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Topic: Settling down vs freedom
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NeptunianSag
Knowflake Posts: 376
From: Your imagination
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 25, 2013 05:45 PM
  
Does anyone else have this problem? Can't decide wether to settle down because my 4th house Saturn says this, or to venture into the mysterious world (mutable moon, sun and merc) mars in 9th, Jupiter in 12th. Sag north node. The only way I'll settle is if I find my dream man, I don't settle for the norm, although my Saturn is afraid of being alone. IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 4035
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 25, 2013 05:54 PM
I'll tell you a secret - settling down is not obligatory. You're welcome  ------------------
I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 7839
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 25, 2013 06:05 PM
Not reallyyyyy, but even if do find your ideal man you may still feel the same way op?
Btw its really the 7th house not the 4th?When you settle down you need space right because you see them all the time.
NO I don't want that I want the constant feelings of butterflies in my stomach like I'm 16 and have no idea what to do. I live for that not partnerships...
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NeptunianSag
Knowflake Posts: 376
From: Your imagination
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 25, 2013 06:10 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Not reallyyyyy, but even if do find your ideal man you may still feel the same way op?
Btw its really the 7th house not the 4th?When you settle down you need space right because you see them all the time.
NO I don't want that I want the constant feelings of butterflies in my stomach like I'm 16 and have no idea what to do. I live for that not partnerships...
Yes, same here, but at times I feel so damn scared of the world that I just want to retreat and want somewhere to call my home. But I know if that's the case I'll get bored of that person/routine. My life is abit out of the ordinary. I guess my contradictory Venus in Aquarius and mars in cancer is just confusing me. I want freedom, but at the same time security.
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 7839
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 25, 2013 06:11 PM
Hmmm get a dog or cat?They are nice to retreat to.
but humans?
Humans aren't pets, they don't love you unconditionally. IP: Logged |
NeptunianSag
Knowflake Posts: 376
From: Your imagination
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 25, 2013 06:14 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Hmmm get a dog or cat?They are nice to retreat to.
but humans?
Humans aren't pets, they don't love you unconditionally.
I'll be destined to be a crazy cat woman. Humans drive me crazy.
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bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 62
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 25, 2013 06:50 PM
Yes. I just need the right man that can make me settle down haha. Because I'll only ever settle down for something real, intense and true.IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 4035
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 25, 2013 06:59 PM
I'm going to settle down with 5 dogs.IP: Logged |
Odette
Knowflake Posts: 3109
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Registered: May 2012
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posted December 25, 2013 07:01 PM
If a relationship didn't feel like freedom.. I wouldn't be in it.And who says you have to live in the same home?
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 7839
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 25, 2013 07:25 PM
I don't like dogs....I want like 13 black cats with green eyes so I can creep out people... IP: Logged |
IMoppedtheFloor
Knowflake Posts: 106
From: USA
Registered: Dec 2013
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posted December 25, 2013 07:48 PM
Travel and live first then settle down.Or find a dude that wants to travel too and make a life with him. It's weird to me that it didn't occur to anyone that you don't have to pick one or the other and can have both. IP: Logged |
next to neptune
Knowflake Posts: 671
From: Mercury
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 25, 2013 08:04 PM
freedom is the key to my heart, but I need to feel secure too…I need to trust to give freedom, and be trusted so I can feel free…I don't know if freedom and trust can go hand in hand but if it can, I know I can settle down someday and have a family! I just wish I didn't had that awful mars in 4th house, it kill all my dreams of family…and lilith in libra, so partnership is the same - unfruitful in long termIP: Logged |
amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 2538
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Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 25, 2013 08:21 PM
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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
Does anyone else have this problem? Can't decide wether to settle down because my 4th house Saturn says this, or to venture into the mysterious world (mutable moon, sun and merc) mars in 9th, Jupiter in 12th. Sag north node. The only way I'll settle is if I find my dream man, I don't settle for the norm, although my Saturn is afraid of being alone.
You have similar aspects to me and I did settle and If I can turn the clock back in time I would not move in and just commit without moving in. So you can commit to someone and see each other a lot regularly as things get more serious but just NEVER actually move in together, I think you will be happier with this arrangement. Hope this helps a bit . IP: Logged |
amelia28
Knowflake Posts: 2538
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Registered: Aug 2011
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posted December 25, 2013 08:25 PM
I have sun, moon, mercury, ascendent, jupiter and uranus in mutable signs and northnode in Sagittarius in the first house so I feel you.IP: Logged |
NeptunianSag
Knowflake Posts: 376
From: Your imagination
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 26, 2013 12:55 AM
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
freedom is the key to my heart, but I need to feel secure too…I need to trust to give freedom, and be trusted so I can feel free…I don't know if freedom and trust can go hand in hand but if it can, I know I can settle down someday and have a family! I just wish I didn't had that awful mars in 4th house, it kill all my dreams of family…and lilith in libra, so partnership is the same - unfruitful in long term
This is interesting, I have a Pisces Lilith and love feels like movie romance dreamy to me, then I get disappointed or hurt in someway. I'm still waiting for that guy who can mix fantasy and reality together instead of just fantasy with deception. Love has to feel magical in someway.
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