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Topic: should i go for it with my aquarius ex?
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confused_libra Knowflake Posts: 79 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 06:14 PM
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incognito Knowflake Posts: 113 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 06:32 PM
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confused_libra Knowflake Posts: 79 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 06:41 PM
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confused_libra Knowflake Posts: 79 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 07:16 PM
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incognito Knowflake Posts: 113 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 07:44 PM
im a libra too and I have always had a thing for aquas...they know how to hook u in. Im a bit older than you but the last person i went out with was one and he moved on very quickly too which annoyed me... also they like playing mind games. It really depends on ur chart tho check your synastry and composite on astro.com that might help to see if u are compatible. IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy Knowflake Posts: 4114 From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron) Registered: Nov 2012
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posted January 06, 2014 07:47 PM
Huh? He started dating someone while still being with you? Get some self-respect and dump his ass for good. If you broke up and then it happened then I don't understand why you made a fuss. You had no right to. And you should finally move on. Btw, this sounds like a teenage drama. Time to activate your grey cells.------------------ I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
Gracha Knowflake Posts: 86 From: NY USA Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:00 PM
He can hook up with you but say we live too far apart right. Seems he's using you for convenience. Don't look at things from an astrology view, take what hes saying to you and most importantly watch his actions. Men compartmentalize things, women are too emotional and tend to look at future possibilities too much. If he feels you're too far apart to start a relationship back up then thats the category he's placed you in his life. I wouldn't expect too much more than a hookup , i know its hard. You have to protect your heart. IP: Logged |
Gracha Knowflake Posts: 86 From: NY USA Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:05 PM
quote: Originally posted by I'm so cappy: Huh? He started dating someone while still being with you? Get some self-respect and dump his ass for good. If you broke up and then it happened then I don't understand why you made a fuss. You had no right to. And you should finally move on. Btw, this sounds like a teenage drama. Time to activate your grey cells.
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confused_libra Knowflake Posts: 79 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:05 PM
quote: Originally posted by Gracha: He can hook up with you but say we live too far apart right. Seems he's using you for convenience. Don't look at things from an astrology view, take what hes saying to you and most importantly watch his actions. Men compartmentalize things, women are too emotional and tend to look at future possibilities too much. If he feels you're too far apart to start a relationship back up then thats the category he's placed you in his life. I wouldn't expect too much more than a hookup , i know its hard. You have to protect your heart.
I see what you're saying. I know you have good points. I have watched his actions for the past few months and I do think he is interested in me. He puts in all the effort to this friendship, I put in none. He initiates everything. We did hook up the last time I saw him, but before that we didn't do anything sexual since becoming friends again last June. So I don't know about the convenience part. Not to mention, it is anything but convenient. Just going to hang out with him takes effort because even when we're both home from college, it's an hour drive between our family's houses.
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confused_libra Knowflake Posts: 79 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:09 PM
quote: Originally posted by I'm so cappy: Huh? He started dating someone while still being with you? Get some self-respect and dump his ass for good. If you broke up and then it happened then I don't understand why you made a fuss. You had no right to. And you should finally move on. Btw, this sounds like a teenage drama. Time to activate your grey cells.
you also have some good points. I do have self-respect, trust me! Yea, we were not together exclusively when he started seeing someone else. But, he had just visited me at my college a few weeks before he started dating her. And when he visited me he acted all lovey-dovey or whatever with me. That's why I was ****** . I know he didn't cheat on me but I still felt slightly duped. Also, I did move on after that. Completely. But he came back six months later and since then my head has been in a whirlwind of questions. I know I sound weak though. It's all just very confusing to me. IP: Logged |
Gracha Knowflake Posts: 86 From: NY USA Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:14 PM
quote: Originally posted by confused_libra: I see what you're saying. I know you have good points. I have watched his actions for the past few months and I do think he is interested in me. He puts in all the effort to this friendship, I put in none. He initiates everything. We did hook up the last time I saw him, but before that we didn't do anything sexual since becoming friends again last June. So I don't know about the convenience part. Not to mention, it is anything but convenient. Just going to hang out with him takes effort because even when we're both home from college, it's an hour drive between our family's houses.
Hm, seems you're making excuses for him or hoping he'll come around this time. But you said he told you he's confused. When a man says this, he doesnt want a relationship with you. I've seen it happen every time but some men are different. Something is stopping him from getting back together with you. Maybe, he missed being just your friend since you two have a long history. Only he knows the real reason. Have you asked him? What type of relationship do you want with thisd guy? IP: Logged |
confused_libra Knowflake Posts: 79 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:23 PM
quote: Originally posted by Gracha: Hm, seems you're making excuses for him or hoping he'll come around this time. But you said he told you he's confused. When a man says this, he doesnt want a relationship with you. I've seen it happen every time but some men are different. Something is stopping him from getting back together with you. Maybe, he missed being just your friend since you two have a long history. Only he knows the real reason. Have you asked him? What type of relationship do you want with thisd guy?
On one hand, you're right it sounds like a cop-out. He said when he thinks about our relationship it's really complicated and confusing in his head. This was not a conversation where I was asking him if we could be in a relationship. I have not asked that of him at all because I don't know if I'd want one with him... especially right now. It was a conversation that happened last summer because he started kissing me and i stopped him and asked why he would do that when he knows what happened last time. he said he is very attracted to me and loves hanging out with me. anyway... during this conversation i pryed him more. i told him this was his one chance to be honest with me and tell me what's really going on because it's just so crazy between us. and he said that he thinks it's because of how i treated him back in high school. keep in mind, i'm not the one who brought that up. he did. i was pretty mean to him back in high school when he asked me out - i basically lied to him thinking it was better than outright rejecting him. i think this might've shaped the way he views me, i know how silly that sounds. but, since we have been friends again for the past few years i have never given him a reason not to trust me. sorry i'm just trying to work this out in my head, it's very confusing. thanks for listening and offering your time and advice though, i really appreciate it. IP: Logged |
summerlite Knowflake Posts: 531 From: Registered: Nov 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:23 PM
i can tell you what aquarians do but it's pointless here. Before that, you need to get a grip of yourself. You probably want to get back with him, you are looking for answers here to support your decision.IP: Logged |
incognito Knowflake Posts: 113 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:26 PM
I agree, astrology aside, he's not making much effort by telling you he's confused. A guy who is into you shouldn't 'feel confused' about you. If he feels that way now, its not going to get any better... I would put my energy elsewhere. Don't chase.
quote: Originally posted by Gracha: Hm, seems you're making excuses for him or hoping he'll come around this time. But you said he told you he's confused. When a man says this, he doesnt want a relationship with you. I've seen it happen every time but some men are different. Something is stopping him from getting back together with you. Maybe, he missed being just your friend since you two have a long history. Only he knows the real reason. Have you asked him? What type of relationship do you want with thisd guy?
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StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 6698 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted January 06, 2014 08:35 PM
You have got to decide what you want to do with this guy once and for all, Libra! You are acting more Libran than I normally do and that's really Libran of you!IP: Logged |
confused_libra Knowflake Posts: 79 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:35 PM
quote: Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme: You have got to decide what you want to do with this guy once and for all, Libra! You are acting Libran than I normally do and that's really Libran of you!
hahahaha i know i am! what would you do my fellow libra?? IP: Logged |
Gracha Knowflake Posts: 86 From: NY USA Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:38 PM
quote: Originally posted by confused_libra: On one hand, you're right it sounds like a cop-out. He said when he thinks about our relationship it's really complicated and confusing in his head. This was not a conversation where I was asking him if we could be in a relationship. I have not asked that of him at all because I don't know if I'd want one with him... especially right now. It was a conversation that happened last summer because he started kissing me and i stopped him and asked why he would do that when he knows what happened last time. he said he is very attracted to me and loves hanging out with me. anyway... during this conversation i pryed him more. i told him this was his one chance to be honest with me and tell me what's really going on because it's just so crazy between us. and he said that he thinks it's because of how i treated him back in high school. keep in mind, i'm not the one who brought that up. he did. i was pretty mean to him back in high school when he asked me out - i basically lied to him thinking it was better than outright rejecting him. i think this might've shaped the way he views me, i know how silly that sounds. but, since we have been friends again for the past few years i have never given him a reason not to trust me. sorry i'm just trying to work this out in my head, it's very confusing. thanks for listening and offering your time and advice though, i really appreciate it.
No problem. He either needs to accept that how you treated him is in the past or move along. You dont let him make you feel bad for what happened we all live and learn. Seems he's got a lot more learning to do for harping about something happening in high school. It seems like a bad excuse anyway to me. If you get into a real relationship with him, ask yourself if you'd want to hear how you lied etc to him in high school or blaming you whenever something major goes wrong or bailing when you really need him the most. I wouldn't want no part of that type of relationship. You're both still young and finding yourselves. I'd seriously put feelings aside and use logic. I'm sorry to say this but it probably wont get any better between the two of you. If he really wanted to have a relationship, he wouldve asked by now. Don't think you deserve this payback because of what happened in the past. Either he gets over it or move on. IP: Logged |
incognito Knowflake Posts: 113 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:46 PM
Agree. I made the same mistake in the past. Let someone hold a lie I told against me and in the end the whole relationship was based on me trying to prove myself to him. You don't want that. quote: Originally posted by Gracha: No problem. He either needs to accept that how you treated him is in the past or move along. You dont let him make you feel bad for what happened we all live and learn. Seems he's got a lot more learning to do for harping about something happening in high school. It seems like a bad excuse anyway to me. If you get into a real relationship with him, ask yourself if you'd want to hear how you lied etc to him in high school or blaming you whenever something major goes wrong or bailing when you really need him the most. I wouldn't want no part of that type of relationship. You're both still young and finding yourselves. I'd seriously put feelings aside and use logic. I'm sorry to say this but it probably wont get any better between the two of you. If he really wanted to have a relationship, he wouldve asked by now. Don't think you deserve this payback because of what happened in the past. Either he gets over it or move on.
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Gracha Knowflake Posts: 86 From: NY USA Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:49 PM
quote: Originally posted by incognito: Agree. I made the same mistake in the past. Let someone hold a lie I told against me and in the end the whole relationship was based on me trying to prove myself to him. You don't want that.
That's not fun and its abusive behavior. IP: Logged |
incognito Knowflake Posts: 113 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 08:56 PM
I learned the hard way unfortunately. I didn't see it as abuse til recently (venus neptune square sux) quote: Originally posted by Gracha: That's not fun and its abusive behavior.
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Gracha Knowflake Posts: 86 From: NY USA Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 06, 2014 09:04 PM
quote: Originally posted by incognito: I learned the hard way unfortunately. I didn't see it as abuse til recently (venus neptune square)
Im happy you realize the behavior for it truly was, abusive. Venus square neptune women can easily end up in abusive relationships. Those rose colored glasses and self sacrificing tends to be the culprit. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 6698 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted January 06, 2014 09:09 PM
quote: Originally posted by confused_libra: hahahaha i know i am! what would you do my fellow libra??
Since I am a twelfth house Libra, probably not too much unless I really liked him. I am a cautious Libra. Twelfth house Libras are so wishy-washy, cautious and hesitant, it works against us :/ IP: Logged |
confused_libra Knowflake Posts: 79 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 07, 2014 01:13 AM
quote: Originally posted by Gracha: No problem. He either needs to accept that how you treated him is in the past or move along. You dont let him make you feel bad for what happened we all live and learn. Seems he's got a lot more learning to do for harping about something happening in high school. It seems like a bad excuse anyway to me. If you get into a real relationship with him, ask yourself if you'd want to hear how you lied etc to him in high school or blaming you whenever something major goes wrong or bailing when you really need him the most. I wouldn't want no part of that type of relationship. You're both still young and finding yourselves. I'd seriously put feelings aside and use logic. I'm sorry to say this but it probably wont get any better between the two of you. If he really wanted to have a relationship, he wouldve asked by now. Don't think you deserve this payback because of what happened in the past. Either he gets over it or move on.
ugh. Thank you though. I totally agree. He has to mature and move on from how I treated him 7 years ago! I definitely don't think I deserve any sort of payback; I've told him I'm sorry on a number of different occassion; furthrmore I feel I've proved myself to be different than i was in fricken 9th grade! i was only 13! I'm now 21. I 5hnk i've changed a bit. if he can't trust me for that dumb reason, i'm done. it's so stupid. unless it's a lie then i'll be very ****** ! anyway, thanks for your advice and help i really appreciate it!
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Gracha Knowflake Posts: 86 From: NY USA Registered: Jan 2013
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posted January 07, 2014 09:45 AM
You're welcome. Know you deserve better. He shouldn't guilt trip you. Don't feel bad, love yourself and take care. Good luck with everything.IP: Logged |
confused_libra Knowflake Posts: 79 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 07, 2014 02:50 PM
quote: Originally posted by Gracha: You're welcome. Know you deserve better. He shouldn't guilt trip you. Don't feel bad, love yourself and take care. Good luck with everything.
You're right, thank you again for listening I really appreciate it! IP: Logged |