posted January 12, 2014 12:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Anisa:
I'm pretty anti-social. Plus people find it hard on getting to know me, or even approaching me. I only have 2-3 people I really trust and even then I have my doubts about them because who knows if they'll ever leave my life...but anyways, whenever I'm in a new environment I either observe and watch from afar or I just hide. I don't really have social anxiety, if that was it that would mean I actually care what other people think. No, I usually hide because I find it so hard to open up to new people. Of course when it comes to work, I have to put on a social face..that I don't mind, but when it actually comes to socializing, I'm so blunt and usually the listener. One time I was at this little kid's bday party and there was ppl my age, instead of making new friends and talking to them I just hid in the bathroom or like locked myself in a room and was on my phone, just reading astrology blogs lol. -sigh- wish I was more social, it would make things a little easier.
I have: scorp asc 7.42 deg, moon and pluto on the first house, and jupiter trine asc.

Feel free to add whatever experiences you've had w/ scorp risings as well!

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posted January 12, 2014 12:51 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
maybe you want to go into Personal Readings and post a chart? it sounds like there might be other influences than just a scorpio rising.

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posted January 12, 2014 02:27 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I know my fair share of Scorpio ASC and they like to be behind the scenes in some way or another. Some (actually all) don't like their picture being taken. They have a fascination with hair. They're hermits in their own way - like you'd never bump into them around town, ever. They're really nice people, they just see through other's BS pretty easy and it bores them / wears them out having to pretend they don't for the sake of civility.

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posted January 12, 2014 02:57 PM            

I'm very social with people close to me. I can be pretty annoying to them. But some people can't get more than a few words out of me

It just is what it is. I'm not hard to get to know but there has to be some sort of connection or time for me to open up.

posted January 12, 2014 05:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Anisa:
I'm pretty anti-social. Plus people find it hard on getting to know me, or even approaching me. I only have 2-3 people I really trust and even then I have my doubts about them because who knows if they'll ever leave my life...but anyways, whenever I'm in a new environment I either observe and watch from afar or I just hide. I don't really have social anxiety, if that was it that would mean I actually care what other people think. No, I usually hide because I find it so hard to open up to new people. Of course when it comes to work, I have to put on a social face..that I don't mind, but when it actually comes to socializing, I'm so blunt and usually the listener. One time I was at this little kid's bday party and there was ppl my age, instead of making new friends and talking to them I just hid in the bathroom or like locked myself in a room and was on my phone, just reading astrology blogs lol. -sigh- wish I was more social, it would make things a little easier.
I have: scorp asc 7.42 deg, moon and pluto on the first house, and jupiter trine asc.

Feel free to add whatever experiences you've had w/ scorp risings as well!

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I can relate to some of the things you have mentioned.

I wouldn't say I'm anti-social, but I think people are afraid to approach me or get to know me. When I look at people who I don't know very well, they usually look back and then look away. If I say something, they do respond, but they're never curious about me.

I have a few types of character which I act. If I'm at home, at work or with very close friends, I'm my real self. Passionate, talkative, eccentric and daring.

But anywhere else, and I'm usually the listener too, I just don't really know what to say to people sometimes. It must be because I find it weird asking someone questions about themselves when surrounded by people know already know that person. When it's 1 on 1, it's easier for me because the focus is on each other; but if there is more than 2 people, they just think "He's not saying anything else. End of convo" -_-

I don't mind picture taking. I used to hate it as a kid, but I don't care now; if i'm in the mood, I love it (Leo Mars, I guess)

posted January 13, 2014 04:52 AM            

I'm anti-social because I crave quality company, which is provided only by my few trusted friends.. everyone else is boring or small-minded. Most of the time I just watch people, especially when I am in an environment Im not comfortable in... I might say some words here and there but I don't reveal my talkative aquarius moon side with all zany weirdness until I know someone well..

No one approaches me, because they think im 'scary' (or so I've been told)

posted January 13, 2014 05:44 AM            

I get the feeling, that most friendships are born from shared experiences. So after finishing schooling, and or University. The potential... and probably inclination to make new friends is less.

Think about it, at no other time in your life, are you going to be surrounded by 1000+ people of a similar age to you. That you can very easily meet.

Children are far more open to talking with each other. Hell I remember the time I overheard some guys in my year talking about what they were going to do on Academic tutoring day. Basically you go in for a 10 minute session and your form tutor tells you, x,y, and z. So they were all arranging to go in early and then spend the rest of the day round one of their houses playing games etc. I thought this sounded cool, and I kinda vaguely knew them because at that point in school our entire year had been mixed together for some subjects, Maths, Science, and English. Anyway, I just walked up to them and I think... I said, "Hey do you mind if I come along?" I got a look like, 'Did he just... invite himself?' "Yeah, I guess that's okay... uhm this is my address, see you on Thursday."

To this day I'm still friends with all of them.

My point was... well how old are you Anisa? If you don't mind me asking.

I just think that it's easier when you are younger. I think as we grow older, we see more and more things about ourselves that we think other people won't like, and we're far more reserved in our older ages. 25+ or so. At least I am, I haven't quite hit 25 yet so I'll let you know when I get there.

Really the only opportunity I have currently to meet people, is through work. Which can be okay, I guess... I haven't made any friends at work though. Not people I would consider friends. I will talk to them at work, but I haven't had a desire to spend time with people outside of that.
Or shared interests, for example I play some sports. I have made friends playing badminton, and we've actually done a fair bit together. The leader of the group, if you will, the grand organiser is 29. She is one of those people that... just makes friends. If that makes sense, she hasn't given up yet. I've been to her wedding, she organised a birthday trip for our group of friends, and several other things.

I think the other thing, is that in today's society, people have forgotten how to be social.
Say you worked in retail, would you continue a conversation beyond, Hi how are you? Maybe ask them how their weekend was or something? Most people will probably look at you like, Why are you talking to me!? People have forgotten how to be friendly. So they just don't bother.

Take the intiative, start a conversation with someone, talk about something, and eventually you'll either find some common ground or you won't.

For all the world Wisdom and education we have, I think it's hilarious that 5-14 year olds can make friends in the blink of an eye when we as Adults can really struggle.

I think friendship... is partly, spending so much time with people, they pretty much give up and accept your presence. You wear them down into liking you .

I'm a Leo Asc, but I am not fond of my picture being taken.
I'm also more of a listener, I find it easier to get other people talking and for them to open up, just ask little bits about themselves. Socialising is a skill. Like any skill, it gets better with practice.

You probably should acknowledge or even have a brief exchange with those people you see out and about. You don't need to stop and chat for half an hour, you can always say, "Well I must be going I've got things to do, nice to see you though." Take small steps.