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posted January 04, 2014 08:34 PM            

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Have you ever fallen in love with a synastry chart that is loaded with many fine-looking aspects (like his Eros/Venus/Mars/Uranus all conjunct my Sun/Mars) with no critical detrimental aspects, but as time went on, discovered there was a major incongruency between the chart and the relationship?

When I look at his natal chart, I see his Moon in Virgo, which I can appreciate is not a comfortable position for the Moon, however my Moon is in Taurus, so it's workable. I wonder if a strong flow of positive aspects throws it off balance.

I guess I idealized a chart or need to be patient and trust. Or perhaps I ought to re-phrase the question to: did you ever start off not liking each other and then the relationship eventually lived up to the chart indicators?

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posted January 04, 2014 09:28 PM            

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Your questions seem contradicting...

I'd like to say one thing though: synastry & composite charts may look great, but you have to take the natal chart into account as well - see how the person is naturally inclined, what kind of needs/issues they have, and their natural reactions to situations.

I think most charts play out the way the aspects and placements suggest... but some people talking about transcending the charts; so who knows. Nothing is set in stone, I guess.

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posted January 05, 2014 01:29 AM            

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Hi Doux Rêve, you're right that my questions are contradictory - I guess I'm trying to talk myself out of giving up entirely and into having faith that things will unfold to their potential.

Touché again on the natal chart - he doesn't seem to be as at ease emotionally as I am, and I chalk it up to his Moon placement. Our synastry and composite charts are simply lovely ... but as always, those charts tend to manifest over time. I feel as though we're in danger of being blown apart before we've even gotten to deeply know each other, hence my wishfulness and dismay.

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posted January 05, 2014 04:46 AM            

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For me the composite chart is the real deal.

My boyfriend and I have so so synastry but the composite is the bomb diggity cuz it's basically all those synastry aspects being placed on a stage to act themselves out and it becomes a play. If that makes sense

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posted January 05, 2014 01:22 PM            

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Synastry shows how you might perceive each other, and the compatibility for better or worse (for example, synastry between abuser and victim showing great compatibility probably means more effective abuse).

Composite is what can show how the relationship will turn out, thought one needs to check aspects to/between midpoints as it can be relevant and showing what was not so obvious at first.

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posted January 05, 2014 01:33 PM            

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Hello edinburghrose! Welcome to LL

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posted January 05, 2014 05:16 PM            

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Thanks for the warm welcome Lalalinda! I've been meaning to join this forum for some time as I don't have a lot of friends in my circle who study astrology. I've been at it since 1998 and am always learning something new.

@Goatcat: Thanks for sharing your experience with synastry and composite play outs. It's promising to get first-hand testimony that positive results can be achieved despite two differing charts.

@AriesLilith: That gives me hope. Our composite chart has no difficult aspects either and Saturn and Venus are conjunct with Venus a degree over the DC and Saturn two degrees below. (And he's 13 years older than I am.)

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