard time of committing to people. I am not saying I cant commit because I certainly have done that, its just that I tend to get bored of people easily and don't like it when someone is too clingy insisting that they always see me. It just pushes me away. But ironically, *I* have a tendency to obsess over people and things I like. It must be my pluto conjunct sun and mercury. So basically, I have an obsessive personality over things but only as long as it is me who is obsessing and not the other person. If I find the other person feeling the same way, I start to slowly distance myself. IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 1283 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted December 06, 2013 07:01 AM
I have moon square Uranus and I do suddenly make/cancel/change plans quite often. Thing is my mood is affected by external factors, it fluctuates throughout the day. I want to do things when I "feel" up to it. I get distracted a lot too. Sometimes other more exciting things come along and capture my attention.Some of my friends get annoyed at me cancelling stuff at the last minute. I guess that to them, a "promise" to meet/hang out, etc... is set in stones, whereas to me, it isn't that important so I change it freely. I'm an earth-dominant though, so yes it is also a *tiny* bit personal - I don't tend to behave like this when it comes to people who are important to me. IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent Knowflake Posts: 4122 From: vodka fine, I'm so divine Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 06, 2013 07:13 AM
quote: But I guess its the trine of Saturn/Moon and Saturn /Venus that makes me unable to just "go with the flow".
@Aries23; I have Saturn/Venus trine as well! And in Vedic, I'm even MORE airy since all of my Scorpio planets become Libra while remaining in H3. It's just a difference of values, I guess. I don't care much about integrity or honour, while others are all about integrity and honour. Shrug! IP: Logged |
Pure Knowflake Posts: 220 From: UK Registered: Apr 2012
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posted December 06, 2013 06:32 PM
I have Moon in Aquarius conjunct Uranus and I'm the most unreliable person. I don't tolerate that trait in other people but I always feel that others should give me second (third, fourth, fifth, sixth etc) chance.I cancel (or just don't turn up to) plans and appointments for three reasons and three reasons only. Either, I'm not in the mood, I feel lazy and can't be bothered or I've found something more interesting for me to do. When I make the plan or appointment I sincerely believe that I will turn up to it. IP: Logged | |