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Liliya
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posted February 03, 2014 11:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Liliya     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Please help me. I really need somebody's advice

I'm feeling so sensitive and jealous right now. I'm going through a hard time, and it's very difficult to suppress and hide my emotions. I don't know what's causing it, but I think it's transits to my Venus, which is already afflicted (Retro Venus 12th House in Virgo, square Moon, Jupiter and Uranus).

tMercury opposite nVenus/Asc (4)
tUranus quincunx nVenus/Asc (2)
tNeptune opposite nVenus/Asc (2)
tChiron opposite nVenus/Asc (5)

I'm a Leo (Sag Moon), and in a serious relationship with a Libra Man (Cancer Moon). I have no reasons to feel jealous. He's very loving, caring, respectful, and doesn't even go out without me.

The thing that really annoyed me, happened yesterday. There is a girl in our local supermarket, who obviously fancies him. I'm very observative (is that a real word?), and I have noticed, how she always looks at him, gets shy and blushes, when she serves us. He's very nice and friendly to everyone (typical Libra), including her, but she obviously took his friendly nature a bit more seriously.

Me and my bf moved to his country, where I have to learn a new language. I'm not good yet, but I understand a lot, and can communicate during simple conversations.

One day we went to our shop. My bf was his usual "hey, how are you" (it's a local shop), etc. Then she asked him with a big disapproval tone, why don't I speak the language yet, and that I "have to learn it", etc. I just ignored it, it was actually kinda funny, how she tried to put me down in front of the man she obviously fancies.

On other day, I went shopping by myself. It was the end of the week, and one of my groceries was a bottle of wine... I got the same girl, who with a disapproval tone asked me:
-Where is your bf??
-(me) at work
-Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm... (giving a dirty look at the wine bottle)

WTH? Who are you to judge me? I don't need to explain anything to anyone
Anyway, I just brushed it off. I laughed at it at home, when my bf came home, I just said something like "Your groupie didn't like me buying wine, while you are at work..."

Yesterday we were served by her again. She, as always, got very blushy, stroking her hair, flirting with him. He was just polite, nothing that would make me uncomfortable. Then she looks at me, turns back to my bf, and says: "She's so pale, you should take her to the beach". I just smiled. But what REALLY annoyed me, instead of saying something like : "I like the way she is, I think her skin is beautiful", he just started explaining himself: "Noo, I take her to the beach...".

It annoyed me so much! Not what she said. I can see, she's obviously jealous. I have a very good skin, no blemishes or spots (people often compliment me about it), while she has problematic skin. Looks, like she tried to put me down again, but it's ok, it's kinda entertaining. The fact that he didn't defend me, really annoyed me. I didn't say anything, but I was thinking all night :-/

Soooo annoying!!

Should I ignore it? Should I talk to him? I actually kinda calmed down, while typing this

And the most importantly, when the hell these transits go away? I don't like tUranus/Neptune + nVenus

Please don't quote, I'll edit it out later.

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Venusian Moon
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posted February 03, 2014 12:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Venusian Moon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would talk to him calmly about it. Then i would probably slap the **** out of her.

Im so p****d off writing this and im not even you!

I would put that girl in her place if i were u.


Try to learn how to say mind your own business in her language. Then next time she says something stupid say it to her.

******* like that need to be put in their place.

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AriesLilith
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posted February 03, 2014 02:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesLilith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, forget about transits, someone doesn't know her place! (this Aries here is ****** about this lolol)

I would talk to your bf if I were you. No need to talk to him in a too emotional way, but telling him that she doesn't seem to like you or respect you specially when he is not around, which makes you feel uncomfortable. Actually the Aries in me would even ask him right after you exit the supermarket if he is not satisfied with your skin tone and then proceed to say "eff it my skin is NICE" lol but I guess that I'm often too impulsive and honest. XP Maybe next time she comments on your skin or something, turn the focus on her and say "omg you look so <insertn some subtly critic on something of her look that doesn't sound mean but is mean between women :P>, your bf need to take better care of you, like how my bf does! <grabs bf arm cutely> my bf is such a great guy isn't it~". XP Acting jealous might not help, but subtly claiming what rightfully belongs to you in front of her, to **** her off might help lol.

But in any ways, talk to your bf calmly. He is your partner so he is supposed to be on your side and at least understand how you feel. Tell him that she might have been fancying him and misunderstood his niceness, and as a female you can sense her feeling that way and acting cuter in front of him, and then tell him how she is not respecting you. And next time that woman attacks, attack back subtly but with style. :P You're a Leo, show your claws! This Aries roots for you! (I'd be jealous and possessive too if there's a woman like that!)

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Lavender CrystalSwan
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posted February 03, 2014 04:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lavender CrystalSwan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Venusian Moon:
I would talk to him calmly about it. Then i would probably slap the **** out of her.

Im so p****d off writing this and im not even you!

I would put that girl in her place if i were u.


Try to learn how to say mind your own business in her language. Then next time she says something stupid say it to her.

******* like that need to be put in their place.


quote:
Originally posted by Venusian Moon:
I would talk to him calmly about it. Then i would probably slap the **** out of her.

Im so p****d off writing this and im not even you!

I would put that girl in her place if i were u.


Try to learn how to say mind your own business in her language. Then next time she says something stupid say it to her.

******* like that need to be put in their place.


Omg
That's perfect!

But yeah, talk to him about how you feel, be open and honest with him. I'm sure he'll understand.
And as for the girl, I would avoid her altogether if I were you.
But if that's not possible then you should be firm and stand up to her. Seriously, who is she to step in between you two and try to tear you down?
She's the one thats obviously jealous and insecure if she'd stoop that low.
Don't be fooled by her so called "confident/flirty" attitude, because really, its all fake.

Some insecure girls feed off other girls by putting them down, just because they think it makes them feel "superior" and better about themselves.
Girls that do that really have little to no REAL self worth/self esteem at all.
So rest assured, it has absolutely NOTHING to do with you, that's just their own inner insecurity shining through.
Trust me, I've had my fare share of dealing with jealous girls, I know how their psyche works lmao.
So now I just don't even let them effect me anymore.
Its really sad and unhealthy, and even somewhat amusing lol.
So don't take it too personally, she acts the way she does cause she be jellin.

Next time she tries to be funny, just smirk confidently in her presence and know that she's doing it out of her own insecurity and immaturity, and kill her with kindness.
It always works, and she'll have this confused look on her face because that's not the reaction she was expecting from you lol.
If you show her that you aren't effected by her, she wouldn't get the ego boost that she needed and eventually, leave you alone (hopefully).

However, if she does happen to cross the line and further disrespect you, then give her a piece of your mind.
And most important of all, keep your cool and be classy about it.
And if possible, have your man there with you for support.

Wishing you the best of luck hun! <3 =)

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