posted December 21, 2013 10:18 PM            

Interestingly, in our composite, the only aspect Venus makes is a square to Neptune. This is extra significant since my ruler is Venus. I don't know who his ruler is bc I don't have a birth time, so the composite ASC is off and the Moon is very questionable.

Astro.com:

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The square of composite Venus and Neptune requires that the two of you be quite wary about the true nature of this relationship. If you are not careful and unless you evaluate yourselves thoroughly, you could experience great disappointment. With this particular Venus-Neptune aspect, you may believe that you have met the ideal of your life, especially in a romantic sense. The love of your life is here!
Neptune is the planet both of illusion and the ideal, and under its influence you are likely to find it very difficult to tell which is which. You must ascertain whether each of you is for real; that is, are you relating to each other or to some idealized fantasy? Is the spiritual element that you see in each other and in your relationship real or not?
You must examine this situation very closely, for you cannot afford to live in a fool's paradise. Your relationship may be either very good or very unreal, and you must find out which it is.

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Cafe Astrology is a little more forgiving:

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This relationship can begin with a lot of hope and shared fantasies, but there is a time when realities set in and you might realize that a lot of what you've been projecting to your partner and believing about your partner is not based on reality. One or both of you might feel pressure to live up to the other's fantasies or high opinion, or you might be trying to prove your relationship to disapproving or cynical outsiders. While you might feel that you intuitively understand one another, and that you don't need to define your connection or your boundaries, it is more than likely that you don't truly know what it is your partner wants or expects of this relationship. Misunderstandings can lead to major disappointments, so it is critical that you allow one another to feel comfortable enough to express your more human needs and wants from each other. Fear of hurting one another with the truth can be strong, but eventually you will discover that lies hurt more than the truth. Hypersensitivity and treating one another with kid gloves are possible themes as you strive towards a spiritual or unconditional love, but it is vital that you ground yourselves from time to time, or this relationship might be confused and unclear.

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I guess I'm worried that if I keep seeing this guy, he's going to devastate me in some way!!! AARRGGHHH!!!

I guess this is why you probably shouldn't sneak around peeking at people's astrological charts prematurely, lol.

Any experiences with this aspect in the composite? Thoughts?

FYI, the synastry is rather ho-hum. However, his Aries Moon is certainly in my 7th (cannot be conjunct the DC though, earliest placing on that day is 16 Aries... my DC is 7 Aries) and I have no idea about his ASC. It's likely his Moon is opposed my Pluto (19 Libra), which would also make it trine my Venus/Neptune conjunction at 19 Sag.

posted December 22, 2013 10:28 AM            

Just make sure you both want the same thing, really. It comes down to expectations.

posted December 22, 2013 06:32 PM            

Interesting what you guys say, bc we ARE in a weird position... like, he's someone I only just ever met and never, ever heard of... but we know a lot of the same people from waaaaaaaay back... and physically... we really, really suit each other. It feels like someone I've known forever, but I haven't??? He's just like people I've known my whole life, but I met him last week!

Other than that, he got out of a 5 year relationship LAST MONTH... so, while he urge to hang out every day is there, I know he's pulling back and is not ready. But he pursued me.

He also has a 6 year old daughter he has custody of and his own business... he's unapologetically devoted to her (as he should be!!!) and told me due to employee problems, he has to work 2 weeks straight. I thought maybe he's just creating space or seeing someone else... but he went into this longwinded, detailed explanation about exactly what the prolem is and why he has to work and I was like "OK, I believe you" (hehe, babybull!).

posted December 23, 2013 01:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Venus De Milo:
Hey, thanks for your replies!

Interesting what you guys say, bc we ARE in a weird position... like, he's someone I only just ever met and never, ever heard of... but we know a lot of the same people from waaaaaaaay back... and physically... we really, really suit each other. It feels like someone I've known forever, but I haven't??? He's just like people I've known my whole life, but I met him last week!

Other than that, he got out of a 5 year relationship LAST MONTH... so, while he urge to hang out every day is there, I know he's pulling back and is not ready. But he pursued me.

He also has a 6 year old daughter he has custody of and his own business... he's unapologetically devoted to her (as he should be!!!) and told me due to employee problems, he has to work 2 weeks straight. I thought maybe he's just creating space or seeing someone else... but he went into this longwinded, detailed explanation about exactly what the prolem is and why he has to work and I was like "OK, I believe you" (hehe, babybull!).

I guess we'll just see and I suppose its not doomed, haha.

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Perfect example of venus sq neptune in action: Tonight I took my own advice and asked my guy where we are right now and where he'd like things to go with us. Due to some distance (not much, but still annoying nonetheless) we can not be together as often as we'd like. So I can't use ACTIONS to determine if he is legit or not with his feelings. He simply said he wants more of me, but can't do much right now because of distance, but we well have a more in depth conversation when we see each other..(this was thru text) then I said "ok so are we boyfriend and girlfriend" He says "yes didn't we already say that? I don't remind you or anything" then added "but I call you sweetheart!" lol. I was like oh crap..I didn't even realize we were "official"

I notice with this placement there are usually no boundaries or defined lines..here I was thinking he was just saying I'm his and all this sweet stuff just to be nice because he liked me..but he's been thinking the entire time we're a couple (which we are, but I never got the memo apparently)like I honestly didn't realize we were "boyfriend and girlfriend" I was looking for some official declaration.

posted December 24, 2013 11:46 AM            

I sometimes worry he's lying to me about certain things, but when I'm rational/logical about it, he probably isn't because everything else has checked out exactly the way he says. It's just that there are certain questions I don't think or want to ask and he doesn't think or want to volunteer in the absence of a question. In other words, I don't think there's deliberate deception going on (I bristle at that word), but I can certainly see where that might be the unconscious result for both of us.

posted January 01, 2014 05:45 AM            

My dude had to work 2 weeks straight & went camping with his (male) friend, and both their kids (dude has 1 daughter) over NYE. FB confirms this, lol.

He did wish me a Merry Christmas, and now I'm trying not to feel annoyed because I wished him a happy new year and he hasn't responded. That's so rude!!!